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04 December 2012 @ 10:11 am
Hey all!

I just bought my first cup, a small Diva, and was excited to try it as my period was just starting. I'm definitely having a few problems though...

Day 1: Inserted it in the shower, but couldn't get it to rotate - how do you get a grip on that thing?? I'll admit I panicked a bit when I couldn't grip it and found a way to remove it quickly (involving pliers and yanking on the stem). Paranoid, I tied a string to it and tried again, but my lady bits had enough by then.

Day 2: Got it in! But once again, couldn't rotate it. There's NO WAY I can cram a finger and a thumb up in there at the same time as the cup to rotate. Things went pretty well, but every once in awhile I could feel the stem rub if I sat a certain way. I also felt like I had to urinate more often.

Removal was also... less than fun, though better than expected. I managed to cram a finger in there to break the seal, but when it came to actually getting it out, I had so much trouble! The stem pushed to the side while I was busy figuring out the seal, and kept rubbing the lady bits uncomfortably. And between the stem and my finger plugging the hole, my thumb didn't stand a change of grabbing the base. Anyone else have a better solution to this? I ended up using the string I tied on for emergency to gently tug down the cup so I could reach it and remove, but I'd rather not have to deal with strings in the future (That's the joy of cups, not tampons!)

It's Day 3 now and I've gone back to pads, aka. diapers, to give my sore vag a break. The stem is what rubbed and made things a bit raw, but I'm paranoid that if I cut it I'll never be able to get it out! Anyone else have this predicament?
juliiie87juliiie87 on December 4th, 2012 06:29 pm (UTC)
We say this all the time here, I'm just gonna join the chorus and say it again : IGNORE the silly, unrealistic instructions that came with your Diva. You don't need to rotate the cup once you know it's open, and no, it won't necessarily "sit low in the vagina" either. The people who wrote those instructions obviously never used a cup, or rather, one that was the exact length of their vag and never sealed whitout twisting, which is not the maggiority here.

So... it seems to me that you are doing fine with insertion and removal, minus the expected teething troubles. Definitely don't trim the stem off until you've left the cup in for a few hours at a time, possibly at night, and preferably until the end of your period, unless it's absolutely excruciating, of course, then feel free to ignore me. The reason is, you can't put it back on in case your cervix happens to be higher on a give day (by which I mean your vag gets longer) and the cup rides up out of reach. However, you can flip the cup inside out and wear it that way to shorten it, but beware that this could make removal slightly trickier for lack of grip rings.

Removal : my prefered method is the "hot-dog-in-a-bun", where your longest finger does the sausage and the partially squished cup mimicks the bun. Reach in as far as you can below the cup, squish in, drag it closer a drawer using your fingernail / the edge of the rim to get a hold on the cup. Be aware that this method can be very messy on a full cup, so you may want to try this over the toilet (or squatting in the tub, but I find it makes it harder to insert finger). At most, you'll only need to insert the very tip of your thumb, before the knuckle, to grab hold of the base, but only when it's whithin reach. Also, it'll get MUCH easier if you can practice bearing down, as if you were trying to give birth to the cup, in order to bring it closer. And keep doing that during the whole removal process, as this should also keep your entrance more open/loose. Play around with positions to find the most comfortable for you, as they might impact on how easily you can reach in. Good luck, you're almost there !

Edited at 2012-12-04 06:32 pm (UTC)
Megan: DangCathdsqrl on December 4th, 2012 07:34 pm (UTC)
I see so many people recommend inserting/removing it in the shower, but I've had zero luck with that, personally. My best results come either sitting (and relaxed) on the toilet, or during my learning phase, lying back on the bed with knees bent as if I was at the OB/GYN's made insertion easier. Any other positions have me too tense for anything productive to happen. Perhaps the same is true of you...try another position and see if things go more as planned?
pinkmathpinkmath on December 5th, 2012 03:17 am (UTC)
Yes, this!
I actually still recommend removal in the shower withOUT the water running or you being soaked. But my "teething problem" was removing it slow enough to avoid getting the contents everywhere. So the shower stall or bath tub just made clean up easier.
lurkmaster10lurkmaster10 on December 5th, 2012 12:03 am (UTC)
I've never rotated my Diva; I just carefully run my finger around the outside of it to make sure it's opened fully.

For removal -since the stem sticks out a little which doesn't bother me at all- I just tug gently on the stem to move it down a little and then run my thumb up the cup in the hotdog-in-a-bun fold to break the seal, and pull it out. Then it's just dump, rinse, and reinsert.

I also insert and remove my cup while sitting on the toilet.
Michellemichelleh324 on December 5th, 2012 12:50 am (UTC)
Yes, trim your stem! My stem is completely removed. Just make sure that you can insert your fingers and pull it out before you do this.

If you keep having trouble, you may want to try a narrower cup.

And as said above, it is much easier if you're in a squatting/sitting position.

Edited at 2012-12-05 12:52 am (UTC)
tauqtauq on December 5th, 2012 07:15 pm (UTC)
Wow, thanks for all your input guys!!

I'm glad to hear the rotating thing isn't necessary. Most of the time I can feel it pop open right away, or after a few kegels, so I know it's all sealed.

I tried having it in overnight, but the stem bothered me so much I couldn't even sleep! I used your suggestions and tried the "hotdog in a bun" removal sitting on the toilet, and it worked like a charm - I hardly needed the stem at all to get it out! Plus I don't have to worry about mess clean up.

So I trimmed the stem and I've never been happier. It doesn't even feel like I'm on my period today! I never EVER thought I'd say this, but I can't wait until next month to give this a full cycle run. I'm pretty sure this is the best thing to ever happen to my periods.