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Kirsten
15 March 2013 @ 03:35 pm
Hi everyone! I just found this forum today and have spent hours reading through posts-- I love the sense of community and helpfulness here! I hope you all might be some help to me as I'm choosing a cup.

I have never used a cup before. This will be my very first experience, so while I am looking through other users' posts about their experiences with certain brands, it seems that these tend to be posted after a buying decision has been made.

Things that might be helpful to know:

  • I am 26, not a virgin, and have never given birth

  • My regular cycle tends to last about 5-6 days, 3 of which are heavy, 2 medium, and sometimes 1 with spotting

  • My cervix sits quite high during my period

  • I have used tampons since I was 14, so insertion is nothing new

All of this said, I have some preferential information as well-- obviously the lower the price the better, but not at the cost of poor quality, and... aesthetically, I suppose it would be nice to have a colored cup.

I've looked at the Diva Cup, Lunette, Mooncup, Fleurcup, and Meluna. But being so "newbish" to all of this, I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around it. I'm assuming I'm just going to have to test the waters, so to speak, but I'd love some guidance if possible :)
 
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 15th, 2013 07:39 pm (UTC)
Have you seen the guidelines at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ yet?
Kirstenkirla on March 15th, 2013 07:41 pm (UTC)
No, I hadn't! Off to peruse, thanks.

ETA: Hmm. Interestingly, none of the cups I've researched so far meet my criteria. Good thing you posted this :)

Edited at 2013-03-15 07:46 pm (UTC)
juliiie87juliiie87 on March 15th, 2013 09:11 pm (UTC)
The charts posted above (and the various links on this page as well!) are all you really need, but feel free to ask more specific questions. Basically I just commented to say I love your icon ! ;D
Kirstenkirla on March 15th, 2013 09:25 pm (UTC)
Hah! Thanks, I have quite a soft spot for Little Foot. Although I can't watch this movie as an adult. Makes me bawl, lol.

pascallewest on March 15th, 2013 08:35 pm (UTC)
One thing I did not consider when I got my first cup was importance of grip rings. I got a Mooncup (Keeper company) and it was sooo slippery it was very difficult to get a hold on it. Then I got a large Fleurcup, and removal was a million times easier! It also has a smooth body which makes things easier and more comfortable too (Mooncup US and UK, as well as some other brands, have ridges below the rim which is just an extra obstacle in my opinion).
Lunette, Fleurcup and Melunas seem to be favorites around here. If you think you need long and narrow, NaturalMamma would also be something to consider (find reviews/pic on the "alphabetical tag list"). That one only comes in clear/white.
I have a high cervix, and my large Fleurcup is working out well, except for some bladder pressure. which is why I ordered a Natural Mamma, which is slightly longer and more narrow. I haven't received it yet though. There are other long brands out there too.
Try one or two out, see how they work with your body. Sometimes you don't know til you try.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on March 15th, 2013 09:14 pm (UTC)
what do you mean by "quite high"? if you can reach it, you may be overestimating how high it is. and 52-55 mm long cups are perfectly fine for a high cervix, you don't need to get the longest cup out there (especially as the diva has a short stem while the lunette, fleurcup, meluna have longer stems and come in colours).
although at your age a narrow cup would be fine, as you have some heavy days it might be better to get a wide one for extra capacity. as a sexually active tampon user you shouldn't have any problems with the width.

all cups are high quality, what matters most is that it should fit YOU well. some might say shit about green donna but it is out of business due to copyright issues, not because of the quality. my mum has one and while it has some cosmetic faults, they are basically the same as meluna's free samples have (and the samples are perfectly usable, meluna just doesn't sell them - they hope that you'll like the free cup and get it in a colour you like better or with a different stem). speaking of meluna stems, if you choose this brand, better get a classic stem.
Kirstenkirla on March 15th, 2013 09:24 pm (UTC)
Sorry, I realized after I posted that I should have been more specific. I can't reach my cervix with my longest (middle) finger. It is good to know, though, that I'm not locked into a narrow line of availability.

