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16 November 2012 @ 03:16 pm
I made a post maybe about two years ago about having problems trying to put a lunette cup in. well last night was the first time I've ever been able to insert it and now I can't take it out.

I've been trying for the last 4 hours and I just can't take it out. I stupidly trimmed some of the stem and now I can hardly get at it. I can reach the stem just barely, but I can't grip the bottom of the cup and I don't know what to do. I've tried to read past posts but i can barely settle myself. i am freaking out and i can't stop crying and i can't take deep breathes to calm myself.

the pubic bone is in the way and bearing down helps a little but i just can't get a grip on it. there's too much blood now and it's too slippery. someone suggested a spoon in a post, but didn't go into the specifics and i am going out of it i swear. i feel like squatting down is supposed to help but i can't seem to take deep breathes in that position and it's too uncomfortable for me and I end up just freaking out all over again.

i am so scared and it is not helping. i'm living by myself away from my family and i don't know anybody in this town and i don't own a car and i am freaking out. i want this thing out of me. i know this is common and i need to calm down but I really need some reassurance that this thing isn't going be stuck here all weekend and that I'll need to go to the doctors because I can't do that.

is it possible it can come out with exercise or a yoga position or even a bm I am seriously at the end of my tether here, even the idea of relaxing in a warm bath to help is making me feel claustrophobic.

eta - I was finally able to get it out! I had just about given up and was looking at the number for my university's health center (I even tried a spoon!), but then I decided to go take a shower and give it one last chance and after some squatting and A LOT of bearing down I was able to get it out.
juliiie87juliiie87 on November 16th, 2012 09:32 pm (UTC)
I know it's not what you want to hear, but just put on a pad and forget about it for a while. Yes, a bm is VERY likely to help bring the cup down. A hot bath or shower could help losen you up, but perhaps you need more than that : if you drink have a glass of wine, if you take anxiety meds have one, if you're more of a herbal tea person, have some soothing tea. Watch something silly on TV if that might help you feel better. Think positive, rememeber you can do this since others can ! You might also want to put on some relaxing music, do some stretching or yoga, light some candles, anything that'll help relax you. It'll just be that much easier if you're not a giant ball of nerves.

Squatting and bearing down is also something that shortens the vagina, but on the other hand it makes it hard to insert fingers, so how about just sitting on the toilet ? That way you won't have to worry about the mess. But seriously, you should try to forget about it and get in a better place mentally first. Nothing bad can happen if you leave it for a little longer, it's just going to overflow, and hence probyably get heavier and start dropping down. I know nothing about yoga, but I've heard of it, and I've heard of the spoon too, if you have a long one you could try that (or perhaps just the handle, if you can use it to press against the side of the cup and drag it out ? Idk how that would work out, I've never tried to be honest.. Please remember that it won't remain stuck forever, you can do this, everyone can, except for those who freak out and go to the ER, but it doesn't need to come to that. Your health is not threatened by a piece of silicone. Good luck, it'll be over soon !

Edited at 2012-11-16 09:34 pm (UTC)
bigwhoppersbigwhoppers on November 17th, 2012 02:04 am (UTC)
I know a lot of it was in my head so that made it all the more frustrating.

Thank you so much for the suggestions and for the reassurance. :)
silver_fyreflysilver_fyrefly on November 16th, 2012 10:03 pm (UTC)
Seconding the previous poster that I know its hard but you really do just have to try and relax. It won't stay up there forever and as it fills it will lower.

I'm wondering, if the issue is that it's too slippery can you maybe try wiping around thoroughly with toilet paper on the bits of the cup you can reach and the walls around and such? It might help you get a grip.
bigwhoppersbigwhoppers on November 17th, 2012 02:08 am (UTC)
I tried it but as soon as my finger came out with the tp, the cup would ride back up. ://

Thanks for helping.
teacupcake89 on November 16th, 2012 10:15 pm (UTC)
agreeing with everything above :) you're not the first person this has happened to (and won't be the last!) but we all made it through to the other side somehow so have faith :)

first of all: try to relax! (I know this is easier said than done but it really will help)

remember that it can't get stuck or lost, the worst that can happen is that it will overflow. if it's realllly not coming out last case senario you could use a spoon to scoop it out! other have had luck wearing a glove.

if you're getting tired/sore go and do something else that will help you relax: a warm bath, glass of wine, an orgasm :)

try repeatedly wiping your fingers with toilet roll in between attempts so that your fingers, vagina and the cup are less slippery.

If you can/need to do a bm then do one! many find it helps brings the cup a bit lower.

push down hard with your muscles whilst getting a good grip: pretend you are 'giving birth' to the cup/doing a massive poo this may take a while, breath in between slow deep pushes and try not to let it 'yo-yo back up' when you pause to breathe!

to remove hold on the stem (don't be afraid to use your nails and both hands!!) and pull/wiggle it down side to side until you can get hold of the base with your other hand whilst holding onto the stem. then either squeeze the base to release the seal or slide your finger up and press the rim inwards before removing one corner then the other.

you won't have to go to ER, just relax and stay focused!

I hope this helps! try to stay calm, good luck :):)
bigwhoppersbigwhoppers on November 17th, 2012 02:10 am (UTC)
yeah, it ended up just being in a squat and grabbing the bottom of the cup with a vice like grip with my fingers that did the trick. I knew that would be the way to get it out, but I just couldn't seem to relax enough to stay in that position.

Thank you so much for your suggestions.
Laitaine: disney - ariel - squeelauralaitaine on November 16th, 2012 11:15 pm (UTC)
I understand that it's scary, and I understand the feeling of wanting it out out out. I freaked out massively the first time I tried a cup. I was so afraid I would never get it out, but I did!

I find squatting really hard, that's what I tried my first time and did not work well for me at all. I find sitting on a toilet much easier, so maybe you could try that.

Also try masturbating a little, that will relax your vaginal muscles. That should mean you're able to get your fingers further in to grip the cup and pull it down. I've cut the stem right down on my cup because otherwise it's too long, but the height of my cervix moves up and down over a cycle and sometimes my cup gets stuck really high up and I have trouble reaching it. I find a little masturbation helps me to reach it.

Above all though. YOU ARE AWESOME AND YOU CAN DO THIS. Best of luck!!
bigwhoppersbigwhoppers on November 17th, 2012 02:12 am (UTC)
Oh my god, you are so nice. :) Thank you so much for helping.