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13 October 2012 @ 12:08 pm
I finally got my small Ladycup after quite a while debating and waiting for my order to come in. I messed around with it and just practiced inserting it without letting it pop open for a couple of weeks. Today I worked up the courage to actually let it pop open for a dry run (not sure if that was the right choice yet considering I'm 16 and a virgin. Insertion didn't hurt, and I'm used to tampons and can get a few fingers up there.) Anyway, this thing's been up there for a couple of hours and it just won't come out! I know I'm doing everything right because I've read over these threads on insertion and removal what feels like a million times. It's just my stupid hymen. It doesn't even hurt that bad - so I know it's not my muscles. There's just a certain point when my hymen won't stretch anymore, but it won't break either. Does anyone have any advice, or am I going to have to go through the embarrassment of telling my mom I got a silicone cup stuck in my vagina so she can make an appointment with the obgyn?
 
 
Current Mood: frustratedfrustrated
 
Amandastereosymbiosis on October 13th, 2012 05:24 pm (UTC)
can you insert one or two fingers and try to wiggle it out? maybe if you can, try folding the cup like the way you inserted it so it's smaller and easier to remove
juliiie87juliiie87 on October 13th, 2012 06:34 pm (UTC)
Lube, or something similar (plain vegetable cooking oil) might help ease it out... Take a bath, relax... may be stretch your hymen a little while you're in it ? there's no rush in this. If you can insert one finger next to the cup, try the "hot dod in a bun method (where your finger is the hot dog and the cup is the bun), and sort of refold it in a C fold ? where it's low enough for you to get the tip of your thumb or another finger in to hold it folded this way. I'm sure you'll manage ! Don't stress it out.
purplelilacaew on October 13th, 2012 06:48 pm (UTC)
I tried refolding it, and I can sort of halfway do it, but if i get my finger high enough to refold it, the cup also goes up... and it's just so slippery! I think I just need to give it a break for an hour or so and relax
juliiie87juliiie87 on October 13th, 2012 06:57 pm (UTC)
Ah, that's the thing about the Ladycup ! ;)

You need to bear down as you insert your finger to bring it down ("birth the cup"). And carefully use your finger nail, if need be (the cup is strong, it's your insides you need to be careful about).

...Or do it halfway, drag it down with your finger, and then use the tip of your thumb/another finger to fold it more as it comes out your hymen.

Edited at 2012-10-13 07:01 pm (UTC)
teacupcake89 on October 13th, 2012 07:28 pm (UTC)
try to relax as much as possible, take deep slow steadying breaths! :) in the meanwhile go and do something for a little bit to take your mind off it (a bath, fave tv programme, music etc) and come back to removal when you feel less worried/panicky/stressed :)

try squatting as low as possible, as this shortens the vagina so should make it easier to reach, and push down hard with your muscles like you are doing a poo/giving birth. try longer pushes and several short pushes along with trying to get a good grip.

you could try hooking your finger over the rim and pulling it out that way, or pressing the rim in and then getting a finger on the inside.

if things get desparate you could use a spoon to push/scoop it out!!(if you search the tags there are quite a lot of similar posts to yours, all who managed to get it out some way or another in the end!) :)

if it's slippery (a common problem with the slick ladycups) have a roll of toilet paper with you and keep wiping yourself, the outside of the cup and your fingers in between attempts. you could even wrap some toilet paper around yor finger if you think that might make the grip easier.

The most important thing to remember is that you CAN get it out!!

we have all been there at least once during the learning curve and made it to the other side! :) Good luck! update us if you need for help/manage to get it out! :)
Jennifer Monoteasy2begreen on October 13th, 2012 07:56 pm (UTC)
I have a LadyCup and can empathize with slippery stem issues. The toilet paper trick helps a lot to reduce slipperiness. I pinch the stem really hard with my thumb and index finger and drag it out a little (usually with my nails). Keep bearing down the whole time, and then pinch the bottom of the cup, which should now be in reach, to release suction and pull it out. I find that medium length nails are useful, but be careful of pinching yourself!
purplelilacaew on October 13th, 2012 10:50 pm (UTC)
If I leave my cup in for more than the recommended 12 hours, will anything bad happen? Because I'm not sure I'm going to be able to get this thing out in that amount of time
ElianaOpal: self portraitopal581 on October 13th, 2012 11:41 pm (UTC)
Nothing bad will happen. At worst, it will smell a bit. Though I only notice an icky smell if I wash my fleurcup with soap and don't rinse it well enough. It'll be okay. As others have said, we've all been there.
purplelilacaew on October 14th, 2012 03:38 pm (UTC)
Yay! Finally got it out after a whole lot of effort with the hot dog in a bun method!!!! Unfortunately, I had to cut a small hole in the base while the cup was partially out so the suction would release easier (I was having a hard time trying to get it out and keep the suction released at the same time). So unfortunately, my pretty orange ladycup will never be used :( I was more concerned about getting that thing out than leaving it unharmed, though. I was thinking about maybe getting the smallest meluna to get my insides used to a small cup, then a bigger one that's less slippery than the ladycup and also has less suction.
juliiie87juliiie87 on October 14th, 2012 07:19 pm (UTC)
The small Meluna is a very small cup (not that the small LC is considered big!). If your vagina is somewhat longer than your LC, and having trouble reaching it is a good indicator, although your vagina can change when your period comes, you would benefit from a slightly longer cup, such as a large Meluna, Cuplee, Natural Mamma, small Miacup, etc. Next period, reach for your cervix if you haven't already and determine what kind of length would suit your anatomy best :

http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/


My recommandation for virgins is to get a fairly soft cup, so the rim folds easily for insertion and removal. And to avoid the tiniest cups unless their vagina is very short, because they can be a pain to remove. Here's a stiffness chart :
http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/cup-stiffness-comparison-chart/
kiba_koumorikiba_koumori on January 17th, 2013 08:01 pm (UTC)
Hope I can still help. Too bad you had to cut a small hole on your cup. I also have a lady cup and prefer it because it does not leak like another brand that I tried.

Here is how I take it out. In short, I make a "punch down fold" before pulling it out. I'll explain it in detail below.

Squatting works best for me.

I pinch the base with my left hand and pull it down a little while pushng with the vaginal muscle, then I insert one finger inside along the cup and back vaginal wall until I reach the rim. I then hook the rim with that finger and press it down to a punch fold. This is the easiest way to remove for me as you won't lose grip so it won't re-suction.

Edited at 2013-01-17 08:17 pm (UTC)