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linsey852
Hello!

So I've been seeing some posts around lately that are encouraging us to suggest cups to our mothers, and I guess I just couldn't really think of anywhere else to ask this. My mother had to have a hysterectomy when my younger brother was born. I was just wondering if anyone thought that a cup would be of any use to while she goes through menopause. I know she obviously doesn't have periods anymore so she can't use a cup for that (which is the intended purpose of a cup), but I don't have periods often either because of the IUD I have. I still find my self using my cup sometimes to catch other annoying secretions and I thought maybe she could use it for that if that. She knows about mine and she thinks it's a pretty cool idea.

Unfortunately I have no idea what menopause entails for women with hysterectomies or how that might figure into cups. I just don't want my mom to be left out if a cup could change her life in the way it has changed mine. I have no idea where else I could possibly gain any insight on this. I know that there are some older, wiser women on here who might be able to help me out. 

Should I maybe try to talk to her about cups? Would they still help her in any way or is it better left alone?
 
vltavskavltavska on September 22nd, 2012 12:31 pm (UTC)
I think if you can tell your mum what you're doing, and how it works for you, that's enough, that can pique her interest if applicable.

I told my mum about cups and she literally thought it was the strangest idea ever, and really cracked up... she's thinks they're (haha, or that I'm) weird and funny.
LesLiekarmagoesdown on September 22nd, 2012 05:02 pm (UTC)
I think you could say something similar to what you've told us. "Hey idk if this would be helpful during menopause but if you find yourself having discharge it might be!
chamekkechamekke on September 22nd, 2012 11:56 pm (UTC)
What the others said.

And I'd just like to add that if I were your mother, I'd be thrilled by your thoughtfulness, even if it so happened that I didn't need a cup for anything.
Melon the Sleepermelonaise on September 24th, 2012 04:06 am (UTC)
I'm not sure what secretions she would have with the missing uterus-- not many places for them to come from. Depending on whether she kept one or more ovaries, she may have already gone through menopause.

If you do want to talk to her about cups and/or just give her one, be sure to include information about lubricants that are vaginal-health friendly (non-glycerine) and friendly for the cup of choice (non-silicone for silicone cups, non-oil based for rubber cups). Many women experience dryness later in life and are more likely to need some slick to insert things.
wireni on October 1st, 2012 09:45 am (UTC)
To be honest I would leave it alone.
I don't know much about menopause but am sure she will have less use for a cup than other women in menopause.
It's good that she knows about your cup and that she thinks it's cool. She might figure out herself if it would be useful to her.
I think it could be hurtful for a woman to be confronted with the loss of her uterus this way. But it all depends on the relationship you have. For example, to the women in my family I would not suggest cloth pads for incontinence after childbirth, but I can tell them how cloth made my periods nicer and just hope they figure it out if they could need them for something else.