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I am very excited and anxious to try a menstrual cup but I'm hesitant because I don't have and abundance in funds to trial and error these. I want to get it as close to right as possible when I purchase one.
Age - 23
Children - 2
Cervix - very low
Bladder is sensitive
My height & weight (not sure this matters)- 5ft 4in & 120lbs.
Ohh I've also been told my uterus is tilted??
I have read the recommendation that anyone who has given birth should use the larger size but I can't help but feel that they might not work for me. My cervix is very low in addition I have a sensitive bladder. I have read that those with low cervix and/or sensitive bladder may benefit better from the small more soft squishy cups. I guess my main question is has anyone given birth but still successfully used a small cup?
Any insight will be appreciated thanks in advance = )

Thanks for all your help and insight. I ended up buying the medium meluna with ball stem. So I hope all goes well with it. I'm very excited and can't wait to try it. I'll let everyone know how things turn out = )
Current Mood: anxiousanxious
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on April 21st, 2013 01:39 am (UTC)
hi! don't think of it in terms of sizes. you don't need a small size, you need a fairly short cup.
my cervix is INSANELY low and i can wear a large ladycup inside out. i prefer the tiny melunas but i can wear a large ladycup.

do you have a heavy flow? also, have you had two pregnancies or did you have twins?

if a cup is soft, it won't be uncomfortable regardless of the width. i'm a virgin yet i can wear wide cups just fine. insertion and removal is basically the only time when it matters.

also, as a low cervix gal i've found the small lunette less than ideal, it's narrow. many low cervix folks prefer wider cup like the large lunette or fleurcup. if it's too small to sit properly around your cervix, it may sit uncomfortably low.

and there's a distinction between a low and dangly cervix. mine is both of these things - the tip is like 1cm from the opening, but there's enough space for a cup to sit around it.
how low do you call low?

look for good deals too! you can get large+small fleurcup cheaply, and two melunas as well. with meluna there's also the chance to get a free sample, though it's not guaranteed or anything (and you only have the chance if you order from the official site).
get a meluna only if your flow isn't too heavy, and get the large size. it's the smallest "large size" out there and has almost the same width as a small diva, for example. the meluna sizes should really be XS, S, M, L compared to other brands. definitely don't get the small.

and one more thing about the flow - it can change. this thing will work for like 10 years, so even if you have a light flow, better don't get a ridiculously tiny cup like a small meluna or small ladycup. of course there's no need to get something huge 'just in case', but better look at those holding at least 20 ml.
Quitteriequitterie on April 5th, 2014 12:47 pm (UTC)
"and there's a distinction between a low and dangly cervix."
Hello Serpent :D!
So I pasted your sentence in the subject line.. See, Julie already told me more about the concept of dangly cervix - but I'd be interested in going a bit deeper, and in hearing your definitions for "low" and "dangly" cervix, if you have time for it?
Cheers hé x
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on April 21st, 2013 02:18 am (UTC)
The large Fleur gets really good reviews from those who have had kids. It's not too long for most, squishy soft, blunt based, solid stemmed, frosted texture and high capacity without feeling like you've got a bowling ball stuffed up there. ;o) Compare some of the side-by-side photos and see what you think of its shape.

Dimensions and links at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on April 21st, 2013 02:39 pm (UTC)
Inexpensive option: Chinese knockoff.
Get one of each size in 2 different colors so you can tell them apart easily.

We have ethical issues with them because they have copied/stolen intellectual property but the cups themselves are probably OK. They are most similar to large/small Lunettes in size, shape and squishiness.

Edited at 2013-04-21 02:40 pm (UTC)
tjs77tsa on April 21st, 2013 03:26 am (UTC)
I also have a sensitive bladder a very low cervix and a tilted uterus. I purchased the large Fleur based on all of the reviews and hated it it was too wide too long and the grip rings hurt. I would chose either a large or a mini medium Meluna in the soft model with a ball stem or basic (no stem) based on your flow.
trejoytrejoy on April 21st, 2013 05:48 am (UTC)
I agree with you about the large Fleur. The width put pressure on my bladder. The large Sckoon is working well for me, as does the large Ladycup.
juliiie87juliiie87 on April 21st, 2013 10:04 am (UTC)
Seconding the medium Mini meluna, but it doesn't come in basic so that'll be either ball or stem, which you can trim to fit your body, OP. A squishier alternative to the large Fleurcup is the large Si-bell, which should also be good for moms with a heavy flow and a low cervix.