Also, I'm leaning toward Meluna right now. I'm sort of hovering back and forth between Meluna and Lunette, and the cost is swaying me in the Meluna direction. I didn't know about the free samples, actually, maybe I should do some looking into that.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on March 15th, 2013 09:21 pm (UTC)
also, the main difference between, say, the lunette, fleurcup and meluna is the stiffness. see this chart: http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/cup-stiffness-comparison-chart/

you also seem to be picking the most popular brands. don't think too much about that. nowadays even the most obscure brands have some very faithful fans! again, this means nothing re: what will work for you better.

also, don't pick the brand. pick the dimensions and then choose between the specific cups.
Kirstenkirla on March 15th, 2013 09:27 pm (UTC)
And thanks for this tip too! The stiffness is actually the major aspect that I don't know how to conceptualize before having any experience. I can get a sense of width and length, and capacity... but I have no idea if I'll be more apt to like softer vs. stiffer. I'm really guessing that this is going to have to be the trial and error portion of my experience.
juliiie87juliiie87 on March 15th, 2013 11:12 pm (UTC)
Seconding all of Serpent's advice, especially to go by actual numbers rather than brand. :)

Stiffness : the general guidance seems to be that stiffer cups work best for people with especially strong pelvic floor muscles, that do a lot of kegels, yoga, pilates, weight lifting or maybe horseback riding ? not sure about the last one. In rare cases, those people might crush a super soft cup, or simply have a harder time for it to pop open. On the other hand, people that are especially sensitive down there should look for the softer cups. Medium stiffness cups (Fleurcup->classic Meluna) seem to work for most people. I personnally prefer softer cups and don't believe they are actually more difficult to pop open, and imo they're especially easier to take out, because they fold more easily.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on March 15th, 2013 11:43 pm (UTC)
and which size meluna are you considering?
the fleurcup is also quite a bit cheaper than the lunette, some colours are out of stock though. but if you mostly just want a non-clear cup you should be able to choose something:)
seconding what Julie said (heh), apart from the fact that i'd not call this medium stiffness. imo, if you're not sure, just avoid the really stiff cups like the large lunette and classic/sport meluna. the general tendency is making the cups softer, because bad reviews can spread really fast. a newbie might not realize that ANY cup can be uncomfortable for someone else, and it doesn't mean it's bad/nobody should get it. interestingly, in the russian cuppers community a more common view is that soft cups are for virgins, everyone else should get stiff ones because these are easier to open. but the community is much smaller and there's a bias against cups that are difficult to get in russia, such as the fleurcup or miacup.
Kirstenkirla on March 16th, 2013 12:03 am (UTC)
I was leaning toward the classic, in fact, and probably a size large. But if your opinion is that a softer type would be better, perhaps I should take that to heart. I just can't figure it out! Haha. Thank you all so much for your input, I really appreciate it. I'll look into Fleurcup again, I'm not sure why I counted them out...
juliiie87juliiie87 on March 16th, 2013 12:44 am (UTC)
Yes, truthfully the classic Meluna IS stiff to me, but a lot of people get along with it, with TPE being more inclined to mold to your inner shape, and the medium si actually a tad softer than the others, so all in all... But yeah, when in doubt best avoid the stiffest options.
teacupcake89 on March 15th, 2013 10:36 pm (UTC)
Hi! please can you remove the gendered language from your post? Not everyone here is or identifies as a 'lady'. 'everyone' 'cuppers' or 'people' will suffice! more info here: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2439847.html

Thanks and you seem to have some pretty good advice here already so i won't add anything just yet! :)
hannsiedhannsied on March 17th, 2013 01:56 pm (UTC)
If you have a high cervix don't buy a cup with a small stem. I bought a Diva and it was a nightmare to get the damn thing out. Be careful not to get a cup too big for you either. If its too big it creates a tight seal. Choose size based on the size of your cervix. I now have a small size mooncup even though i am over 30. It has never leaked. It's great and my cervix is so high i didn't need to trim the stem at all. It is a bit rigid getting it in though. I think if i was going to pick again i would pick a softer one. Maybe the ladycup? It comes in pretty colors.