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30 May 2013 @ 06:27 pm
Hey all. I started using cups last month and ordered both a femmecup and a ladycup (for women who've given birth). The femmecup last month was great, no problems at all really except a couple of tiny teething issues. Used it yesterday fine but today couldn't seem to get it to pop..It inserted but was leaking, and it was def leaking and not residual.... so used the ladycup instead. First time I put it in this morning it was fine. Second time it kept popping before it was all the way in but I used kegels to get it up and it seemed ok. But I have had the most awful feeling of pressure and pain, hard to describe but sort of in a line running from hipbone to hipbone across my abdomen. I removed the cup which instantly relieved the pressure and lessened the pain but it still feels a little tender. Anybody have ideas why this may have been please?
Also, any hints for popping the femmecup? I could get it to pop last month and yesterday by running my finger around the rim but nothing doing the second time. In all honesty I was in a rush so didn't have much time to try and adjust it so it could have been a one off, but any hints in case it wasn't? and really, what was the pressure thing?! I'm feeling a little violated in my lady areas to tell the truth!!
Thanks :)
 
elle2013elle2013 on May 30th, 2013 07:18 pm (UTC)
The pain you described with your Ladycup is how I feel when something bumps my cervix. Is it possible you got it smushed up next to your cervix or behind it, instead of around it? It's also a pretty wide cup, so you might need one with a smaller diameter.

Mine also tends to pop open as soon as it's in due to the stiff rim (which is one thing I really love about it). What fold do you use? I always do a half diamond, facing down. It pops open as soon as it's inside, but I give it a shove and kegel it up a bit and it's good to go.

Good luck!
lallibear on May 30th, 2013 07:48 pm (UTC)
it could be that, I did kind of shove it in and hope for the best to be fair....haha. I've never had that pain with the femmecup and in comparison the ladycup seems huge! It is definitely easier to pop though which is one thing I struggle with with the femmecup, but I don't like it opening so early. I think I need to experiment some more :)
I appreciate your reply, thank you!
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 31st, 2013 08:10 am (UTC)
Many people find it's actually best to let the cup pop open as soon as the whole rim is in or just beyond your pubic bone, so a. it pops open easier, because cups need air/room to pop open and sometimes being shoved far in doesn't help with that. b. you already know it's open before you let go c. it doesn't end up smushed all folded next to your cervix in a corner but opens underneath so it can settle (o) around it..
teacupcake89 on May 30th, 2013 07:50 pm (UTC)
the Ladycup's rim is known to be quite stiff, which is probably what's causing the pressure, unless you think the cup was too close to your cervix.

because the airholes on the large Ladycup are low down, it doesn't hold much more than your Femmecup (which also has low airholes)

For getting (any) cup to pop open:

try running it under cold water to make it temporarily firmer and therefore more likely to open up quicker.

do some squats, kegels, wiggly bum dance to get the cup into position and help it open up.

wiggle the cup around, press bits in and out if you can feel the parts that are still folded.

once the cup is in, you need to let air into the cup for it to open up. press one side of your vaginal wall away from the cup with your hand for 10-20 seconds to create an air channel.

if you're not doing so already, some water based lube like KY or coconut nut oil can help prevent against feeling sore, and coconut oil is great for soothing/healing.

some folds pop open easier than others so try different ones. Here's a link to an FAQ post on getting cups to pop open: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2618390.html#comments

Edited at 2013-05-30 07:51 pm (UTC)