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I have narrowed it down to 3 brands. Lunette, Fleurcup and Meluna. I have looked at about 3 stiffness charts and they all seem to differ a bit. I have also gotten personal reviews from friends. As well as watched and read reviews of each cup. Some think the small lunette is firmer than the small fleurcup. Others say its the other way around. I have looked on youtube as well and no one had done a stiffness video.

Of which of these is the stiffest? The softest?

Small & Large Lunette vs Small & Large Fleurcup vs Medium & Large Soft Meluna

Which one is the most comfortable for you?
jwthemathsterjwthemathster on May 22nd, 2013 05:39 pm (UTC)
Well, I have had three of those on your list. In order of softest to stiffest, I think:

Large Fleurcup--softest
Small Lunette--soft (although really close to the Large Fleur)
Large Lunette--firm (nothing at all like the Small version)

I do prefer the softest cups, definitely now that I've discovered Americans are not restricted to Diva, Lunette, and Keeper brands only. I have mild bladder sensitivity and stress incontinence, so the less pressure, the better.

Now, even with those issues, I still used my Large Lunette for many years successfully (more or less). I just had to remove it to urinate, and make a conscious effort to go often enough to not have an overly full bladder. Now that I replaced it with the Fleurcup, I would never go back to a firm cup again.
mrslevell2bmrslevell2b on May 22nd, 2013 07:25 pm (UTC)
I would have never guessed that the large fleurcup would be the softest. Thank you.
teacupcake89 on May 22nd, 2013 05:53 pm (UTC)
The Large Lunette is the stiffest, then the small Lunette, then the small Fleurcup is slightly softer than the small Lunette, and the large Fleurcup is slightly softer than the small Fleurcup.

I haven't tried the meluna softs but I'd say they're around the small to large Fleur stiffness wise.

Out of the small Lunette and both Fleurs, the large Fleur is the most comfortable for me, but we're all different :)
mrslevell2bmrslevell2b on May 22nd, 2013 07:07 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much! I will def count out the Lunettes then.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on May 22nd, 2013 06:57 pm (UTC)
You keep asking for our opinions. Are you buying cups for US? Get what you think will fit and suit ***YOU!*** ;o)
mrslevell2bmrslevell2b on May 22nd, 2013 07:06 pm (UTC)
I am asking for YOUR opinions because I have never held or felt these cups. I have no other way to get a feel for how firm or soft they are in comparison to one another. I asked about comfort to see if anyone had discomfort with firm cups for any reasons. Which really helped because a previous poster noted that she got bladder pressure. I am just on a very tight budget with all my medical needs so I am trying to find my perfect cup the first try.
jwthemathsterjwthemathster on May 22nd, 2013 07:30 pm (UTC)
Ask away! I wish I knew about this forum years ago. Otherwise I would never have wasted money on the Diva (totally wrong for my shape/length), or suffered with my Lunette for too long. I completely understand a tight budget (I'm a college student and mom/stepmom to 4 kids total=broke all the time) and the desire to make the best informed purchase possible.

It was my financial status that drew me to the Fleurcups in the first place. And, my, how glad that I only could afford those. Cheap, yet nicely made, soft and comfortable, and pretty color (I got the red, it's a kind of strawberry/pinkish red-gorgeous IMHO).

Honestly, I do think (from what I've read and experienced) that a person can fit a range of sizes. Don't sweat the small size differences or tiny stiffness variables. I think your short-list is very good, well-thought out, and makes good sense for the needs and wants you've shared. Pick the one that calls to you, and I believe you be delighted.
mrslevell2bmrslevell2b on May 22nd, 2013 08:13 pm (UTC)
Thank You Jennifer I really appreciate the insight! I think I know which one I a going with. When I do decide and get it I will post a pic and a small review. : )
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on May 22nd, 2013 07:31 pm (UTC)
Well, I've seen you list EVERY "size small" (why not larges too?) cup and then eliminate the ones that Kathy doesn't like, and Susie doesn't like, and Linda doesn't like... so you will be left with one that seems to fit the most people -- whether or not YOU are included in that remainder. And if you wind up with a cup that isn't a perfect fit (because you chose it to fit everyone except you) then you'll assume that NONE will fit you because "it fit everyone else."

This is why ice cream comes in so many different flavors. We each have our favorites.

Short and long, narrow and wide, stiff and squishy, (edited to add) pointy and blunt, rounded and conical, flared and not, frosted and slick, hollow stem and tab, few and many holes... they all have their advantages and disadvantages. Just because someone lists a disadvantage to one doesn't mean that same thing isn't an advantage to others. It's up to you, knowing what you know about your body and your preferences of what you put in it to determine what is important to YOU.

I can't say this enough... pick a cup that you think will fit/suit YOU best, not one that fits others.

