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25 March 2013 @ 09:57 pm
Hey guys! I've had my moon cup for a good five months now and decided to have a go with it for the first time today. I'm sick of pads, hate tampons and I have lots of dance comps/shows coming up in summer which I need to be prepared for.

I'm 16, and a virgin and I have this massive fear of it hurting when it pops open. I can fit the cup in with the 7 fold but haven't gotten over the 'letting it go' obstacle yet.

Also when I'm pushing it in, I find that if I stop pushing it stars to slide out?

Any advice for insertion would be fab.

Thank you :-)
 
teacupcake89 on March 25th, 2013 10:12 pm (UTC)

You can make a cup easier to insert by running it under warm/hot water. Likewise, if you have problems getting the cup to pop open, running it under cold water can make soft cups stiffer and spring open easier. Your mooncup is a pretty stiff cup with a thick rim comapres to other brands so you shouldnt have any problems with it opening up!

if you let go gently once inside it's not going to hurt you, getting it in is probably the most 'hurt-y' part for a virgin. try gently letting it open surrounded by a hand and you'll be able to see it can't hurt you.

Remember that the vagina isn’t vertical, so make sure you angle the cup slanting downwards towards your tailbone/end of bottom. I repeat this to myself if I find the cup it hitting against something, take a deep relaxing breath and insert a bit further and repeat until it is mostly or fully inside.

Get some water-based Lube or coconut oil and use lots of it! Put it on yourself not the cup, it makes it hard to keep the cup folded otherwise! Have a towel or toilet roll on hand to wipe your hands on if they get slippery.

The most important tip is to RELAX!! I pretend that I'm about to 'have sex'/insert something, this helps me relax and distracts me from panicking and overthinking the cup as an ‘object’! Focus on relaxing your muscles, keep your jaw slack/open as this will stop you from tensing up and take deep breaths! Sometimes bearing down a little, as in almost trying to pee / have a bowel movement helps keep my vag opening relaxed.

I insert my cup as deeply as I can, aiming towards my cervix (so to the left for me), then let it open and sometimes push up on the base if it wasn't quite far in enough. Make sure the cup doesn’t go past your cervix or cervix is peeking out over one side of the rim, otherwise the cup will leak.

Insert the cup slowly, slowly, I hold the top with one hand and the bottom with the other hand so it has less chance to 'pop' open before you want it to. With the punchdown fold, I insert the smooth side upwards with the crease towards the floor, but you might find the other way better. If you’re having difficulties stop midway insertion, then holding the cup still, relax, and push slowly in the middle of a deep breath. Repeat until the cup is in fully.
juliiie87juliiie87 on March 25th, 2013 11:50 pm (UTC)
The thing is, for me inserting and letting it pop open is the same move, because it's not supposed to pop open while your fingers are still holding it. I think the reason it slips out is because you haven't let it in far enough for it to be comfortable and unfold yet. Only the first few mms are tight and fleshy, beyond that point there's plenty of room for your cup to expand, so don't be afraid, it won't hurt once it's in the right spot, you can trust us it works ! :)
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 26th, 2013 12:11 am (UTC)
If you haven't already, do a little feeling around in there. Insert your finger with your fingerprint facing up. That bump is the back side of your pubic bone. If you go a little deeper, you'll come up on your pelvic floor (PC) muscles. Since you're there, tighten them to give your finger a little squeeze. Then practice RELAXING them. You'll need to relax them for insertion and especially removal. Splay your knees comfortably, open your mouth a little, keep your jaw slack and don't forget to breathe. ;o)

For insertion, insert your cup so that the rim is beyond your pubic bone. Then let it go. If it needs help opening, use your finger to create an air channel on the soft back side of your vag to help get air into the cup. If your cup is still stubborn to open, take it out, turn it so the folded part faces the other way and try again. (Sometimes turning it around makes all the difference in the world.)

Once it's open, give the base a little boost with your finger as you tighten those PC muscles which will guide the cup up and into place.
lizsterineglizsterineg on March 26th, 2013 02:26 am (UTC)
I had the exact same fear as you. Turns out my cup doesn't so much "pop" as unfold....sometimes too slowly. I have a large LadyCup.

Like other comments have said, it might be slipping out because you haven't inserted it passed your pubic bone yet. Mine likes to try and slip out and open if I don't insert it far enough in.

It's a bit of patience with yourself and a bit of trial and error to find what works for you. Again, like others have said RELAX....it helps so much, but I know, hard to do when you're scared of the popping. That fact that you got it in to be ready to open it is a good thing.

It took me a few attempts of inserting it and removing it before letting it open before I worked up the courage to let it open. What helped me was doing a little self exploration and not to be afraid of me.

Get a bit more comfortable with yourself which will help you relax. You can always insert a finger alongside the cup to let your finger catch the "pop" for the first time, so you know how fast (or slow) it actually opens.

Good luck, keep trying! It does get easier. :)
ferrenusferrenus on March 26th, 2013 05:37 pm (UTC)
Thank you for all the advice. I had a feel around, felt at my pubic bone and now I think I feel more confortable about inserting it.

I inserted it further but again once it got to the stage of fully pushing the cup in and letting it 'pop' open I chickened out! Arrgh!

I guess I'm just scared that I won't be able to get it out once it's in!
teacupcake89 on March 26th, 2013 11:37 pm (UTC)
have you read this post 'the virgin's guide to cups'? here: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/1243131.html#comments

don't worry, the cup can't get stuck, lost or go anywhere. We are all testiment to the fact that what we put inside our vaginas (cups), can come out! yes, the first time will probably take longer/be a bit trickier but that's because it's all new, you will get quicker/it will get easier with time and the more you practice!

worrying about it won't help you use the cup, what's the worst that can happen??! either put the cup away until you feel up to it or pluck up your courage and do it! :) hugs xx
juliiie87juliiie87 on March 27th, 2013 11:22 pm (UTC)
Agreed, it CANNOT get lost, your cervix is the absolute limit it can reach and hum... babies come out of there, so little felxible silicone cups ? piece of cake ! It's your body, not a black hole, it may still be unknown for now but it's wonderful, and it being unknown doesn't mean you can't gain full control (and practical knowledge) of every little inch of it. But also if you need more time, more exploring, more confidence... that's totally fine, the cup can wait.
ferrenusferrenus on March 28th, 2013 04:05 pm (UTC)
Good news guys!

Inserted the cup successfully! At first it felt really uncomfortable, not painful but uncomfortable, so I moved a finger around the outside and there was a hissing sound (the cup opening maybe) and it felt much more comfortable after that.

However I could still 'feel' it, either because it wasn't high enough or because I'm just not used to things in my vajayjay (I've NEVER used tampons).

And I even got it out again!

So so happy! Massive step for me, period is coming to a close now though so I'll try again next time!