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julieelizamary
Hey, y'all!

I'm new to the menstrual cup world, but after doing quite a bit of reading I decided (rather eagerly) that I wanted to give them a go. I have always had messy, heavy cycles that cause a lot of grief, yet I've always just buckled down and dealt with it accordingly. At some point in the past month or so I just had enough. I use super plus, super, and regular tampons throughout the duration of my period, though regular is usually used in the last day or two. Maybe the last three days if I'm lucky. I always have to double up with pads and find tampons to be incredibly drying and leaky, though I have found a brand that is more reliable than most for me, so it's not as bad as it once was.

That all said, I am 20, nearly 21, a virgin, and I got the smaller, Model 1 Divacup. It arrived today, and since I've always been rubbish at sticking things up my vagina -- seriously, I am the most lazy tampon inserter ever -- I figured I'd have a dry run. It took a while to figure out how to get it inserted without wanting to ragequit, but I got it. All was well. I liked the feel, I can't feel it at all, and the stem doesn't bother me. The real trouble started when I tried to get it out. The first few tries, I just couldn't. It was angled to one side and the tip was stubbornly stuck behind my pubic bone. There was some mild panic, but akin to the times when a tampon has simply gone too high up, and the string with it, so I calmed down and tried bearing down. Happily, it came lower and I'm able to feel it without sticking half my hand up there.

Now, I'm not squeamish about my body -- I'm actually quite fascinated by it -- so I have no issues with sticking my hands up there. I'm used to walking away from an encounter in the bathroom while on my period looking as though I'm some ax murderer. Trouble is, there's not much room for two fingers, let alone a finger, thumb, and the base of my cup. So, try as I might, the best I can seem to do is run my finger along one side of the cup. It seems to be jammed up against my left side (I'm left dominant, if that matters...). I have tried the hot dog method and all that happens is to push the damn thing back further into the canal, never mind the goal of breaking the seal. I am determined to get this thing out -- I got myself into this mess, I'll get myself out kind of thing -- so if anyone has any suggestions, I'd be glad of them.

That all aside, my hope is that my cervix rides quite a bit lower when I actually have my period, and I'm hopeful that the cup will be a good fit for me. It's comfortable and such. I just really need to figure out a way that works for me in getting it out. My vag is getting irritated from the attempts and my wrist is sore. *sigh*

For your reference, some extra info: I have a mild case of cerebral palsy that affects my legs/trunk muscles, so I'm not the most flexible person ever and my balance is crappy, and I'm currently awaiting approval to go ahead with cortisone/lubricant shots in one of my knees for some rather severe muscle-related irritation and inflammation.
 
julieelizamaryjulieelizamary on May 29th, 2013 09:30 am (UTC)
Still no luck. :/ It got to the point where I was just so tired and frustrated that I had a good cry and went to bed. Now I'm awake three and a half hours later and wondering what to do.

I seem only to be able to get the cup to come to the point where a tiny bit of the stem is past my pubic bone, so any attempts to make a grab for it are still useless. I did manage to get ahold of the stem a few times but it was so slippery and my nails too soft that it was a moot point.
teacupcake89 on May 29th, 2013 09:41 am (UTC)
have a towel or a roll of toilet paper on hand and keep wiping your fingers on it in between attempts to make it less slippery.

If you need to do a poo: do one! As it can help move the cup lower down

If you get sore putting some lube or coconut oil on yourself can help

If you're getting tired and it's not coming out go and do something else that will help you relax and take your mind off it: a warm bath, glass of wine, an orgasm :)

Seconding the other suggestions in the comments, have any of them worked?

if you can get one finger alongside the cup, can you attempt to pull/slide it out by pressing firmly against the cup with your finger?

also try bearing down hard once you have one finger alongside/inside and then try to get the tip of another finger in there in the space under/next to the stem (from the other hand if this makes gripping easier)

Remember that the cup can't get stuck or lost, the worst that can happen is that it will overflow and it getting full will probably help bring the cup lower down anyway. If you’ve tried everything it's realllly not coming out last case scenario you could use a spoon to scoop it out! :)