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31 January 2013 @ 01:14 am
Hello everyone! I have a Diva Cup, size 1, and I've had it for a couple of years now. When I first got it, I never had any issues with it leaking. Over the past year or so, however, I've noticed that it will occasionally leak, and I cannot for the life of me figure out why. I always check the suction and placement, and there never seems to be any issue, but lo and behold, once or twice during my period, I'll find a damp, red/pink spot on my underwear from it leaking. During those times, the cup doesn't feel any different inside me; it almost feels as if I'm leaking from the walls of my vagina, rather than my cervix (which is probably due to blood slowly trickling down from wherever/however it's leaking out of my cup). I checked the tags on this, and it seems there could be a few possibilities, but I wanted to get some thoughts:

I do stretch out the holes when I clean my cup, because otherwise they will not unclog. I'm wondering if this has caused or led to the cup leaking.

I've become sexually active since purchasing my cup, which has more than likely caused changes in my vagina's topography, which could lead to how the cup sits in there (though when I first became active, the leaking wasn't an issue).

I've had sex multiple times with the cup in which may have somehow ... changed it? I don't even know.

What are some suggestions for fixing this problem? Should I just switch to a new cup? I have sort of been wanting to get a new one anyway, just because I can, but I also don't mind saving money if there's a free fix for this. Thanks so much in advance. :D
mood_swinger23 on January 31st, 2013 07:42 am (UTC)
Okay- I'm going to be that person who raises eyebrows and has to ask-- pardon my bit of ignorance-- you've had sex with your Diva cup in? (I mean, I'm newish here but I've only heard of insteads being used for sex, not something as long or seemingly obstrusive as a Diva!)

In regards to the rest of it, upon seeing your post I initially was going to ask if you were more sexually active now than before, thinking it could be an issue. Another thought that comes to mind-- are you more or less active now than before? Started yoga or pilates or anything? Maybe your muscles have tightened or weakened with age (or change in physical activity)?

Other thought/suggestion/question: are you sure it's a leak and not what is referred to as residual slobber? (What doesn't get cleaned out between cup changes?)

It never hurts to have a second cup, whether for flow/capacity changes or just to have a spare in case something happens to yours (says the one who questioned why people had so many cups and in the matter of 4 months has accumulated three!)!

Sorry if none of this is helpful, my brain's half dead but I wanted to add my two cents.
Andreafushigi_na_chou on January 31st, 2013 08:13 am (UTC)
Haha, yes, I've had sex with my Diva Cup in. Sometimes he and I can feel it, sometimes only one of us can feel it, but most times neither of us can feel it. It's surprising, but not entirely unusual. The vagina lengthens during arousal, and my cervix is pretty high up anyway. :)

You know what; I hadn't even considered "residual slobber" as a culprit. That might actually be what it is (since my cup has never been full full before). Any thoughts on how I can fix that if that is the problem?
m03m on January 31st, 2013 06:30 pm (UTC)
I wear black underwear.
Andreafushigi_na_chou on January 31st, 2013 10:47 pm (UTC)
Haha, that would certainly fix the problem of it staining, but it's sort of uncomfortable when I can feel it. :x
m03m on February 1st, 2013 06:53 am (UTC)
Ah, yeah, if it's so much that you can feel it then that's not so great.
tauqtauq on January 31st, 2013 08:06 am (UTC)
I'm hoping by 'sex' you mean 'sexual activity' and not vaginal penetration. Having sex with your Divacup in seems painful and not fun at all!

Sex aside, as long as you feel suction, the holes should be fine. You can always fill your cup with water and double check one of the holes isn't torn or something though. If it's an occasional leak, it may just be full? Or possibly blood sitting around your cup, from when you reinsert, eventually leaking down?

Also, our bodies are constantly changing as well. There's a chance you may need to look into upgrading to the 2nd Diva size, if you're thinking about buying a new cup.
Andreafushigi_na_chou on January 31st, 2013 08:14 am (UTC)
No, I do mean penetration. Sometimes it's uncomfortable, in which case we stop and I either take it out or we just do other things, but most times it's not. :)

The other person that commented also suggested residual blood leaking down being the culprit. If this is the problem, how would one fix it, if possible?
ElianaOpalopal581 on January 31st, 2013 09:23 am (UTC)
I avoid residual slobber. By wiping my vagina thoroughly with toilet paper after insertion. (I also have sex with my cup in.)
Andreafushigi_na_chou on January 31st, 2013 05:53 pm (UTC)
I do that, but it doesn't seem to make a difference. :x
tauqtauq on February 2nd, 2013 07:34 am (UTC)
I'm actually a little jealous! Having sex with the cup in is rather... unpleasant for me. There's just no where it wants to go that isn't painful really!

As for the residual slobber, I can only suggest what's already been said. Besides using TP for the stuff that leaks out while removing the cup, I also run my finger along the edge after inserting. It not only cleans, but also helps me make sure my cup is open and in place. Granted, I'm in my own bathroom where I can reach the sink from my toilet and quickly rinse off! (I squick a bit when it comes to period blood)

If the problem persists though, once again I'd say upsize your cup!
juliiie87juliiie87 on January 31st, 2013 09:49 am (UTC)
The way I (mostly) avoid residual slobber is by wearing a cup before my period starts, not let it overflow, wipe thoroughly, and sometimes direct the showerhead down there when needed. this is not recommended if you're prone to infections and such, but that's not my case. You could also sweep around your vag with a clean finger.
Andreafushigi_na_chou on January 31st, 2013 05:55 pm (UTC)
You could also sweep around your vag with a clean finger.

I'm not usually squicked out by my own body functions and stuff (or even my own menstrual blood), but the thought of putting my finger up there when I'm on my period, especially the first day or so when it's heaviest (which is when I have the issues, though my cup isn't really that full or overflowing or anything) just ... 8D But it is a thought, and I might consider giving it a try. Thanks. :)
Tessgryphonwing on January 31st, 2013 01:03 pm (UTC)
I agree with the "residual slobber" diagnosis, heh. I did want to chime in and say that the Diva's holes are *tiny* and even if you've managed to enlarge them that wouldn't make your cup leak. Besides, if it's full to the holes, it's pretty damn full - you'd be able to tell, when you changed it, that you were overflowing.

On the off chance that it isn't just residual blood, it's possible that you're just getting older and the size 1 isn't fitting as well. It's a natural part of aging that we lose muscle tone in the region, which is why larger cups are recommended for older people. Now, what "larger" means varies - the small Diva is huge compared to some other brands' smalls, heh. But all other things equal, you may just need a larger cup as you get older. Personally, I would try to rule out slobber first, though. :)
Andreafushigi_na_chou on January 31st, 2013 05:56 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I'll try to rule that out. All this talk of getting older though concerns me. I'm only 26 -- I didn't think that was that old in vagina years. 8D
m03m on February 1st, 2013 06:57 am (UTC)
Well, many cup companies do advise their larger size to women of 30 and over. And those are only guidelines, so many of us use smaller cups at an older age, or larger at a younger age. There is nothing wrong with that.

Our bodies change all through our lives. It's not something most of us spend much time thinking about, but it's true. You're not old, in fact I'd call you young, but you're older than you were ten years ago.