I've been watching his community for a while, but this is my first post on livejournal so I'm not exactly sure what I'm doing here, lol.
Anyway I'm a 21 year old virgin and I just tried out my green lunette (small) for the first time. So on the first day of my period (today) I boiled the cup and got ready to pop it in. I was all mentally prepared but...
I squatted down and tried the labia fold, the origami fold and the 7-fold, which are all supposedly good for virgins. None of them worked! I could not get the cup in past the rim, or at all. I was using watser as lube. I had moderate success with the seven fold--the tip went in fine but the bottom was too wide and got stuck... then it popped open and out of my vagina at the same time. Ouch! This happened about 2 times, then I tried the other 2 folds I mentioned. I'm so frustrated; I've done a lot of research about menstrual cups (and virginity) in the past month so I thought I'd be able to handle it. I even had a mirror resting on the toilet to so could see what I was doing.
I made about 7-10 attempts before giving up for the day; I was a little sore.
Either my vaginal opening is too small/tight or my hymen was blocking the cup. I did part the labia and stretch the hymen but it always snapped right back and even seemed to push the cup rim out.
I can fit my middle finger inside up to my second knuckle (slightly over 2 inches) ALSO both of my middle fingers are oddly bent at that knuckle so going in deep is difficult. I think I felt something, but I'm not sure if it was my cervix or just some random tissue. Width-wise I can fit a finger and a half.
And yes, I was angling back toward my butt but it didn't seem to help.
So I guess I should ask how can I safely break my hymen? Do I even need to?
And did anyone else have this problem starting out? And how did you fix it?
Do I need a smaller and/or softer cup?
I'm going to try again tomorrow because (1) I paid $40 for this thing and (2) I am sick of putting my life on hold during my period. I wear cloth pads and organic tampons, but I leak sometimes and pads (even cloth, to an extent) make me feel wet and sticky. I have read posts here from virgins who have successfully gotten cups in so I know it's possible, but how? Even the virgins having trouble seem to be able to get it in, at the very least. :( :(