I'll also echo Serpent's questions : "How low do you call low??" and "how heavy is your flow?" because one may have the impression they have a low cervix or a heavy flow, when in fact they're about average compared to cup dimensions and capacitities, so it's always better to speak in actual numbers, what knid of protection you use and how often you need to change it.

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countryflower89 on April 21st, 2013 03:01 pm (UTC)
Wow thanks for very quick replies. Umm lets see my flow is average or normal I guess it's never been heavy. I wear regular absorbency pads and don't need to change them for around 4 hours. I had two separate pregnancies. The youngest is 26 months old. As far as my cervix, I'm not good with numbers..but when using my index finger the tip of my cervix can be reached by the first line on my finger. Does that make sense? From the tip of my index finger to the first knuckle that sounds better. Is that considered low?
juliiie87juliiie87 on April 21st, 2013 08:35 pm (UTC)
Err, yes, I think it's pretty low. To give you an example, I consider myself "average" in that I can reach my cervix at around or just under my second knuckle or "line", and I can wear most short to average (50-55mm) cups. Like Serpent pointed out, cups usually sit (o) around your cervix, so if there's a bit of leeway on the sides, that means you can wear something *that* much longer than the length from the entrance to the tip of your cervix.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on April 21st, 2013 09:09 pm (UTC)
do you change them every 4 hours because they get icky or because they get full? if it's the latter, i'd say it's heavy enough for my rec to get something that holds 20 ml. and hmm yes that's quite low. although it depends a little on the position.
is it dangly? how far you can reach around your cervix is also how far your cup will sit. for example my ladycup goes so deep around my cervix that it hurts :S (but inside out it's fine)
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Luighseach: sinfestluighseach on April 21st, 2013 05:57 pm (UTC)
Since I had had a kid, I picked a larger type at first. Didn't work very well, clearly too large. Then I got a smaller, and wham - perfect.

So I guess the recommendations are more general. Your bits may vary.
countryflower89 on April 22nd, 2013 02:28 am (UTC)
May I ask which brand you ended up with?
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Erinclxtgirl on April 21st, 2013 06:05 pm (UTC)
Yes! I am 36, have delivered vaginally, have a slightly sensitive bladder (it's getting better through physiotherapy), also 5ft 4inches and petit, also have a tilted uterus. I could NOT get the large size to work for me. Small fleur is my goldilocks cup, but I also have a small lunette that is less fantastic, but still works.

I know that internally, everyone is slightly different, but a great big YES that post partum does not always mean size 2
pandauraepandaurae on April 22nd, 2013 03:48 pm (UTC)
Count me in as an after-childbirth, small cup user! I'm 38 and 21 months post-partum from my first child; super-low cervix (can say you 'peek-a-boo'?), average flow. I did not discover cups until after my period returned (at around 13-months pp). Funds are not much of an issue, so I tried a few cups:

Large Diva - kept getting pushed out on all but my very last day; unusable.

Large Fleurcup - better than Diva, but still got pushed out the first couple of days; usable after 3rd day or so (of 5-day cycle) when my cervix climbed back up.

Small Lunette - loved the color (Aine), but leaked like a sieve (too narrow); unusable.

Mini Meluna - my perfect cup! Even though it's super-short, it's wide and never leaks. On the first couple of days (when my flow is heaviest), I can typically go about 8 hours between emptying. By day 3, it's morning/night empty. While i could switch to the Fleurcup by day 3, I find myself sticking with the Meluna as bearing down a bit is no prob to get it low enough to extract (I bought the stem version and a light tug on it works, too).

So my Fleurcup sits in the drawer for backup and my Mini Meluna (I bought the 2 pack so one stays in my purse bag for emergencies) is my go-to/goldilocks cup! After 4 cycles now of continuous use, it has taken (what I can only assume is) the shape of my vagina and it's an absolute breeze to put in/remove and so very comfortable to wear!

Good luck in your search and stick with it through your learning curve. Cups are SO awesome!
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on April 22nd, 2013 04:19 pm (UTC)
have you tried any of the "too large" cups inside out?
also, which size mini meluna?:)
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