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Anna Mary Concannon
09 May 2013 @ 03:54 pm

I'm 26 and virgin.

I recently brought 2 small and 1 medium sized meluna cup on the advice of my doctor as pads were becoming a big issue for me.

I have cerebral palsy which means I'm wheelchair bound. I've tried evry which way to get each of the cups in (bwt 2 are soft and 1 is a classic) but can not get past the point where the bottom of the cup plus the stem are sticking out.

Please help!
witherwings on May 9th, 2013 03:14 pm (UTC)
Hi, you mentioned you were wheelchair bound but I don't know full details of your range of motion and muscle tone, so I hope you don't mind this query/suggestion.

Is it possible for you to try using your vaginal muscles to pull the cup up once it's inserted to the usual point where you can get it no further? If that's not possible due to your CP, maybe making an applicator for the cup as detailed here might help, as it could give you some extra firmness to get the cup further in?

Good luck. I hope someone here is able to help you :)
jwthemathsterjwthemathster on May 9th, 2013 03:18 pm (UTC)
A couple of questions (feel free to share or not share as much as you are comfortable)--has your CP affected the tone of your pelvic muscles? Has a doctor told you that your PC muscles are particularly high tone or tense? Are you able to consciously relax them? And are you able to get yourself to a laying position, or are you pretty much sat upright in your wheelchair?

I ask since it sounds like perhaps your cups are not getting past your pelvic floor muscles. It could be a matter of your body position (if you are sitting upright during insertion) or exceedingly high muscle tone preventing the cup from going up further. I do think if either of those challenges can be overcome, the classic may give you better success than the soft (although of course, YMMV).

I applaud you and your doctor's knowledge of menstrual cups and exploring the possibility for yourself. My cousin has CP, and we never knew about menstrual alternatives until recently. She is menopausal now, and her best alternative at the time was menstrual suppression through hormonal birth control.
Anna Mary ConcannonAnna Mary Concannon on May 9th, 2013 03:50 pm (UTC)
My CP has affected the tone of my pelvic floor muscles by making them tight.

I'm very lucky to have such an understanding doctor.
jwthemathsterjwthemathster on May 9th, 2013 04:17 pm (UTC)
Yes you are lucky! All doctors should be so open and knowledgeable! That "homemade" cup applicator is a really great story of one's personal journey through cup learning and success. I never saw that before now.

Of course, telling you to "relax" is much easier said than done, for those living with CP or not. The only other advice is to perhaps explore way in which you can overcome the PC muscle tightness through personal massage (at the vaginal opening especially if your hymen is intact and internal stretching as well).
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 9th, 2013 04:29 pm (UTC)
For me, relaxing to allow the cup in is similar to gently pushing as if I was about to use the bathroom. I find sitting on the toilet and lying on my back, on a bed, knees splayed make for a relaxed insertion. I have no idea how you can accomodate those suggestions to your disability. If cups prove to difficutl to use, I can recommend cloth pads as a much more comfortable alternative, especially the softest fabric toppers : organic bamboo velour, suede cloth & cotton flannel.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on May 9th, 2013 07:40 pm (UTC)
Want to try my method?

Sit on the toilet and drop your panties to your ankles so that you can splay your knees comfortably. Insert the cup so the rim is just beyond your pubic bone and allow it to open fully there. Then give the base a nudge in the right direction to aim the opening toward your cervix (for me that's a healthy nudge rearward) and then give it a boost as you kegel it up and into position.

If you have trouble getting the cup to pop open, use your finger to create an air channel on the soft back side of your vag to get air into the cup. If it's still stubborn, take it out and re-fold it so the folded part faces the other way. Up instead of down, left instead of right, etc. Sometimes turning it around makes all the difference in the world.