Log in

No account? Create an account
Hey everyone!

I'm preparing for my second period using the cup and I'd like to clear some things up.

I read a lot of posts about what soaps to use on your cup (if any) but nothing about what soap to use on your hands. My first round with the cup I used a seventh generation dish soap (unscented) on my hands the problem is that it take forever to wash completely out. I have unscented castile soap but it leaves film behind in my sink so I'm reluctant to use it on my hands before insertion. Also most soaps have glycerin in it, which I've read isn't very good. Although I used to use lube with glycerin for tampons and it never bothered me, since I've read more about this it's starting to worry me a lot. Am I just over-thinking this?

Any brand suggestions of soap (for HANDS, not the cup) would be very helpful. :)

I am thinking about buying "Method Hand Wash" with these ingredients: Water, Sodium Sulfate, Betaine, Glycerin, Aloe, Citric Acid, Sodium Chloride, Sodium Citrate.

Again I might just be over-thinking this?

Secondly, I think I need to trim the stem on my cup (small lunette). It sticks out a little after I insert it as far as I can, but after walking around for a while or sleeping it rides up just a little so that the stem is a millimeter or so inside. But if I pee, the stem will come back down (and eventually ride up again with time). In the post-pee position it's easy to pinch the base. Having the stem stick out doesn't hurt, but it is a little irritating if I sit a certain way before it rides up. I didn't have any problems reaching/removing the cup but I'm still scared to trim the stem as I've only had one period with it. BTW, I want to trim the stem up to the last ridge leaving just a little nub to feel if I need it. Should I leave it alone for a few more cycles?

Also I'm worried about the trimmed stem irritating the inside of my vagina instead of the outside.

Sorry if this is a stupid post. I tend to over-think most decisions, especially if I'm new to something.
faranth22faranth22 on March 20th, 2013 01:39 am (UTC)
I wouldn't stress about it too much. The most important thing is to make sure that you *do* wash your hands with soap, water, and friction. It's a common misconception that soap "kills" bacteria, it does not. Soap only makes it difficult for the bacteria to adhere to your hands or whatever surface you are cleaning. You need to use adequate friction in order to rinse the bacteria away down the drain. Also make sure you rinse well, without leaving any residue on you hands as soap is not vag friendly. For the cup I would stick with soaps without a lot of additives.

FWIW, I don't even use soap on my cup. I also do not boil every month. However, I did boil it when I got it before the first use. I rinse well with plain old tap water when it is time to empty and soak in 1/2 hydrogen peroxide 1/2 water in between cycles. I have had no issues in over a year of cup use. *shrug* User preference I guess.
trula_rtrula_r on March 20th, 2013 01:39 am (UTC)
I trimmed my lunette all the way, and I don't find it irritating at all. Trimming the stem shouldn't be a problem, since your cup seems to come down easily. Now my cup is a lot more comfy than with the stem.
ElianaOpalopal581 on March 20th, 2013 01:48 am (UTC)
I wouldn't stress about what soap you use for your hands. Whichever soap you usually use is the one I'd use. I decided right away to trim the stem of my fleurcup, but it took me a few cycles to get around to doing it.
drawing_dwarfdrawing_dwarf on March 20th, 2013 03:19 am (UTC)
I just use a nice, simple goat's milk bar soap. It even has a bit of grapefruit EO in it and I haven't had any issues. It's super mild and rinses off really well. I think it only has maybe 4 ingredients and it's hand-made locally. I also use it to wash my face. Another option for a super basic, additive-free soap is unscented Dr. Bronner's Castile Soap which has the bonus of lasting forever and being really good at getting grease off of stuff.

I wouldn't really worry too much about the soap as long as it doesn't have any silicone derivatives which could damage the cup and I personally would avoid anything with triclosan.
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on March 20th, 2013 08:06 am (UTC)
Just use whatever soap you'd ordinarily use. The important thing is that you slough off whatever bacteria are hanging around for a few minutes, and any soap residue will get wiped off by the towel.
lurkmaster10lurkmaster10 on March 21st, 2013 12:10 am (UTC)
I've only been using my Diva cup for about a year, but I've always washed it and my hands with the same cheapo Walmart brand hand soap I use anyway. I also don't boil my cup. I rinse it with warm water after each dump-out, and at the end of my cycle I wash it with hot water and soap, and then Soak it for 12 hours in diluted hydrogen peroxide to get rid of stains. Works like a charm.
tauqtauq on March 21st, 2013 06:09 pm (UTC)
As said already, I don't think it matters too much what soap you use, as long as you're sure to wash up beforehand. I personally just use my usual bathroom hand soap before removing my cup. I use the "Diva Wash" to clean out my cup, and rewash my hands before reinserting. While I love the wash though, there's tons of alternatives out there. I just bought it when I bought my first cup since I wanted to be sure I wouldn't have a reaction to the soap.

As for your stem - trim it if it's bothering you! My stem always sits about 1cm inside, which is a nice spot for me (though it might be different for you.) It doesn't irritate the inside of my vagina at all - stems are soft and meant to be there after all! My untrimmed stem DEFINITELY irritated the outside of my lady bits though. My only recommendation is that you only trim a little bit at a time(a couple mm), not all at once. You can always trim more off, but you can't add more stem on!