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01 March 2013 @ 02:16 pm
Cervix! Ouch.
Just bought a Diva Size 2 (am 34, but have never had kids and have v good muscles - so actually feel like I should've got a smaller one) and have sussed out the insertion and removal, and have turned it inside out to make shorter...but the pain it is causing to my poor cervix is insane! The cup won't sit low, it slides up and so swallows my cervix and being new to this I'm not sure if it's the suction or the actual pressure from the cup touching my cervix that's causing the pain, but I've had to give up and resort to pads for the rest of my cycle.

I have never had any issues like this with tampons (but have been on the pill until recently so perhaps my dangly cervix is a new thing?), but hate the way they irritate and cause dryness to would like to get this cup thing sussed. Has anyone had this pain in the cervix issue? and if so has a shorter/softer/smaller etc cup helped? I do have trouble getting the diva to open, though this is easier now it's inside out, and theres no way I can get a finger all the way up to the rim to push the air out as I've seen suggested. I am deep, but with this new dangly earring I obviously need the cup to sit lower? The pain was worse when sitting, and is still pretty sore actually lol, but it's a nice distraction from the normal cramps I suppose. I have looked at the Meluna - looks like there is a mini size, but because this diva seems to want to ride up as far as it can, I worry that a shorter cup is going to do the same and then just be a cradle for my darn cervix and not leave and room for the puddle! I have a light/med flow.
I have just signed up to LJ so I hope I worked that LJCut right, and apologies if I missed a post in the archives on this! Thanks in advance for any help!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 1st, 2013 01:35 am (UTC)
If the cup sits high then you don't need to flip it inside out to shorten it. Turn it back right-side out. A shorter cup will make the issue worse, not better.

The pain will probably subside as your body adjusts to wearing the cup. Bear with it as best you can and suddenly it (probably) won't be there any more.

Divas are notoriously difficult to learn to pop open because they have tiny little anti-suction holes around the rim. Sometimes it helps to enlarge them.

You're on the right track. Keep doing what you're doing. All you need to do is learn to trust it. It takes a couple of cycles before you do. Otherwise, you've got it. :o)
user161 on March 1st, 2013 01:44 am (UTC)

That makes sense about the length and turning it inside out didn't lessen the pain that's for sure - I'd read somewhere else that it would help - it did make it easier to turn/open though... I'll keep at it, and work on the relaxing side of things! Thanks for replying!
Zzsomeone on March 1st, 2013 02:15 am (UTC)
Any cup is going to ride up as you move around, no matter where you set it. That's just what they do, if that's where one sits for you that's where they'll all go. A shorter cup might get out of your reach, since you say you're deep.

I've had bad cervix pain with cups. In my case, switching to a cup with a wider rim (MeLuna for me) helped the problem tons. Size doesn't seem to be a factor for me, I have a medium and a large and both feel the same. I don't think width is a big deal, my meduim fits snug but I can wear the large with no problem.

Warning- TMI land: I have a very low cervix that I can easily feel, and with my original cup (meduim Fleurcup) that hurt, I could feel a deep "dent" it was leaving that hurt to even touch. With my MeLunas I have a little sensitivity but no obvious denting or pain, and the rims are signifigantly wider.

Both my meLunas are the silver glitter, which is one of the softest. I'm really don't know how much difference this makes cervix-wise. They're not easy to open, but I've learned.
user161 on March 1st, 2013 03:07 am (UTC)
Good to hear I'm not alone (but sorry you had the pain!) and that you've been able to find one that works for you - it gives me hope! Perhaps a wider rim and softer cup could help, I'll have to keep on experimenting. Thanks for your help!:)
stormbeach galantingsilvereality on March 2nd, 2013 08:36 pm (UTC)
I was about to write with almost exactly the same problem. I had been considering the medium Fleurcup because it is softer than the Divacup, but if you're saying that did not solve the problem, I don't know which cup to try next.

So, like the OP, I have a dangling cervix. It is really close to the opening of my vagina and dangles quite a bit. I'm glad I'm not the only one, but in terms of using menstrual cups, it seems like we might not be too much in luck. It has made me really sick in the past to have the cup hitting the cervix. I am assuming part of the problem was the cervix sitting inside the cup, causing contact which makes me nauseous.
Zzsomeone on March 2nd, 2013 08:43 pm (UTC)
In my case I think it's the thickness of the rim that makes the difference. Since that's not a statistic they put on the charts, I guess you'd have to look at comparism photos to get some idea.

Me, I just saw somebody's post about a MeLuna glitter and bought one on impulse, got lucky.
juliiie87juliiie87 on March 3rd, 2013 05:23 pm (UTC)
Most cups will sit (o) around the cerix, because there's no way to keep them low if there's room above for them to ride up. Wide, bell-shaped cups are usually recommended to folks with a dangly cervix, that includes Meluna, Si-bell, Fleurcup, and possibly Sckoon & Femmycycle, which few people have tried yet. The main difference between those is length. The Si-bell is basically a softer version of the Fleurcup, but the Fleurcup is already fairly soft, so different people will have different sensitivities. Compare them here : http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/cup-stiffness-comparison-chart/ and here : http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/
tinkerandcrab: hookahtinkerandcrab on March 1st, 2013 04:00 am (UTC)
While I don't think my cervix is as dangly as yours, OP, I am also pretty "deep" and I would advise you to not shy away from (slightly) shorter cups... it took quite a bit of practice, but I learned how to use my muscles to move the cup down upon removal, and now I have almost no problem getting out my small Lunette, even though based on my measurements alone it would seem like the wrong cup for me. Actually, before I figured out how to "Kegel" the cup down, I invested in two longer cups (Natural Mamma and XL Meluna Soft), but there didn't seem to be much improvement with those cups in terms of reachability, and then once I figured out how to squeeze the cup down myself, I went back to the Lunette Small because I found it the most comfortable. Now, I've never had your specific issue so I don't know if that brand would be the best for you, but I would definitely take the others posters' advice and look at different shapes and perhaps softer cups but don't worry so much about length... good luck!
user161 on March 3rd, 2013 01:54 am (UTC)
Yesterday was the last day of my period and the lightest, and my cervix was sitting up a bit higher so I tried the cup again, and this time it sat nice and low, and wasn't tight around my cervix, it was sitting around it nicely and there was a little bit of pain but certainly not the agony of a few days ago!
So...maybe the cup may sat lower this time around because I am more used to the idea, or more relaxed or maybe because it wasn't bashing my cervix in the face and causing agony there was less tension/tighter muscles. Or all of the above most likely.
Will be interesting to see how it goes next month.

I must admit the whole idea of my cervix moving is new to me, it never changed noticably when I was on the pill (recently came off it after 17 years) so it is all a learning curve. I think the idea of a bigger rim/wider circumference sounds interesting, I may have a look for one and try it and then report back. Maybe the meluna in a large.

Anyhow thanks all for the help, and I'll update down the line.
juliiie87juliiie87 on March 3rd, 2013 05:16 pm (UTC)
Re: Update
Very few cups are wider than a large Diva :

Softness may also go a long way in terms of comfort, since the Diva is pretty thick and medium stiffness :

Cups usually sit (o) around the cervix, at least for most people, however high or low yours happens to be on that day. So if the Diva fits length-wise, you don't need a shorter cup. If you're still having trouble on your low-cervix days next period, you could consider a large Si-bell, which is basically a softer Fleurcup.

Edited at 2013-03-03 05:17 pm (UTC)