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flowersofwonder
26 May 2013 @ 11:26 pm
Hi everyone! I'm relatively new to the whole menstrual cup scene, I've been using my femmecup for three months now and I'm loving it! Most of the time.

I feel like I've gotten the insertion part under control, it pops open, doesn't leak (all that much at least) and I can't feel it or anything. So that part is kind of awesome, however the removal is sort of turning in to a nightmare. I've gotten some sort of routine down but it's not a very good one and it's way too awkward. First of all it hurts a lot, I've really been working on folding it during removal but that is basically impossible, I managed one time and that took like 20 minutes. And it still hurt a lot.
And then the second part is that during my very acrobatic attempts at folding it the entire contents is basically squeezed out of the cup. It's like the rim is too firm and the cup is too soft so while I can't actually fold the rim the cup itself just flattens out (and sort of folds)and the contents ends up over my fingers or coming out after I've removed the cup. And I simply can't fit more than one finger up there, seriously, so the "hot dog in a bun" thing I've read about is very difficult.

I guess I don't have a proper question, I'm just feeling frustrated and thinking this is sort of hopeless. I'd be very grateful for any tips or tricks you might be able to share with me!
 
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 26th, 2013 10:25 pm (UTC)
Hum, I know the Femmecup is one of those cups with a firmer, thicker rim and low capacity so there's only so much advice I can give. Mainly, the point of the "hot-dog" method is to use only one finger to squash the cup flat against your vaginal wall. If it's too firm for the rim to cave that way, I would either attempt to form a punch-doww fold with your finger or drag it down flat until it's almost out and you have better access to use 2 fingers. Also remember to bear down (birth the cup!) and keep everything loose and slack so you're not adding to your pain by clenching your muscles. perhaps try other positions ? sitting on the toilet, squatting in the tub, on foot elevated, etc. And emptying a less-full cup is bound to be less messy, if that's an option. Good luck!

Edited at 2013-05-26 10:26 pm (UTC)
flowersofwonderflowersofwonder on May 28th, 2013 04:07 pm (UTC)
Thank you for your advice, I was really having a low-point. Everything is sooo much better today since I figured out that the rim is indeed capable of being smooshed much more than I previously thought, meaning that actually folding it isn't impossible! And while I still haven't gotten the whole process down yet I've managed to remove it in 30 seconds flat, which is 4,5 minutes faster than usual. And with half the pain!

Oh my god I feel like singing, this is so awesome!
ever so slightly obsessedscien on May 30th, 2013 07:44 am (UTC)
Yay! It's only going to get better :)

When we first started out this community and there were only three cups on the market, the advice was always to just keep on trying, and even if it takes six months to get things going super smoothly it's still worth it. You'll be doing it with your eyes closed and your hands tied behind your back before you know it (okay, well, maybe you need your hands :P).