Edited at 2013-05-22 07:55 pm (UTC)
mrslevell2bmrslevell2b on May 22nd, 2013 08:18 pm (UTC)
First I went with small options because I was originally getting a cup for a light to moderate flow. Then I realized that if and when my flow returns to heavy when my shot wore off I would need a new cup. I decided that was not financially a good idea. So I then opened it up to small, medium and larges. I thin narrowed it down by the amount of grip on the stems, length of the total cup as swell as the capacity of the cup. Then I wanted to weed out firm cups due to bladder issues I already have but didnt think of until another poster mentioned it. I am totally 100% going off of what I think will work best for me.
Jennifer Monoteasy2begreen on May 22nd, 2013 07:25 pm (UTC)
I have a small Lunette and a small Fleur. The Fleur is stiffer around the base and pops open more easily...however, it also feels more conspicuous when it's in due to the rounder bottom. I prefer pointy-ended cups myself. I've had a small soft Meluna that I didn't like at all because it was too soft to pop open easily.
mrslevell2bmrslevell2b on May 22nd, 2013 07:26 pm (UTC)
is your fleurcup the newer design that are softer than the original?
Jennifer Monoteasy2begreen on May 22nd, 2013 07:37 pm (UTC)
I bought it new a few months ago, so probably? I really don't think the small Fleur is a particularly soft cup. I can use it, but I always find myself reaching for another cup first (my LadyCup, usually, but sometimes my Cuplee or Lunette).
pascallewest on May 22nd, 2013 07:27 pm (UTC)
I'll chime in here again since you're talking about bladder pressure. Like I mentioned before, I have a Large Fleur, a Large Meluna Classic and an XL Meluna Classic. I DO get bladder pressure from my Large Fleur. But, it only lasts for about 30 mins-1 hour after I put it in, so I can deal with that. I do NOT get any bladder pressure with the Large Meluna Classic, probably because it's a bit smaller, but I'm not 100% sure of the reason. I'm telling you this because I'm not sure that it is the stiffness that affects bladder pressure. It could be the shape of the cup or how deep it is inside. BUT, we all have different anatomy, so every cup is a different experience for every person. Keep us updated, and let us know what you've decided on!
mrslevell2bmrslevell2b on May 22nd, 2013 08:20 pm (UTC)
Thank you! It could be the bell shape, size or firmness. I am thinking I will just have to try one brand and go from there. Fingers crossed I get it right the first go. If not I can always sell or trade it.
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 22nd, 2013 08:54 pm (UTC)
I use a large Fleurcup, a large Cuplee and a medium Meluna soft. I would say, of those you asked for, the Meluna soft is most likely the softest, only slightly "thicker" than the Cuplee. It is a different material though and behaves slightly differently : less springy, molds to your anatomy more. I felt a small Fleurcup too and I'd say it's the most springy rim I've ever felt (apart from the Mooncup UK that I squished in a shop).

I've heard small Lunette and small Fleur are very similar, but the Fleur pops open slightly harder, most likely due to its flared rim. I've never felt either size Lunette, but it seems the large is much firmer than any other you mentionned.
femininewearfemininewear on May 23rd, 2013 10:22 am (UTC)
Can I ask which 3 stiffness charts you looked at, I only know of 2?
mrslevell2bmrslevell2b on May 23rd, 2013 04:32 pm (UTC)
I did a search yesterday on google and found 1 here I think, one on a menstrual cup wordpress and one on a menstrual cup user's blog. So I am not sure which one was correct. I didnt bookmark the search or the blog post tho.
femininewearfemininewear on May 23rd, 2013 04:37 pm (UTC)
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 23rd, 2013 07:08 pm (UTC)
I generally trust Melissa's wordpress to be up to date & accurate, except for the small Fleurcup that I think is slightly firmer than the large, and some newish brands that aren't there yet. That and the sizecharts arfe all I use, sometimes the Melissa's comparison pics or other sources to compare stem length.
drawing_dwarfdrawing_dwarf on May 29th, 2013 01:59 am (UTC)
I have used both the small and large Lunettes and the small and large Fleurs.

In my opinion the small and large Fleurs are exactly the same material and stiffness, but I think the small can "act" stiffer since it's smaller. I personally found the grips on the Fleur stems to be irritating, but I could kind of ignore it. I had a bit of bladder pressure with both of them when I first used them but I got used to them pretty quickly. They're not super soft, but they definitely aren't stiff. They pop open easily but they're also easy to fold a bit when removing.

The large Lunette is quite firm although weirdly doesn't cause any bladder pressure for me. I do have a harder time taking it out though, especially in the mornings when I'm not awake and seem to be unable to grip anything. I think this is probably my favorite cup currently just because the stem doesn't bother me. The firmness of this one also makes it difficult to do any of the more intricate folds. I generally like the labia fold and actually managed it earlier today but I usually just use a punch-down with this one instead because it's easier to hold.

The small Lunette is nice and I love how flexible the stem is. For me the pointy shape meant it occasionally felt like it was trying to escape. As far as stiffness vs. the Fleurs it's kind of a tough call for me. I think the small Lunette is made of a stiffer silicone than the Fleurs but it's much thinner, so to me the small Lunette actually feels a bit more flexible and soft. Personally I prefer the small Lunette over the small fleur pretty much because of the stem.

The Fleur stems are also quite a bit thicker than the Lunette stems as well as having more pronounced girps. At least in the case of the smalls it made the Fleur stem seem much stiffer.

When comparing these have you considered if you want a particularly round-bottomed cup or something pointier? Some people don't have a preference either way. The Lunettes are a little bit pointy while the Fleurs and Melunas are more round-bottomed.

I've also got a large Si-Bell too if you want that compared to

This got way rambly and long, but I hope it helps!