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albatrosswoman
23 February 2013 @ 03:03 pm
Hello all! I've been looking through the archives but I haven't really found an answer to this question. I'm 29 and have had two children vaginally--the second was 10lbs, 2oz with shoulders that got stuck. Doing the Kegels, but as you can imagine things are just not quite what they were. My cycle has returned after 13 months (it took forever!) and it's so much heavier than it was. My size 2 Diva is just not up to the job--it slips and shifts really easily. I can't even take a walk to the corner and back without risking it popping out completely. Someone recommended a MeLuna XL but before I buy one I wanted to know if there was anything else? I've had three post-huge-baby cycles and they've all been horrors. My cervix is somewhat low, I guess.

ETA: If it helps I used the size 1 Diva for 2 years pre-babies and the size 2 Diva between Daughter 1 and Daughter 2 with no issues whatsoever.

ETA 2, ten days later (for anyone doing a search): The suggestion to turn the Size 2 Diva inside out worked like a charm. I used a cloth pad as backup for the first two days (and was glad I did for the first overnight) but otherwise this was a perfect solution. Glad I didn't spend the $$ on a new cup!
 
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on February 23rd, 2013 03:10 pm (UTC)
Compare the dimensions of your Diva to the others at the size charts at the Community FAQ or http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ Also compare the shape at the sites with side by side photos.

I suspect that your vag has shortened a bit so try flipping your Diva inside out to shorten it and see if it fits you better that way. And I also agree that things are not quite like they used to be so keep up on your kegels to tone things up.


As for Kegel exercises, there are many different kegel tools. Some are hands-on and require interaction -- such as wands or tethered "orgasm balls" or gizmos that look kinda like speculums. My favorite tool is just plain Ben Wa Balls. Start with ones that are about 1" and 3/4oz apiece and then graduate to those that are appx 3/4" and 1oz apiece. The idea is to insert them and keep them in while you walk around, do the dishes, etc. Start with 20 minutes a day and build from there. The longer you keep them in, they harder they'll be to keep them inside. That's what's working your PCs -- hands free, no interaction required. Do this at home. Be sure to remember to remove them (relax, cough and catch) before going out or using the toilet.

But it has recently come to light that kegel exercises are not enough. You will need to add squats (for the butt muscles) and lower abdominal crunches to your exercise routine. They all work together to tone vaginal muscles.
juliiie87juliiie87 on February 25th, 2013 11:32 am (UTC)
I second looking at the charts, and would like to warn you that the XL Meluna is actually the same length as your Diva, just a different shape... You may want to look into the large Fleurcup & Si-bell, which are shorter (the Si-bell being basically a slightly softer version of the Fleurcup). It's not unusual to find that your cervix ends up being lower than it used to be after giving birth.
pandauraepandaurae on February 25th, 2013 05:52 pm (UTC)
Long term reader, first time commenter - GREAT info on this site!

I've encountered the exact same issue as you, however I didn't even know about menstrual cups until after the birth of my first child (9lb 10oz - forceps) and my cycle returned after about a year (I'm now 19months post-partum). After suffering abysmal failure of previously-succesful tampons (my body somehow folded one in half!), I searched for alternatives and discovered the joy of cups!

I first tried the Diva 2, but my extremely low cervix would constantly push it out during the first couple days of my cycle (it moves up between day 3-4 and stays up there for the remainder). After trying a few different sizes and brands, I've now settled on the Meluna Mini (same width of the Diva 2 but much shorter) for the first few days then a L Fleurcup for the rest (when my cervix moves back up).

This is my goldilocks combination and is working fantastic! I have been doing Kegels everyday, multiple times a day but admit I haven't been doing squats or abdominal crunches like I should - as if you have much time for that while chasing a toddler around, lol! But really, I don't feel it's my tone so much as my cervix.

Capacity is not a concern for me, tho, as I don't seem to be bleeding any more than before childbirth. But I think with my very-low cervix (which likes to peek at me sometimes!) I don't feel I have much choice in cups those first few days (even the Fleurcup gets pushed out!). The Mini will sometimes start to get pushed out, but I find that if I lay down for a couple of minutes after insertion and relax, the cup will settle around my cervix and I'm assured of good suction. Kinda weird, but that's my experience!

I hope that helps. Good luck!
teacupcake89 on April 3rd, 2013 10:31 am (UTC)
Just seen your update! Glad you didn't have to buy another cup, but at least you have all the info in the comments here if you find you want more capacity at night etc :)