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24 April 2013 @ 08:24 am
I'm getting frustrated because I've been using cups for over a year now and can't seem to find the right one for me. I started with a Diva when I knew nothing about cups and happened to see that one on sale. It was ok but seemed to slip down and feel too low. I then bought the blue Lunette and this is the closest to a goldilocks cup I have found. It works great for me with no leaks until it's full. That's the only problem. I'd like more capacity. This is the first cycle with a fleurcup and Yukki. (All cups are large and I feel as if my flow is heavy.) During the day yesterday I tried the Yukki but it seemed to leak a little. It was mostly when I wiped but I don't think it was just residual slopper because it kept coming. I then tried the fleurcup and that seemed to work great. Since it was working, I figured I would try that for overnight. After sleeping for about 4 hours I woke up to a leaking feeling. I got up to check and when I stood I felt a huge gush. Luckily I had a pad on as well because the contents of the cup basically all spilled onto the pad as I walked to the bathroom. I assumed maybe I just couldn't wear a soft cup to bed for some reason so I inserted the Yukki. Since it's one of the stiffest cups, it pops opens very easily and I know it had opened. Then another four hours later the exact same thing happened. As soon as I stood I could feel it dumping onto my pad as I got out of bed. I don't understand how this happened with both cups. I can't feel my cervix so I assume it's really high. I never had this dumping issue overnight with the Lunette. That's the closest I've been to finding the right cup for me, but I'd like more capacity. Any idea why the Yukki would leak for me both day and night, and why both new cups would dump themselves overnight? Every cup I have tried seems to fit and feel fine so that doesn't help in my decision. Length, width, and stiffness doesn't really matter since they all seem to be comfortable for me. Once they are in I don't feel them at all. How do I find the cup for me, especially for overnight?
trejoytrejoy on April 25th, 2013 04:32 am (UTC)
My only thought is did you empty and reinsert immediately before bed? I used to struggle with leaking in the early morning, but haven't since doing this.

For some of us, finding goldilocks is an expedition!
treebeegirl on April 25th, 2013 12:52 pm (UTC)
Yes, I always empty right before bed. I tried it again yesterday and it seemed a little better. I was able to barely touch my cervix and it seems like it's straight back so I've been aiming the cup horizontal and not vertical at all. It seemed to work better but I still can't get the suction and seal I get with the Lunette. I guess I will keep practicing with the Yukki at home and use the Lunette when I'm not and can't deal with leaks. Maybe the Lunette is the cup for me and I'll just have to deal with emptying more often then I'd like to.
juliiie87juliiie87 on April 25th, 2013 01:18 pm (UTC)
So... did you try the Fleurcup ? Because it's very similar in dimensions to the Lunette, only a different shape. And yeah, aiming back sounds about right to me.
treebeegirl on April 25th, 2013 02:08 pm (UTC)
I'm alternating practicing between the Yukki and Fleurcup. The one time I tried the flerucup it worked well during the day. I had the overnight issue with it but I'm not giving up on it. I'm trying it again now to see if it continues to do well during the day! I also keep trying to get a better feel of my cervix but it's hard to reach and my fingers are short.
treebeegirl on April 25th, 2013 02:40 pm (UTC)
Still not sure what I'm doing wrong. I've tried the Yukki twice and Fleurcup cup once today and both times have resulted in leaks. Seems like the outside of the cup is covered and the inside is empty. I don't understand why they aren't catching my flow.
trejoytrejoy on April 25th, 2013 05:09 pm (UTC)
Sounds like you're missing your cervix. I used to do that with frustrating regularity. Now as long as I 'sweep' around the cup as far up as i can, I haven't had that problem.
treebeegirl on April 25th, 2013 06:18 pm (UTC)
I will try to sweep around the cup and see if that helps. Do you leave it where it pops open or do you push it in as far as you can? I let mine open as soon as I have the rim in but I'm not sure if I should leave it there and let it find it's way up, or push it in as far as I can. I always trim the stems since they bother me and I've never had a problem "bearing down" to reach if needed.

I'm also wondering if I wasn't getting a good seal because my vagina was so "messy" from all the leakage. I ended up putting in a tampon to "clean" it up and dry everything a little. I'm now back to trying the Yukki and so far so good. Do you think it's possible to not get a good seal if the walls are covered in blood and everything is so slippery?
trejoytrejoy on April 25th, 2013 10:48 pm (UTC)
Unless you are certain your cup is sitting around the cervix (o) I would let it migrate. If you are sure of the position, you should be fine moving it into place. Until I discovered my cup had to point left, my results were hit and miss. Sometimes a LOT more miss. =P

The internal 'mess' can be aggravating and definitely added to my tension/uncertainty!
juliiie87juliiie87 on April 26th, 2013 11:15 am (UTC)
What could aslo happen after a leak is residual slobber : fluid sitting lower on your vaginal walls that the cup can't catch because it doesn't absorb, it only catches what comes fromt the cervix. But your vagina does not need to be dry to create a seal, that's for sure. In fact vaginas are never really dry, they're not meant to be. It could be that you need to push it a little higher, ideally around your cervix but since you don't know where that is... avoid squishing the cup passed it on one side !
Bean: meihatepickles on April 25th, 2013 11:14 pm (UTC)
Are you using the larger or smaller size of Fleurcup? My leaking issues have mostly been resolved by using their large, which is wider than I expected to need.
Bean: meihatepickles on April 25th, 2013 11:16 pm (UTC)
Also, every time I insert my cup, i make sure to "sweep" my vagina with a finger a few times to clear out the blood, which will give me a better "seal". If I don't, either my cup's holes get plugged up on the way in and leaking occurs, or it slips out of proper position due to the excess liquid around the outside of my cervix.. which makes is inevitably leak.
treebeegirl on April 25th, 2013 11:27 pm (UTC)
I'm using the large fleurcup. It's so frustrating not knowing where my cervix is. I thought I barely felt it at one point but I'm not sure about that.
gingerade72 on May 11th, 2013 04:02 am (UTC)
Your experience sounds so much like mine! I'm using the large Fleurcup now myself. Are you having more luck yet? I'm hoping for improved method and success!
treebeegirl on May 11th, 2013 01:01 pm (UTC)
My period ended before I got to practice more but I'm not giving up on it yet. So many people on here love the Fleurcup so I've not sure why I can't get it to work for me. The closest cup I have to being "leak free" is the Lunette and I love it but it's not enough capacity on my heavy days. I'm going to practice with the Fleurcup and also the Yukki for a few more cycles and if I can't get them to work without leaking I'll just have to stick with the Lunette and empty more often then I'd like to! Good luck to you.