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19 March 2013 @ 05:22 pm
I am a virgin of 14, and have been using a small lunette selene for a few cycles. I’ve only had my period since June 2012, and it’s been sporadic and unpredictable for the most part. I knew I had to find an alternative after having a total horror experience with pads on my second (and 14 day long) period. Lets just say that riding 500 miles in one week across Iowa in 115 degree heat on your period with pads isn’t very much fun. And no swimming. Anyway, I have found my cervix to be quite low, and have trimmed my stem completely off. Still, my cup is at the entrance to my vagina. Luckily it is just far enough in that I can’t feel it too much. I like the lunette, but on my two heavy days and nights, it only lasts for 5 or so hours, which means I can’t sleep in it, or wear it to school without emptying it. I would love to someday get a bigger cup, but I am not sure what to get. When wearing my cup, I can push it up one or two centimeters without discomfort, but it always travels down immediately. Does this mean that a longer cup would travel down too, or would the shape keep it up there? I certainly don’t want anything sticking out more that it is already. Also, would a bell-bottomed cup be better, since my cervix might take up some room in my cup? I don’t want anything stiffer than my lunette, because it causes some pressure occasionally, so preferably a softer cup. I have been thinking about possibly a si-bell, fleurcup, a sckoon cup (even though those are pretty new), or anything you think would work with an increased capacity. I don’t know if a large on any of those would work for me, however, because of the length. I am definitely worried about length on a bigger cup. Insertion hasn’t been too much of an issue, but removal has been more tricky. I’m thinking a soft cup would help with that. I also love the grip rings on the lunette, so would love a cup with grip bumps or lines. What do you suggest? Any thoughts on my length dilemma? Also, how do you convince a mom who just bought you a cup to buy another one so soon? Thank you so much.
drawing_dwarfdrawing_dwarf on March 20th, 2013 03:34 am (UTC)
I use a fleurcup and I think it's great, but I don't have a particularly low cervix so I can't offer any insight there. The grip rings are very pronounced and I find them very easy to grasp. I have a small and a large and actually find the large more comfortable for some reason. The fleur is pretty soft but still pops open easily enough for me; I find a labia fold works really well. I think the larger cup tends to sit a bit higher for me than the small.

Out of the three you mentioned it's also by far the cheapest which might help if you have to get your mom to buy it, although their website is kind of sketchy looking which might not help. Shipping took awhile but was at least affordable.

I don't have any of the other cups you mentioned so I can't offer any comparisons. This post about the sckoon cup might be relevant to your interests though: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/3044932.html
juliiie87juliiie87 on March 20th, 2013 01:20 pm (UTC)
Seconding the large Fleurcup, it's known to work well for people with a low cervix and a heavy flow. The large Si-bell is very similar, just softer and with less grip (but a peach skin texture still). I'm not sure about the large Sckoon, compare the dimensions and capacity carefully. And the way to convince your mom is very simple : you love your cup, but you found out with experience that this one won't hold your heavy flow for more than 5 hours, which is a bummer if you want to sleep through the night or attend school whitout worrying about having to empty it. If you can push your luck, you might want to try a Fleurcup combo, so at least one of the sizes will fit, but perhaps compare capacities first to make sure it's worth having a small Fleurcup in addition to your small Lunette. If you're only getting one, that's the large for sure, since it holds so much more and is a bit softer than the small. About the website looking dingy... I don't really know what people are on about. Yes, it's not american, get over it folks, but it's translated into 5 languages, provides tons of information on the product, and dozens of people here have ordered from them and recieved exactly what they bought.
trula_rtrula_r on March 21st, 2013 11:51 pm (UTC)
On a totally different route, what about the large soft meluna? It is slightly shorter than the large fleurcup, and supposedly soft. Also, the fleurcup seems quite large( diameter and length) in comparison to the small lunette. Is this noticeable? Is there a possibility that my vagina wouldn't be able to take a larger cup? If so, how would I know? Also, on a picky note, I noticed that the fleurcup website does not offer their blue or green cups in the large size. Any ideas on why? And is there anywhere that I could get a large green fleurcup since femininewear stopped selling fleurs?
Thanks for helping a newbie.
teacupcake89 on March 22nd, 2013 12:09 am (UTC)
I have a small lunette and a large (green!) fleurcup, the fleurcup is softer so once it's in (with lots of lube)I don't feel it and holds more than my lunette. I had to trim half my lunette stem because it kept poking me but don't need to trim any of my large fleur! (probs because it's wider)

your vagina isn't a fixed size, it expands when relaxed etc, so you'll be fine with a 'large' soft stiffness cup.

