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julieelizamary
Hey, y'all!

I'm new to the menstrual cup world, but after doing quite a bit of reading I decided (rather eagerly) that I wanted to give them a go. I have always had messy, heavy cycles that cause a lot of grief, yet I've always just buckled down and dealt with it accordingly. At some point in the past month or so I just had enough. I use super plus, super, and regular tampons throughout the duration of my period, though regular is usually used in the last day or two. Maybe the last three days if I'm lucky. I always have to double up with pads and find tampons to be incredibly drying and leaky, though I have found a brand that is more reliable than most for me, so it's not as bad as it once was.

That all said, I am 20, nearly 21, a virgin, and I got the smaller, Model 1 Divacup. It arrived today, and since I've always been rubbish at sticking things up my vagina -- seriously, I am the most lazy tampon inserter ever -- I figured I'd have a dry run. It took a while to figure out how to get it inserted without wanting to ragequit, but I got it. All was well. I liked the feel, I can't feel it at all, and the stem doesn't bother me. The real trouble started when I tried to get it out. The first few tries, I just couldn't. It was angled to one side and the tip was stubbornly stuck behind my pubic bone. There was some mild panic, but akin to the times when a tampon has simply gone too high up, and the string with it, so I calmed down and tried bearing down. Happily, it came lower and I'm able to feel it without sticking half my hand up there.

Now, I'm not squeamish about my body -- I'm actually quite fascinated by it -- so I have no issues with sticking my hands up there. I'm used to walking away from an encounter in the bathroom while on my period looking as though I'm some ax murderer. Trouble is, there's not much room for two fingers, let alone a finger, thumb, and the base of my cup. So, try as I might, the best I can seem to do is run my finger along one side of the cup. It seems to be jammed up against my left side (I'm left dominant, if that matters...). I have tried the hot dog method and all that happens is to push the damn thing back further into the canal, never mind the goal of breaking the seal. I am determined to get this thing out -- I got myself into this mess, I'll get myself out kind of thing -- so if anyone has any suggestions, I'd be glad of them.

That all aside, my hope is that my cervix rides quite a bit lower when I actually have my period, and I'm hopeful that the cup will be a good fit for me. It's comfortable and such. I just really need to figure out a way that works for me in getting it out. My vag is getting irritated from the attempts and my wrist is sore. *sigh*

For your reference, some extra info: I have a mild case of cerebral palsy that affects my legs/trunk muscles, so I'm not the most flexible person ever and my balance is crappy, and I'm currently awaiting approval to go ahead with cortisone/lubricant shots in one of my knees for some rather severe muscle-related irritation and inflammation.
 
julieelizamaryjulieelizamary on May 29th, 2013 03:25 pm (UTC)
I have tried everything suggested -- sorry I didn't make that clear, I was groggy. As I said, bearing down only gets it so far, then it's literally stuck. It's sitting in my vagina somewhat odd, and I think that's part of the issue, and since I can't grab it I really can't turn it or nudge it more rightwards in order to get anything done.

I have about five hours until it's been in for 24 hours. Should I be in any particular rush? Everything I've read thus far suggests that it's not really a problem (ie toxic), just so long as it comes out eventually.

I can't even seem to coax it with a spoon, so has anyone got technique suggestions? It seems like the cup just keeps skating out of my way no matter what, and though I try, I can't use two hands.
teacupcake89 on May 29th, 2013 03:52 pm (UTC)
okay, don't worry about how long it's been in for, obviously it needs to come out at some point but try to relax as much as possible.

is there a close friend/sister/partner etc who you could call on to help get it out as a last chance option?

The reason why your cup is sitting slanted is probably because your cervix is on the side the rim is pointing towards/underneath.

if possible, try squatting as low as you can as this shortens the vagina, leaning against a wall or door if that helps with balance.

you could also try lying on your back on the bed/floor with legs in the air, or knees drawn in to chest, or at 90degrees feet flat on the bed, or out in a frog position. This way you don't need to worry about balancing yourself.

take deep calming breaths and attempt to get your fingers further inside in the middle of a death breath whilst bearing down. keep trying this until you can get a grip on the stem or base.

you must be feeling sore by now, but I would just push aside any pain and discomfort and just rummage as much as possible to get it out. At ER/the doctors they will end up using plier type instruments which I don't imagine to be very comfortable!

You could try wearing a latex/non-latex glove or even a woollen glove might help you get a grip on it?

when you do get it out: I wouldn't try it again unless you know your cervix is significantly lower on your period and look at getting a cup with a much longer stem (if you're not too traumatised by the whole experience :) I think everyone has at least one 'OMG It's stuck!!' panic removal moments in the beginning, you WILL get it out!