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18 October 2012 @ 11:03 pm

Hello everyone.
I just bought the diva cup size 1 a couple days ago because I had heard so many good things about menstral cups. I am 23 years old, never had kids, but am sextually active with my husband. I started my period back when I was 13. I tried a tampon the first period and had no troubles with them. Now a days, I cannot wear regular sized tampons because they will either leak or start coming out. I have to wear supers. I never had a leakage issue with my tampons that I bought from whole foods that were bleach free.
I wanted to try the diva cup to try to save some money. However, it is just not working for me. I have gone through the other posts and tried different positioning techniques and folds. I have no issues getting it in and pulling it out. It doesn't turn very eaasily at all no matter how high or low i push it in. I can't feel it and it isn't uncomfortable. I can feel all the way around it that it is completely open. However, I leak a lot all the time!
I was so embarrased today. I put it in horizontally with the c fold and attempted to twist it around. However, it slids up so far it's hard for me to grab the base of it to turn it once it's in. I try to pull it down a bit so it sits lower but it just keeps sliding back up. I walked into a public restroom 3 hours after I put it in because I felt like I was leaking. Sure enough I had leaked a lot! I havn't worn pads since I was 13. They feel like dipers and are itchy, scratchy, and sticky. I refuse to wear any kind no matter how "thin or comfortable." I had to reach up there and try to pull it out. However, it was extremely hard to get it out because there was so much blood coming down the edges that the cup was so slippery and gross. It looked like a massacure took place. It was discusting and repulsive! I would much rather switch back to tampons than go through that again!
I want to make this work but I can't keep paying $20-$40 per cup till I find one that works. I have no idea where my cervix is. When I feel around in there, I feel a lump on the left side but then can keep going past that but don't hit any kind of wall past that. I've looked at diagrams online and have seen the same bump on the left side of vaginas so it can't be that uncommon. I have no idea what to do, but I certainly can't continue this cup thing if I'm going to be bleeding all over the place all day and night. It's discusting! Please Help!

Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on October 19th, 2012 03:41 am (UTC)
OK, first of all, IGNORE the instructions that came with your cup.

Insert your cup so the rim is just beyond your pubic bone and allow it to open fully there. Then angle the opening toward your cervix, which you now know is off-center to the left, and give the cup a boost as you kegel it up and into place. Despite what the instructions say, the idea is for your cup to sit (O) around your cervix. If you "miss" your cervix, it'll be like trying to fill your mug by pouring coffee down its side. You don't have to spin your cup. You already know it's open.

As much as you dislike pads and liners, it might be smart for you to wear back-up until you get through the learning curve. Personally, I'd rather be uncomfortable than bleed through my clothes at work or in public.

Hang in there, you've ALMOST got it! :o)
Almarë: Jormungandrhiannon76 on October 19th, 2012 04:08 am (UTC)
I agree with kuradi8 about ignoring the instructions and going for getting the cup seated around the cervix. I just wanted to add that ways to do that will vary-- for example, I cannot get my Diva to pop open unless the rim is *below* my pubic bone. So once it's open, then I just gently wiggle it upwards with my fingers till I can feel the lip of the cup pass my pubic bone, then I let my pelvic muscles work it up the rest of the way. (And I've never had to do Kegels to move it into place, regular everyday movement works for me.) The point being, there are a lot of ways to do this for lots of different bodies, and your mileage may vary.
ana.kansassatin on October 19th, 2012 10:45 am (UTC)
You could look into cloth pads for backup.
teacupcake89 on October 19th, 2012 12:09 pm (UTC)
You need to aim the rim towards where you think your cervix is (the left at a slant by the sounds of it)as you don't want the cup to be alongside or slightly past your cervix.

Cups will sit where they want to, which as Kuradi8 rightly says is usually right underneath or around your cervix. DON'T bother trying to twist or turn the cup it's unecessary, for me that would break the seal for sure!

once inserted and opened up, run a finger around the cup to check it feels open (you might be able to feel if your cervix is poking out over the rim at this point) then just leave the cup alone. or you can do some squats or a wiggly dance to get the cup where it feels comfortable! :)

You might have noticed some spotting after inserting the cup which is the blood that was lower down the vagina when the cup was inserted. This is completely normal, most just wear a pantyliner or have had luck swiping a finger around the lower vaginal wall/cup to wipe it out once insterted.

If you get blood on your fingers during insertion/removal make sure you have some toilet roll or a towel to keep wiping your fingers/self on so you can get a better grip. Once you get the knack you'll find there's hardly any mess at all! I insert my cup right before my period starts and try to insert it quickly after removal so the blood never gets the chance to move lower down! :)

I know you don't like the blood, but at the end of the day it's only the blood from your body, same as if you cut yourself! hardly disgusting :) personally I'd much rather just wipe off some period blood off the cup/fingers than do the same with getting wee, poo or sick everywhere :)

Was the cup almost empty or full when it was leaking? Don't forget to clean the (Divas tiny) airholes before reinserting the cup by squeezing water through them as blocked holes can cause leakage.

Don't be disheartened, remember it takes roughly 3 cycles to get through the learning curve and be a pro, considering you can insert and remove with problems you're almost there! :)
comedylover01 on October 19th, 2012 10:42 pm (UTC)
A small percentage of us can work with the Diva Cup. It is one of the longest cups out there. I suggest the small Lunette. I think the small lunette is fool proof (the big lunnette sucks, though. it's too hard)
rayjones922rayjones922 on October 20th, 2012 03:45 am (UTC)
The cup was never even close to being full when I leak. I'm already slowing down with my first cycle so I will have to try again next month. Also when should I insert it b4 my period. My months range from 25 days to 29 days so I'm never sure exsactly what day I'm going to start. Do you think the large fleurcup would work and can I purchase it in the US? I have no problem with the length but maybe I need a wider rim?
juliiie87juliiie87 on October 20th, 2012 10:04 am (UTC)
A larger cup might be the thing. The large Fleurcup can only be purchased from their official website fleurcup.com, all you need is a credit card, it's 3.99 euros shipping.

But I's strongly suggest you try to let the cup pop open lower so you don't run it past your cervix, and then aim the rim towards the left once it's open, and double check that your cervix isn't peeking out sweeping a finger around, first.
teacupcake89 on October 20th, 2012 10:34 am (UTC)
Agreeing with Juliies advice.

It sounds like you are either slightly missing your cervix :)A fleurcup could work but I'd stick with the Diva for now :) You can do it!

I put my cup in when I start to feel like I might start (getting cramps etc) But you could just wait until you're sure, but there's no harm/waste in using it if you haven't started yet, lots of users use it for heavy discharge :)
dana_knockoutsdana_knockouts on October 21st, 2012 09:52 pm (UTC)
That sounds so frustrating! I have nothing to add that the commenters hadn't already covered, except that things got much easier after I ignored the instructions that came with the cup. Really the only way to get the hang of it is to practice, but I know it's uncomfortable to be having to worry about leaks.

Good luck!