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Hello! This is my first post and I'm desperate and about to give up on menstrual cups. I am a 29 y/o female, no kids, no health issues. I used Diva Cup 1 for a year with major leaks on the first 2 days which are slightly heavy but not too bad. Discouraged, I got the Lunette Model 1. Same exact issues. I bubble over and ruin underwear and pants. Days 3-5 are perfect, no major leaks. I clot a lot I suppose and my OB did mention I have a "deep-set" vagina. Don't know what that means.

What I've tried with both cups and failed:
• checked for my cervix- it sits at the length of my index finger, don't know what that means. High??
• c fold
• 7 fold
• the "just shove it in" fold
• trimmed the stem as both were killing me (too long)
• checked that they pop open (they do every time)
• checked that the holes were clear
• pulled it down then up
• twisted it up
• inserted it not straight up, but at the alleged natural angle of my vagina (towards the lower back)

Here's another thing. I have the cup sitting super low and when I wipe after peeing, I can see blood. WTF? It honestly seems like blood is coming out of the first centimeter of my vaginal walls. I have a box of super-plus tampons I am dreading opening... Please help!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on April 3rd, 2013 01:40 pm (UTC)
"I bubble over and..." Well, if it's full, it's full. Empty it more frequently or get a cup with a higher capacity. http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/

It might also be that you have what we call a "dangly" cervix meaning it hangs down into your cup and takes up room, thereby reducing the capacity of your cup. Many find that a wider cup helps.

The other leakage sounds like our favorite "residual slobber," which is the flow that winds up on your vaginal walls on the far side of your cup. Check the "leaking & spotting" tags for lots of good advice on how to combat that. Me, I was never able to conquer it completely so I just wear a liner to catch it. I figure it's a small price to pay for all of the other benefits of wearing cups.
juliiie87juliiie87 on April 3rd, 2013 02:43 pm (UTC)

Given the fact that you own a box of super plus tampons OP, and that your other days are fine, I'd say you likely have a heavy flow, and perhaps a dangly cervix on those days.

Residual slobber is the flow that was already below rim level when you inserted the cup, and since cups don't absorb... they can only catch "fresh" new blood from the cervix. I love cloth pantyliners, but I agree with others that you could get by without those. If your leakage is more serious then that's either overflow (if that's happening after some time) or a placement issue (if that's happening straight away).
trejoytrejoy on April 3rd, 2013 01:55 pm (UTC)
Size recommendations from the manufacturers can't take into account differences in anatomy and flow. Like kuradi8 says, sounds like your first two days are a capacity problem. I'd try an 'after childbirth' size those days.

I have found I must use a wide diameter cup throughout because for me narrower cups shift around and leak. The 'before childbirth' cups gave me such trouble I felt anxious most of my cycle, which was incredibly stressful.

Edited at 2013-04-03 01:57 pm (UTC)
lealorali1 on April 3rd, 2013 04:00 pm (UTC)
I am extremely anxious too! I don't like standing up, because when I stand up it gushes out.
lealorali1 on April 3rd, 2013 03:59 pm (UTC)
I own the super plus in attempt to "plug myself up" minimally! I get them because I'm too lazy to change every 4 hours, I like to stretch it to 6 or 8.

I don't thin it's a capacity issue bc when I take out the cup it's not even 1/2 full.

Residual slobber sounds about right. Maybe I will try post-childbirth size, but both cups feel VERY snug and suction so hard I can hear it upon and insertion and removal.
teacupcake89 on April 3rd, 2013 04:15 pm (UTC)
I would strongly suggest the large fleurcup, the rounded bottom provides a much higher capacity than your cups and is softer than both the divas or the small lunette.

the fact that you say the cup is only half full when it leaks says that it IS a capacity issue: your cervix is probably 'dangly' and taking up the cup's capacity so it leaks before it's full. To get round this you need a wider, round bottomed cup like the large fleurcup that will be able to sit around the cervix rather than under it, and the round bottom means there is still lots of capacity even with the cervix taking up some, compared to the pointy v shape of the Diva and lunette.
lealorali1 on April 3rd, 2013 04:18 pm (UTC)
Oh interesting!!! Maybe I will try that. I found my cervix today on Day 1 of period, and it was waaaaaaaaay high up though..?
teacupcake89 on April 3rd, 2013 04:37 pm (UTC)
you also have the longest bodied cup with your Diva though, so it makes sense that it could be sitting in the cup!

FYI your small Diva and small lunette hold roughly the same amount to the airholes, and are of a similar shape so it's not surprising that you still have the same issues!!
hairballsplathairballsplat on April 3rd, 2013 07:54 pm (UTC)
my lg Fleur is my heavy, gushing days cup. it's the only one I've found that's comfy and large capacity. my cervix does take up some room, but i can go at least an hour (sometimes more!) before having to empty it!
juliiie87juliiie87 on April 3rd, 2013 05:21 pm (UTC)
Seconded. Alternatives would include the large Si-bell (similar but softer and with less grip rings), Rubycup & XL Meluna which is as long as a Diva but much wider.
fluffmyflamingofluffmyflamingo on April 4th, 2013 08:45 am (UTC)
I was having the same issue recently with leaking only on my heaviest 2 days with my mooncup UK size A and that was rarely properly full when it happened. I switched recently to a meluna classic xl and it's been so much better, no leakage at all and the longer body means I can direct it easily and comfortably up to my cervix (which is pretty high)! I just assumed that it was my lack of skill as I'm a relative newbie to cups but apparently a different style cup really can make all the difference so I totally agree with the other comments. Good luck!