fleurcup have random sales so seem to go in and out of stock fairly often, but they only sell through their website I'm afraid!
juliiie87juliiie87 on March 22nd, 2013 10:30 am (UTC)
Seconding what teacupcake89 said. I think it's the unique shape and width of the large Fleurcup that makes it such a good fit. So to answer your question yeah, a lot of people find that wider cups can sit higher. But most importantly, wider cups provide more capacity.

That being said, I know of a couple of people with not-so-low cervices(myself included) who said they could feel it, but that's very individual and not the common reaction. Besides, it's not so bad that I can't wear mine, I think it actually got better over time and once I actually was on my period. my suggestion if that's your case, would be to use it on your heaviest days and keep the Lunette for lighter days. If you're concerned about this, then get a Si-bell, since softer typically means more comfortable. But technically the Fleurcup should be at least slightly softer than a Lunette already.

The only other place you could get a Fleurcup is on mc-sales (link on the side bar->).

Also a large meluna soft (preferably stemless) *could* fit maybe, it's hard to say. It's only 1 mm shorter though, that's not even a grain of rice.

Edited at 2013-03-22 10:41 am (UTC)
Zita DMzitadm on March 20th, 2013 02:04 pm (UTC)
insertion technique?
First of all, please excuse me if I'm waaaaaay off base here. Is it possible that your insertion technique is what keeps the Lunette from getting deeper? I say this because most people assume they have to insert tampons and cups upwards while they have to actually direct it backwards, towards your rear end. If that's the way you're doing it, forget about my post (it's just and idea that popped into my head when I read about your trouble...)
Jennnakedfaery on March 20th, 2013 03:01 pm (UTC)
When I had this issue I found a bigger cup helped. Fleurcup is my goldilocks cup but I am about to order a Skooncup, so I'll post an update on that soon.
beachgrrl248 on March 22nd, 2013 01:47 am (UTC)
Wow Trula, I'm in exactly the same situation as you are! Age, cervix height, cup circumstance (I have a small lunette selene as well!), flow, and even with convincing my mom to buy me a new cup! I've also been eyeing a bigger cup for the same reason as you, and the large Fleurcup has really been calling out to me. Keep me updated on what you do so I can base my decisions off of yours! Haha thanks :)
trula_rtrula_r on March 22nd, 2013 04:25 am (UTC)
I've been trying for a while to find other teens who use cups to relate with! I'm so glad you replied to my post. I've been thinking about getting a large green fleurcup, but the website only shows small green fleurcups. I emailed the company today about it. How long have you been using a cup, and what's your story?( I mean, not very many teens have even heard of a menstrual cup). Last summer, an awesome counselor was talking about the diva cup on an all girls hike, and since this was right after the horrific bike ride experience, I was curious. How do you deal with the cup at school? Have you had the guts to dump it there? I haven't; I've just worn a light pad on heavy days, and cloth liners for the rest. I'm so glad that I found another teen cupper! Hopefully we can continue to communicate! By the way, I tried to send this to you directly, and it wouldn't let me. Something about a privacy setting that you set. I don't know if you can change it, or even if I have it!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 22nd, 2013 10:07 pm (UTC)
Sorry, Trula, you are not going to like what I have to say.
Learn to manage with the cup that you already have.

Your complaint is that it doesn't have a high enough capacity. Yes it does. 5 hours is not a "too short" amount of time for a cup to fill. It holds more and lasts longer than the pads that you were using. Since you most likely had to get up in the middle of the night to change your pad, then do the same to empty your cup. You don't have to wait until it's full/overflowing. Dump it out whenever you go pee -- which should be more often than 5 hours during your waking hours.