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11 March 2013 @ 05:23 pm
Hi guys! I'm a 21-year-old virgin who is in the midst of my first period with my DivaCup and am absolutely in love. While I struggled through my dry runs, the stuff I learned doing them made actual showtime a breeze and I am a total cup convert.

Here's my issue - I have a high cervix, which I've read the DivaCup is a good fit for due to the length. I've left the stem untrimmed because I've only ever noticed the stem once and it wasn't irritating, simply there, and that was after I first inserted it and eventually it must have navigated to the right place.

I am a virgin, as mentioned above, and am in a pretty serious relationship with my vibrator. I didn't really want to remove the cup to use the vibrator so I just went ahead anyway. The thing is that part of my "routine" when I climax is to do repeated, strong Kegel-type motions to exaggerate the feeling which is only somewhat voluntary. As a result, I can feel that my cup is VERY high up in my vagina - like I can reach the stem with the very end of my finger and bearing down does not bring it down far enough for me to get a good grip on it. I still have about 4 hours before my 12 hours with the cup in are up - I am hoping that my muscles/cervix will eventually relax and settle back down to where I can remove the cup again.

Anyone else have experience with this?
 
juliiie87juliiie87 on March 11th, 2013 09:30 pm (UTC)
Not exactly experience with a vibrator (although I own a couple of those ;D) but just this : your cup will come down eventually, I promise. The vagina lengthens with arousal, add in the kegels and vibrator... yep, it can get pretty high up, but that's only temporary. Don't freak out and try again in a couple of hours. And don't forget to bear down. :)

Edited at 2013-03-11 09:31 pm (UTC)
kayteecat91 on March 11th, 2013 09:35 pm (UTC)
Thanks, I kind of figured that was the case but my initial reaction was very "OMG IT'S STUCK UP INSIDE ME I DON'T WANT TO GO TO THE EMERGENCY ROOM!" I've read quite a few post before buying and while experimenting with my cup and figured if there weren't any specific directions to not masturbate with the cup in then it couldn't be catastrophic.
tauqtauq on March 11th, 2013 11:18 pm (UTC)
Don't panic! It's completely normal. As said already, your cup will eventually migrate down thanks to good ol' gravity. If it still needs some persuasion in a couple hours, and provided the weather's nice enough where you are, try taking a nice relaxing walk. Even just a short 20 minute walk can help relax everything and encourage your cup to move back down.

Otherwise, it sounds like you're having a GREAT first run with your Diva!
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on March 11th, 2013 11:37 pm (UTC)
good point, some people experience the cup getting uncomfortably low while walking (i've had that too with a cup that was too long), so this should also help it go back to its normal position - which might still require some bearing down but hopefully not too much.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on March 11th, 2013 11:35 pm (UTC)
yep, don't worry:)
the only concern here is actually leaking - it's better not to do this when you've had your cup inside for a while and it's getting full, or the seal may break.
some people have even had sex while using cups! (not only with the insteads) i'll now tag your entry with the relevant tag, have a look :)
XDeasilydistra on March 11th, 2013 11:52 pm (UTC)
as other have said, don't stress about it :)

also, the 12-hour mark is a guideline, not a hard and fast rule, so even if it takes longer to work its way down, nothing bad will happen. (well, maybe leaking, but in that case the seal's been broken and it'll be working its way out more easily anyway!)
kayteecat91 on March 12th, 2013 01:09 am (UTC)
Thanks everyone for your non-panic-inducing responses!

Sure enough, in the few hours that followed I went to work (where my job involves grooming horses for 2 hours...very relaxing) and when I got home the cup was well within reach for removal...yay! Since I'm at the tail end of my period there was definitely no risk of the cup filling.

On a side note I find the things I notice about my vagina changing during my period fascinating. During my dry runs I could get the cup in and out but it was tight and I had to buy lube to be comfortable with insertion. Once my period came in earnest I could literally just pop it in without fanfare and easily run a finger around the rim to make sure the cup popped open correctly. Now I can feel things starting to tighten up again, as I suppose they should on the tail end of the cycle. I am so satisfied with my cup purchase and am never going back!

Buuuuut I may just lay off the vibrator during the four or so days that I actively need the cup each month, or at least try to keep its use to lighter days when leakage is not likely.
faranth22faranth22 on March 12th, 2013 03:10 am (UTC)
Could you just empty your cup before using your vibrator? No need to put it away during your period if you don't want to. I have a very low cervix, so things may be different for you, but I find that things return to normal in a rather short period of time.