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22 January 2013 @ 05:58 pm
Hi Everyone,

I'm very new to menstrual cups, I have never tried them before. I was wondering what cup I should buy? I'm a heavy bleeder and a virgin. I have never used tampons, apart from one attempt about a year ago. I have been told cups can be very unpleasant and painful to use if you are a virgin, which is making me feel very nervous and hesitant about trying them

I bought a L and XL Me-luna because the XL meluna is supposed to have the highest capacity. I have not received these cups yet, so I can't say how it went yet.

I was also wondering a good place to buy cups? I don't live in Europe or the US or anywhere near there and the cost of buying these cups is really too much for me. I am a student who only has a small income which makes it really difficult for me once you add shipping on top!

I am very keen about trying the Femmycycle, which I will try out probably soon. The shipping from overseas makes it very difficult to afford these cups. The juju is also another one I want to try out, but it's extremely expensive without the shipping :(
moonhoney925 on January 22nd, 2013 09:11 am (UTC)
Hi, I am a little confused with your post because you are asking which cup to buy but you've already purchased the 2 larger Melunas.

I would try the Melunas first before wanting to try anything else.

Good luck with it all :)
Cuppermoonserenity92 on January 22nd, 2013 12:13 pm (UTC)
I was just wondering if that was the best choice.

I had done some research on capacity of many brands thought the meluna would be the best for me, cost wise and capacity wise. But I'm not entirely sure, just thought I'd ask.. especially after a lady told me that the L and XL meluna could cause discomfort.. I was just a bit hesitant :)

I'll see how the meluna goes
moonhoney925 on January 22nd, 2013 12:32 pm (UTC)
Everyone is different. The Melunas might not be suitable for the lady you spoke to but they maybe fine for you. Her dimensions may be different to your's if you get my drift. Also her periods may differ from your's too.

In other words there is no good cup or bad cup just the right one.

I myself am also a heavy bleeder especially on the first couple of days and I have a high cervix as well. In my case I need something with a high capacity and a long stem- a Meluna is not suitable for me. I have a Large Lunette and Fleurcup. I couldn't decide if I wanted a stiff or a soft cup so I purchased both, I still cannot decide which one I prefer :)

BTW I'm Australian and the Juju is expensive here as well. The cheapest I have seen it for was AUD52.00- not including the postage charges.

Edited at 2013-01-22 12:37 pm (UTC)
teacupcake89 on January 22nd, 2013 09:28 am (UTC)
Don't buy any more cups until you've tried your melunas for a couple of cycles and get through the learning curve.

have a look at the Virgin's Guide to cups post and comments here: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/1243131.html#comments

The key to successful insertion is relaxation, lubrication and practice! so get yourself some water-based lube like KY or coconut oil to help with insertion. Get used to being hands on with your body, try and locate your cervix if you can, as you need to aim your cup towards it and its position during your period will determine how high/low your cup will sit.

are both your cups 'soft' ones? lots of virgins/young women successfully use 'large' cups because they have a heavy flow etc so it can be done!

Good luck! :)
Cuppermoonserenity92 on January 22nd, 2013 12:20 pm (UTC)
Thank you. Is there something else I can use for lubrication instead of KY gel or coconut oil? Maybe Vaseline?

The two cups were 'classic'. It was part of the 'starter set' I got from shop.menstrualcup.co. It was cheaper to buy in twos and I wanted to try the L and XL anyway. That is why I picked that set. I have read the soft is kind of awkward to insert, so I hope the classic is ok
teacupcake89 on January 22nd, 2013 12:52 pm (UTC)
actually softer cups are easier to insert as they're well, softer and can fold up narrower and are less likely to press on the bladder/feel uncomfortable. Don't worry about the stiffness for now though, you didn't get the ultra stiff 'sport' ones so I'm sure you'll be fine! try the large first and then use the xl if you need more (very high!)capacity :)

the good thing is you didn't make the common mistake of buying the shortest cup out there (meluna mini or small) because you're a virgin, only to find out that you have a high cervix and can't reach it for removal!

Vaseline isn't really the best idea as it's oil based which makes it difficult for the vagina to remove from the body (if you put it on yourself or the cup) and it can wear the cup material down over timw.

