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22 October 2012 @ 08:10 pm
Hello, I've been lurking for the past week or so reading past posts and I had a question regarding sizing and brands as I'm still having difficult actually biting the bullet.

I'm 29 years old who's a dancer (though less regularly these days at around 1-3 hours a week vs. 6-9 hours). Additionally I'm a virgin so I have no children. I attempted to measure the location of my cervix during my first few days of menstruation and got around 50mm, though I'm unsure if I measured it correctly. My period is usually around 7 days in length with the first 2-3 days being heavy (2 super absorbent tampons which sometimes includes one regular tampon, the 3-4th being normal flow (3-4 regular tampons), and the 5-7th being light/spotting (usually barely enough to fill even half of a light tampon).

I was wondering if you could advise me regarding a general size/brand to purchase that would be a good fit (yes I know that it does vary from person to person). I read various sizing guides, but was unsure as I have what I believe to be a heavier flow (and I know it's all relative), and am unsure about how high my cervix is during menstruation (well if I measured it correctly) as I know that the length is important as well a capacity. I probably want something not too hard either. I was thinking about getting a Lunette size 1, but am nervous given my flow. I'd rather start off with a cup that has enough capacity for my heavier days. Any guidance would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time and support in this endeavor.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on October 23rd, 2012 04:52 am (UTC)
a high cervix is one that is unreachable or very difficult to reach. definitely not yours. to be on the safe side, i recommend choosing from cups that are 52-53 mm long.

definitely don't worry about the virginity. i'm a virgin too and i prefer wide cups:) even some underage virgins use the large sizes due to a heavy flow!!! i think there's a huge difference even between being a virgin at 13 and 18, and a lot of myths regarding virginity are due to the fact that girls used to get married much younger. (and nobody was ever prepared enough, with no sex toys and the pressure of having to succeed shortly after being allowed to try for the first time)

also, your confusion about whether you measured it correctly is VERY familiar. it might be that your cervix is dangly. in this case, the rim of the cup will be about the farthest you can reach. but your cervix will be in the cup (well, this happens to almost everyone, but for some people it's just the tip of the cervix and others compare it to a small penis). if you think your cervix is dangly, a large fleurcup is your best bet due to its shape. oh and in this range, the main difference will be stiffness: http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/cup-stiffness-comparison-chart/
Alisonalichacco on October 24th, 2012 04:11 am (UTC)
Thanks for the advice and I was surprised to know that my flow isn't actually that heavy, but again it's all relative! I'll let you know how it goes.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on October 24th, 2012 04:42 am (UTC)
hee, i used to think my flow was a bit heavy but now i know it's light :D i just didn't realize that when i needed to change pads more often, it's because i only used regular ones, even overnight. the night/heavy flow pads were just too huge, lol.
which cup did you choose? :)
Alisonalichacco on October 28th, 2012 08:23 pm (UTC)
I placed an order for a large Fleurcup. It's on its way. Hopefully it'll come soon as I'm currently "on the rag." I am a little nervous about stiffness, but I won't know until I try right?

Edited at 2012-10-28 11:25 pm (UTC)
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on October 29th, 2012 01:41 am (UTC)
here's a post about soft cups:) http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2618390.html
although for some reason there are far less questions like that about the fleurcup than about other cups..maybe it's the placement of the holes, idk.

if you don't like the stiffness of the cup, it's muuuch better if it's too soft rather than too stiff. a cup that is too stiff is uncomfortable or even impossible to wear. a cup that is too soft is just a bit more difficult to insert (but a stiff cup is likely to be easier but more uncomfortable to insert)

i've heard the shipping takes about a week. if you ordered when you said you'd "pulled the trigger", you'll get it very soon i suppose:)
Alisonalichacco on November 8th, 2012 01:23 am (UTC)
Thanks for the tips. Seriously hoping that it's not too stiff as I don't want to have to buy another one, though I know it is a trial-and-error kind of thing. It just came in and I'm debating on if I want to do a dry run just to practice putting it in and taking it out. I won't get my period for another 2-3 weeks or so. Thoughts?

Edited at 2012-11-08 01:33 am (UTC)
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on November 8th, 2012 01:37 am (UTC)
check for your cervix position. ovulation is a good time for dry runs as your body is hoping for sex and conception, so there's a lot of natural lubrication..but your cervix may be higher, and then removal can be difficult, stressful and not realistic compared to your low cervix on your period.
just don't leave it in for too long (again, it might climb higher now) but don't reinsert too many times in a row either. and remember that it's generally easier when you're actually on your period.

also, are you able to get an 'object' inside? that was my main issue in the beginning. it was so different from inserting my fingers that at first i needed to be in a position in which i could see my ladybits, lol.
Serpentserpent_849 on November 8th, 2012 01:38 am (UTC)
lol hp icon :D i normally feel weird using my default one here XDDD
Alisonalichacco on November 8th, 2012 01:59 am (UTC)
Thanks for the additional tips. I might just wait but I don't my initial attempts at insertion or removal to be while I'm on my period. Yeah HP!
comedylover01 on October 23rd, 2012 06:48 am (UTC)
Large Fleurcup
Alisonalichacco on October 24th, 2012 04:11 am (UTC)
Thanks...you're agreeing with the previous poster helped me pull the trigger!
juliiie87juliiie87 on October 23rd, 2012 09:53 am (UTC)
I agree with previous commenters, you probably need a cup in the 50-55 mm range, given your cup will mostl likely sit a bit higher than the tip of your cervix. Examples include large Meluna, large Fleurcup and Si-bell. Alternatively, if your cervix isn't too dangly, you could consider more V-shaped cups such as Cuplee and Miacup. Let me reassure you that your flow sounds only moderately heavy (whatever that means), not crazy heavy at least. Bear in mind that the higher capacity cups hold about 3x what a regular tampon holds (and about 2x the biggest super plus tampon ever).
Alisonalichacco on October 24th, 2012 04:12 am (UTC)
I'm definitely glad my flow isn't crazy heavy! Thanks for your input. It's much appreciated!