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25 January 2013 @ 12:50 pm
Hello everyone,
I'm new to this site, but I was hoping I could get some advice about which second cup to purchase. I've looked around and I still can't decide which cup to get! So many options and choices!

This community is great and I have looked through a ton of the posts over the past couple months. Thanks for all the info and help!

I am a 23 year old who is sexually active and has had no children.
I finally got past the learning curve with my size 1 Diva cup, after probably like 6 or seven cycles of frustration and leaks.

This past cycle I have located my cervix and figured out the best techniques for me (punch down) for opening and placement around my cervix.
Turns out that my cervix points to the right, so for a while I was unknowingly inserting my cup next to it instead of around it, and the divacup would travel way up and not collect anything...
I'm also looking for a cup with a rim that is thinner because of the way I have to 'hook my cup' around the right side, since my cervix pretty much points right at the right wall. Though the Diva seems to be one of the cup brands with the least notice-able rim that I have seen...

Too much info maybe, but I have trouble using the bathroom with my cup in (pee or bowel movement) , and would like the convenience of not taking my cup out, like while at work, in a hurry, or in a public restroom. Also, I can feel my diva cup and it sometimes makes me a bit sore, or gives me kind of a crampy feeling.

Diva's length doesn't bother me, though my stem is trimmed off and I can still pinch the bottom of the cup. I never fill my cup up more than 3/4, even on my heaviest days. I am looking for something softer.
Considering Ladycup or Cuplee because of their softness.
Anyone have any input? Thanks for reading!! :D
kathrynsa: Meluna Menstrual Cupkathrynsa on January 25th, 2013 06:29 pm (UTC)
Goldilocks cup . . .

I am a reseller for MeLuna (so I admit that I am biased towards the brand).

After reading your post, I can inform you that MeLuna offers you a large range of choices in cups: 3 different firmness levels (You may want to take a look at their MeLuna Soft range; 4 different stem-styles; 4 different sizes and they even give you a wide choice of colours for good measure!! :-)

Take a look at our manufacturer's website (It opens in German, but you can change it to English)

juliiie87juliiie87 on January 25th, 2013 06:51 pm (UTC)
Cuplee ftw !

Seriously, I love this cup. I'm not sure what you mean by a thinner rim...? It is definitely one of the softest, and I never take it out to use the bathroom. Other very soft options include large & small Si-bell and medium & large Meluna soft. All should be slightly shorter than your Diva, some including a longer stem that you can trim if needed (be careful that not all the styles in Melunas are easily trimmable).

Basically, the main difference between those cups and the Cuplee lie in shape : the Cuplee is V-shaped, similar to a Diva, while the others are more bell-shaped. I can't tell you what would fit you best, think of how your Diva sits, how it may rub you inside towards the bottom (or not), and what kind of bottom looks easier to grap and remove, in your opinion (I personally find the V-shape easier, but to each their own).
Jennifer Monoteasy2begreen on January 25th, 2013 07:33 pm (UTC)
I have a small LadyCup, and it is my most reliable and comfortable cup. However, I'm not sure it would be right for you, since the top third of the LadyCup is quite firm -- a bit firmer than the Diva -- and then the bottom two thirds are very soft and squishy. I don't mind the rim because it pops open easily and I don't feel it once it's in, but it might be hard for you to angle or manipulate.

Most soft cups are harder to open, but I found the Meluna soft really difficult to pop open -- the material it's made out of (TPE) is not quite as springy as silicone. I haven't personally handled a Si-Bell, but it's supposed to be similar in shape to a Fleur but much softer.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on January 25th, 2013 07:47 pm (UTC)
Since you're happy with the dimensions of the Diva, use the size charts at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ or the FAQ to eliminate cups whose dimensions are "too different." Then use the links to the side-by-side photos to compare the ones that remain on your "maybe" list.

I believe that a range of cups will fit you but the SHAPE of one of those will ultimately make it your Goldilocks cup.
mood_swinger23 on January 25th, 2013 07:52 pm (UTC)
You may want to consider either a small or large Fleurcup as well. They are relatively soft with decent capacity (large holds more so I think it would fit your criteria of not having to change it while in public). There are usually good sales with them, too.

I wouldn't necessarily say the rim is thin on these, however. But since I can't really tell what you mean by needing a thinner rim because of where your cup is sitting, I figured I would recommend it none the less, for its softness and capacity.
juliiie87juliiie87 on January 25th, 2013 08:01 pm (UTC)
It's true that the rim of the Fleurcup (& Si-bell too) has this special feature, it's flared, which makes it very easy to pop open. However, out of the two the Si-bell is the softest and in this sense more different from a Diva.
dirfa on January 25th, 2013 09:26 pm (UTC)
I mostly use a Meluna soft size S during my period, since I have a hormone IUD and hardly bleed at all. Even though I have a small soft cup, which is almost empty most of the time, I still prefer to remove it during bowel movements. It's not that I can't use the bathroom with my cup in, it's just that sometimes it hurts a bit and sometimes it just doesn't work so well, if you know what I mean... :p Maybe it's because I have an inflammatory bowel disease and my bowels often are a bit swollen, but it doesn't seem to matter if I use a big or a small cup, if it's firm or soft. And maybe I'm just very sensitive down there because of my disease. But it's nothing I can't live with really, and I love my cup anyway. Don't worry about not getting the soft Meluna to pop open, I've always used Meluna and sure, it took a few days to get the hang of it, and it surely doesn't "pop" open, but it opens allright! Maybe it's just a bit slower than other cups. Be sure to hold your finger beside the cup for a few seconds to let the air in, and you shouldn't have any problems.

However - MeLuna has a bit of a rim (it's very soft though) so maybe it's not for you. Mostly wanted to share my experience of bowel movements while using my cup, and tell you that a softer cup might not fix the problem entirely, if you're as sensitive as me.

Edited at 2013-01-25 09:29 pm (UTC)
moonhoney925 on January 25th, 2013 11:42 pm (UTC)
If you like the shape of the Diva but want something softer then I would go for the Cuplee, like Juliiie87 said.
fruitbat13fruitbat13 on January 26th, 2013 02:06 am (UTC)

Thanks everyone for the input!
I have looked at all the charts, pictures, and videos I could find for the last couple months and my boyfriend thinks I am a bit obsessed... haha Thanks noteasy2begreen for the info on the ladycup rim being harder than the rest of the cup.
I think that cuplee seems like my best bet at this point, but I will still look at the charts for a bit to make sure, like maybe still considering shecup, rubycup or maybe even soft meluna. Thanks kuradi8 for the chart you posted, (couldn't find that one for some reason.)

As far as the rim thickness thing I was talking about in the original post, the way my cup sits, my cervix points almost right on my right wall on the inside, so I have to slide my cup between the wall and the cervix to make sure it doesn't leak, but perhaps with a wider cup I wouldn't have to do that and it would just catch my flow anyway.
fruitbat13fruitbat13 on October 23rd, 2013 06:20 pm (UTC)
Hello again! I ended up purchasing 2 fleurcups, one small and one large, because I was unsure about which size to get and they were on sale so I was getting a good deal. The Large size was too big for me, it was hard to get in/out and didn't open fully.
The small fleurcup is the one I use, but it seems to leak randomly all the time. I have resorted to also using cloth menstrual pads (which work very well for me). I probably should try my Diva cup again to see if it works better now that it has been almost two years of using a menstrual cup and I am more used to it. I am maybe looking to purchase another cup, after I try my Diva cup again.

Edited at 2013-10-23 06:21 pm (UTC)