You could try wetting the cup, putting some spit on you etc, but lube is pretty cheap from chemists etc or coconut oil (as it's naturally anti-fungal so won't give you a yeast infection) from health food stores etc.

Edited at 2013-01-22 12:57 pm (UTC)
drawing_dwarfdrawing_dwarf on January 23rd, 2013 12:37 am (UTC)
I definitely wouldn't use Vaseline, it'll upset your vagina. I personally would stay away from any lube with petroleum products, but that's just a personal choice. Stay away from anything with glycerine or flavorings/sweeteners because those can cause yeast infections and irritation. Coconut oil is really easy to get a hold of and you can cook with it as well! But as other people have mentioned, if you can't get lube or coconut oil, spit would be a better option than Vaseline.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on January 22nd, 2013 02:18 pm (UTC)
Go to your local discounter, market and/or chemist and look in the feminine products aisle. They probably have a variety of personal lubricants there. Read the labels. Choose one that's water based. Read the ingredients. Avoid those that have silicone and glycerin. To use, put a pea-sized dab on your finger and then apply it to you, not the cup.

As the others have said, get through the learning curve with the cups that you already have before deciding if you want to try any others.
juliiie87juliiie87 on January 22nd, 2013 08:33 pm (UTC)
I completely support getting through the learning curve (2-3 periods) with your Melunas, and then if you're not happy with them, come back to us, we'll help you figure it out, and you'll make an educated purchase next time around (so you'll know what you didn't like about them, etc.). Wide cups are not usually recommended to virgins, but it's mostly a misconception. Virgin or not, you need to trust that your vagina is flexible, and it's only your muscles contracting that might make you feel "tight". Obviously it can be a bit awkward at first when you're not used to inserting things, but you'll get over it, just like any new cup user. The only possible difficulty lies at the very entrance of the vagina, some people have a bit of a "hymen" that might get in the way and need a little stretching to get more comfortable, but it's all stretchy, paper thin flesh anyway, not an actual barrier.

So definitely don't get another cup just yet, but in case you may have to later on, just a few links :

fleurcup.com/en (flat rate shipping and good sales)
luneshop.co.uk (free shipping... I don't really recommend a Lunette for you at this point though.)
obviously meluna.eu
And femininewear.co.uk for most brands.
Cuppermoonserenity92 on January 25th, 2013 01:47 am (UTC)
I told my mum about it as she wanted to know what I bought (she will find out anyway). She isn't happy about it. I did tell her about them a few months ago. She doesn't think it is something that will work for me and that I will stick to (she has little hope in me for everything..). She thinks it's a awkward and sounds gross. I told her the upsides of it helping the environment as well and helps pain for some people. She kept throwing in the negatives (told her those anyway). I really want to prove her wrong for once!
teacupcake89 on January 25th, 2013 04:41 pm (UTC)
there really aren't any negatives (apart from the learning curve which most women have with tampons to some extent anyway!)

don't worry about your mum's reaction, I would try not to mention cups again until you've got the hang of it and then only if it gets brought up just in case your mum says you 'cannot' use the cup (as happened with a teenager a while back who posted on here for advice, I think her mum threw it away so she couldn't use it!)

this post from melissa's blog 'Cups, still not convinced?' addresses the awkward/gross/messy/unhygienic queries clearly, http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/cups-still-not-convinced/ you could always email it to your mum!

Remember that all the 'negative' points your mum has about cups were applied to tanpons when they were first brought out, and cups were invented at the same time as them! Also that your mum might not like the idea of them, but that's fine because she doesn't have to use one! :D
daniellebee88daniellebee88 on January 25th, 2013 01:49 am (UTC)
I was a virgin too when I first started using cups (I recently married - but find no difference between using the cup then and now that I'm not a virgin).

It may hurt a bit at first trying it, but honestly, your vagina stretches beautifully (it pushes a baby out after all!) - but it's all about finding the right angle and folds.

I personally use the Lunette cup and it was around $40 (US dollars) including shipping. But it's been worth it definitely!

The key is to just go for it and not be nervous - the more nervous you are, the harder it is to use the cup. I just had to keep reminding myself that this was going to make my periods better in the long run and better for my body - and it's been a year since I started using almost! No regrets!
Cuppermoonserenity92 on January 29th, 2013 03:52 am (UTC)
My order came today. I think they are cute! haha. Will be testing them out today.