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13 May 2013 @ 10:05 pm
Gosh, sorry for posting so often. I just have lots of questions and no one to ask them to, and everyone here is so understanding!

So I've been wanting to try a MoonCup but I haven't ever actually inserted something into my vagina before, and was actually kind of confused about the anatomy of 'down there'. I've never used a tampon before and have always assumed I just didn't have the right body shape for one, that there was perhaps something wrong with me. Today, however, I managed to insert one finger, in the squatting position. It didn't hurt at all, which surprised me. I got my whole finger in there (I have famously long, thin fingers) and only stopped because I reached the end of my finger. I THINK I felt a wall at the end, but I'm not sure.

I'm fifteen and a virgin. My questions are:
-Is it likely that I still have my hymen?
-Do I have a high cervix (I'm coming to the end of my period, and I thought squatting lowered it)?
-This might sounds silly, but isn't it kind of dangerous putting un-sterile objects inside our bodies? I mean, I know that's how we bring new life and all, but it seems like a fast-track way to infection (by un-sterile, I mean my finger I guess).

Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on May 13th, 2013 09:08 pm (UTC)
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Hi florrieviridis! I'm really glad you're finding the community comfortable to ask questions in, and we do want to stay welcoming. However, we do have some community rules that you should be aware of. You can read them all here, but the main one I want to point out to you is that we don't generally allow more than two posts a week. This is to make sure that everyone has a chance to post without overwhelming the community. I realise you're very nervous so I'm going to leave this up for now, but please don't make another post for a week or so. Instead, feel free to read the posts other people make (I notice there's at least one other on the front page that's probably relevant to you) and read back through the community to find out stuff that you need to know! Thanks!
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on May 13th, 2013 09:13 pm (UTC)
Now for some actual answers :)

1) Maybe you do, maybe you don't. Maybe you've got part of it. There are a lot of ways that people lose their hymens other than sexual activity, like sports. However, sometimes it doesn't rupture all the way, and some people are maybe even born without one.
2) That's a difficult question to answer. "High" and "low" cervix is kind of subjective for most people - some people have to really fish for their cervixes and for others it's almost at the entrance of their vaginal canal during their periods, but most people are in the middle. What's important is that now you can measure how long your finger is and know about how much room you've got for a cup while on your period.
3) Not at all. The vagina is a self-cleaning and very well-balanced organ, and it's an almost entirely closed system anyway. You should still wash your hands before going on any prolonged feeling-around expeditions, because it's pretty common to have fecal bacteria on your hands, and that can be bad news, and also just it'll probably make you feel better. However, vaginas don't need sterility in the least. Think about it - most men don't sanitise their penises before having sex, right? And that's totally OK.

Edited at 2013-05-13 09:15 pm (UTC)
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on May 13th, 2013 10:21 pm (UTC)
1. Yeah, most likely. A finger isn't enough to break it. Some are even stretchy enough to still be intact after having kids.

2. It's probably lowest in the beginning when your uterus is fullest and heaviest. It's possible that yours is high otherwise. I know what you're thinking... that you need a different, longer cup. Don't get one yet. Get through the dreaded learning curve with this one first. Even if it doesn't work well for you, you'll have a better idea of what you'll want for your next one. How long, what shape, what stiffness, what stem, etc. Don't rush into another cup purchase.

3. Fingers, tongues, penises, cups and other things that are inserted either for function or pleasure do not have to be sterile. Of course clean is better than not clean. But things like soap residue, hand sanitizer, baby wipes, etc can sometimes contain more irritants than "dirty" items. Taking that a step farther, you'll read a lot about boiling your cup and/or using chemical means such as sterilizing tablets or alcohol wipes, etc. Washing with just plain soap and hot water sanitizes almost as well so why go through the bother and risk accidental damage? For more info, read up on the differences between clean, disinfected, sanitized and sterilized.
teacupcake89 on May 13th, 2013 10:24 pm (UTC)
When I first got my MCUK, I (unsuccessfully) attempted to find my cervix, I stuck one of my very long fingers in, couldn't feel anything at the 'end' and concluded I mist have a really high cervix. After a couple of cycles using my MCUK (and having a few problems with capacity and stiffness) I had another look and discovered I was looking in completely the wrong place!

Just like your face isn't at the 'end' of your head, your cervix isn't at the 'end' of your vagina. Next time, move your finger slowly around, into the corners. Mine is on the front wall, in the left corner, I can reach it easily lying down, not so easily squatting or standing up.

It might feel like a polo mint, a small doughnut/bellybutton sticking out/like the end of your nose. Depending on where you are in your cycle it will feel soft/squishy/firmer, you might be able to feel an indentation in the middle where the blood comes out of.