?

Log in

No account? Create an account
Month one, I tried Diva Cup and had slippage issues and, thanks to you ladies pointing out that the inside out method helped, I realized Diva Cup may be too long for me. On top of that, I got great advice on Kegels, but I realize that is not an overnight fix! It is a work in progress. :)

I have since bought a Fleurcup. I tried out a couple "dry runs" pre-period. It fit perfectly and I had no trouble with it slipping or being uncomfortable, even wearing it for a couple of hours.

Now today, period time. It starts slipping down right away, lots of over flow, barely any caught in the cup (Diva Cup at least had that going for it) and overall just a big blood bath! I've tried putting it in farther or lower, but I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. I hear people talk about positioning the cup different ways inside, but I don't seem to have a lot of leeway once it's in there. And how would I know what to even try?

I feel very frustrated. I really want to cup to work because of all the benefits and the reasons it is better than tampons. But what else can I do?!?
 
 
Current Mood: frustratedfrustrated
 
rbca03rbca03 on May 11th, 2013 02:44 am (UTC)
I wonder if a larger diameter cup would work better for you? And are you sure that your cervix is always positioned under/inside the cup?
gingerade72 on May 11th, 2013 03:34 am (UTC)
I'm using a large fleurcup now. What sorts of cups have a larger diameter that might be more suitable? I do have a feeling it's missing my cervix, as sometimes I get more leak on one side of the cup than the other.
trejoytrejoy on May 11th, 2013 03:57 am (UTC)
Sounds like you're missing your cervix. Used to happen to me all the time. Frustrating beyond words! Have you done any exploring? My cervix (when I finally found it!) is waaay toward the left, near my tailbone. Now I direct the cup back and left, sweep around it with my index finger and good to go.
gingerade72 on May 11th, 2013 04:10 am (UTC)
I have done some exploring but haven't definitively found my cervix yet. Either it's elusive or I'm just not very good at telling things apart! Everything feels the same to me.
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 11th, 2013 04:35 pm (UTC)
Just to give you an idea (everyone is different obviously), the way that I can reach my cervix is by squattig, bearing down and inserting my longest finger towards the back. To me, it feels like a protruding (sp.?) belly button, others have compared it to a coin-sized doughnut with a slight indent in the middle, the tip of your nose. For some, it feels funny or uncomfortable to touch it. It should stand out from your vaginal walls a bit, and it's not necessarily at the very top/end of your vagina, but most likely in that general direction.

It could be that yours is so high that you can't reach it. In that case, follow kuradi8's instructions and wear a pantyliner to catch the residual slobber while your cup climbs up. There's not really a cup that's significantly larger than large Fleurcup.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on May 11th, 2013 12:25 pm (UTC)
Want to try my method?
First, find your cervix and remember approximately where it is. Insert your cup so the rim is just beyond your pubic bone and allow it to open fully there. Then nudge the base/stem (for me that's a healthy nudge rearward) so the opening points toward your cervix and finally, give the cup a boost as you kegel
it up and into place. Despite what the instructions say, you want the rim to sit (O) around your cervix. And there's no need to spin/rotate your cup because you already know it's open. But if you want to, go on ahead...

If you have trouble getting the cup to open, re-insert it with the folded part facing the other way. Up instead of down, or left instead of right (etc.) Create an air channel on the soft back side of your vagina to help the cup fill with air as it opens.

Final tip: If you don't already, drop your panties to your ankles so you can splay your knees comfortably. Keeping them up at knee height makes it hard to maneuver around down there.
gingerade72 on May 17th, 2013 12:58 pm (UTC)
I wanted to make sure you got my reply to your post that I left down below. Your method was a god send and really changed my entire experience. I thank you profusely!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on May 19th, 2013 01:59 pm (UTC)
:D YAY! I'm glad it worked. \o/
Kathlynekathlyne on May 11th, 2013 02:16 pm (UTC)
I agree with trejoy. Sounds like the cup is opening to the side of your cervix, not around it. Finding your cervix would let you know where you need to aim the cup. I suppose alternatively you could try aiming it to one side and if that doesn't work, try the other side. After insertion I always sweep/stir around the cup with a finger to make sure the cup is around my cervix. If I can feel the end of my cervix I reposition the cup and check again.
gingerade72 on May 13th, 2013 02:40 am (UTC)
Kuradi8: your method has changed my entire cup experience!!! Letting the rim pop open just inside the opening, then allowing it to Kegel into place while I gently guide it in, has worked wonders! It seems to make the cup go where it is supposed to go, as opposed to where I thought it should be. I think I was trying too hard to keep it from popping open until I pushed it in farther. Anyway, since using your method, I have had no leakage, no slippage and complete comfort!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on May 19th, 2013 01:59 pm (UTC)
WOO HOO!!!