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14 February 2013 @ 07:43 am
This may seem like a ridiculous question, but I have been a COMPLETLEY" satisfied cup user for nearly 10 yrs now (I am on the hunt for a new cup to replace my beloved keeper as it's starting to show signs of needing replacement). I have talked to a couple of my friends about switching but they usually respond with a typical "GROSS!" that most women jump to when they don't understand what it is, or how it works.

I know that one of my friends definitely won't ever try it, but I was rather hoping that I could still find a way to encourage other friends to look into it.

My 13 yr old daughter recently started using a cup and loves it - if a young teen can get over it surely a grown woman can! LOL I was shocked when I asked our doctor about the cup as an option for her in lieu of pads she had never heard of them & recommended she not use anything you have to insert! Just goes to show that even a medical professional is inclined to discourage the use of something they don't understand, even before they research it! That happened at least a year and a half ago, and I'd be willing to be she hasn't given cups a second thought since then and still knows nothing about them. What a shame!
 
juliiie87juliiie87 on February 14th, 2013 01:58 pm (UTC)
I've shown my cup to my closest friends (and a few acquaintances) one on one, with lots of warning beforehand that this might seem "weird" at first, but that I hoped they'd keep an open mind and tried to understand the awesomeness beyond the weirdness. Usually when a friend complains about their period or other "womanly" issues sounds like the perfect time. I've also bombared the ones who where at least remotely interested with links on how and why tampons and disposable pads aren't really safe nor sanitary, expensive and just "gross" for the sewage system, and the landfills, plus the various size charts & this community for them to figure out what might fit them and get acquainted with cups in pictures. One way has been to set up a multiple facebook convo with a friend that I converted to cups, providing links and buying recommendations and directly answering any questions our friends might have. I noticed that our word of experience reassured them. This way some of them could just read the messages and not take part in the conversation if they didn't want to. (Now that I think of it, my friend had been talking to these friends IRL previously and they all showed an interest, so it wasn't random evangelism either. Obviously if someone isn't interested, I try my best to just shut my big mouth and change the subject.)

Edited at 2013-02-14 04:07 pm (UTC)
Ashatenlegspider on February 14th, 2013 02:28 pm (UTC)
I don't know, but most people don't appreciate evangelism so I think you need to err on the side of talking less and just hoping it's working through their brain. Ultimately it's none of your business what they do with their waste tissue, and it's important not to act like you think it is!

When you do talk about it, leave the environmental stuff out of it as people who aren't already convinced take this as you telling them that they need to do something weird and uncomfortable to protect the icecaps and can't they just bleed in peace ffs!?
a clockwork cuttlefishcastalianspring on February 14th, 2013 02:58 pm (UTC)
It is very, very hard for many women to get past the social conditioning they've had all their lives the tells them periods and vaginas are dirty and horrible and shouldn't be touched (except by a man in the latter case). This is why applicator tampons and "quiet wrappers" and all these things exist, why so many women don't know how their own anatomy even works, and why such a hands-on approach such as cup use will still be met with an "ew, gross!".

It's something we'll have to get past slowly, and honestly a lot of that starts at home. You're doing the best thing by teaching your daughter to be open about these ideas and showing her there's nothing wrong with knowing your body. As for cup evangelism, you really have to pick and choose your audience carefully. I've converted a grand total of one person, and I knew her well enough to know that the cost and environmental factors would be the best selling points. With other friends, I don't think those same arguments would work. Mostly I just try to show how easy and convenient it is if asked, and try not to push anything too much. And if I get an "ew, gross!", then I leave it for another day because that's a lot of social conditioning I'm not going to be able to fight, sadly.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on February 14th, 2013 03:27 pm (UTC)
Fortunately, most of my friends have been politely curious about cups but only one of them actually tried one. As a long time pad user, she decided they just weren't for her -- but at least she tried. And surprisingly, my guy friends have been more open to the idea (for their wives, girlfriends, daughters, etc) because they seem to view it as a "tool" that replaces disposable products.

My Gyno had never heard of a cup until I showed her mine. And now she, her nurse practitioner and her staff think cups are great. Many asked to see mine after I first told them about it.
mood_swinger23 on February 15th, 2013 07:43 pm (UTC)
I bet they also like the idea that they would never have to go to the drugstore again to pick up feminine items! ;)
m03m on February 14th, 2013 06:10 pm (UTC)
Ive talked to friends, resulting in two or three of them getting a cup of their own. I've mentioned cups on my blog. And I've made a small poster and hung it in the women's toilet in my local hackerspace.
jennaskiing on February 14th, 2013 09:27 pm (UTC)
Interesting ideas. I haven't ever really tried to "evangelize", I mainly was interested in how others inform friends about the option. I think the main reason I was interested in breaching the subject was the fact that I have several friends that:

A) have complained about the monthly cost of tampons & pads
B) complain about the discomfort & dryness with tampons & the gross factor/heat factor with pads
C) complain that there isn't a more discreet option (ie, they don't like to carry the supply of tampons & pads during their cycle, they hate having to take their purse to the restroom at work, they don't like the tell-tale "signs" left in the garbage at friends' homes when they have to change
D) (likely the biggest complaint other than the cost) I have several friends that are very athletic & active & hate that during their cycle they aren't as confident in their protection when they swim, workout, etc

I guess I will just mention it if something like that comes up again. I am just happy that I have saved well over $2000 just myself in the last 9+ yrs & my daughter will never have to worry about TSS. :)
anjeaanjea on February 15th, 2013 05:23 am (UTC)
I was going to comment something like this. I only mention it if the opportunity comes up, as in the above situations. I would also add it comes up when someone asks to bum a tampon or pad, and I say I don't have them because I use a cup, and the conversation follows.
Ide Cyanide_cyan on February 15th, 2013 02:13 pm (UTC)
I bring it up with people when it seems remotely on topic; sometimes somewhat more proselytisingly than I ought to.

Earlier this week a local hospital had a live chat on Twitter (@HopitalChildren) about menstruation & teens and I chimed in, adding that the Diva wasn't the only cup out there & linking to this community. I'm not sure how many people were watching, though, there were very few other people using the topic's hashtag.
neetzscheneetzsche on February 15th, 2013 07:46 pm (UTC)
Only one person knows I use cups, My boyfriend. Funny story about that though: we've never talked about it, but when he was cleaning the bathroom he put my pantyliners and my lunette in my box of tampons. So I suppose he must have googled it but never brought it up in conversation.

My friends were how I learned about menstrual cups and they were grossed out so I don't bring it up when we have period chat.

I haven't told my mom either. She asked me if I have enough money for pads and stuff the other day and I told her yes :P

So I just talk about it online, mostly here.
thelittleredfoxthelittleredfox on February 19th, 2013 08:21 pm (UTC)
I've never brought it up with any friends myself, but one of my work colleagues posted a video promoting uk mooncup mentrual cups on facebook, and I commented on the thread saying how much I love mine. This is the advert for mooncup on youtube if you haven't seen it:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9zj4NhC8ahM