?

Log in

No account? Create an account
Chasechik
12 September 2012 @ 09:46 pm
I have a cis-female friend who is preparing for a couple of months of travelling (of the train-hopping variety, it appears). Regardless of her mode of travel, a lot of it will involve camping and staying in places either with little in the way of money or trashbins. She's expressed interest in cups in the past (I've mentioned mine and she works part time in a shop that sells them).

I had the thought of buying her one - however, it's not exactly like I could know what would be a good fit for her. I only know that she doesn't want a Diva (available at her shop) or a MoonCup US (for reasons involving Mooncup US vs Mooncup UK). Any advice?
 
(Deleted comment)
foggyimagefoggyimage on September 13th, 2012 02:33 am (UTC)
This is a really good idea!! Thanks!
ana.: Tarzankansassatin on September 13th, 2012 03:38 pm (UTC)
I like this idea!
foggyimagefoggyimage on September 13th, 2012 02:32 am (UTC)
You could just have a conversation with her about which brand and size she might like best. I'm thinking about getting my friend one and she has been talking to me about what she thinks she will want.
joy1989joy1989 on September 13th, 2012 08:48 am (UTC)
Yeah, that's tough. To be honest though, I bought my first and only cup I have without really going into a lot of research about it. I just got the size that was recommended for people who've never had children. It's worked out pretty well.
wiesoauchimmer on September 13th, 2012 11:30 am (UTC)
i think the brand with the most variation in size, style and softness at the momend is meluna. so, if you don't want to just give her a homemade coupon for any cup at all (which is a pretty nifty idea, but might make it difficult for her to decide since some cups cost more than double the amount of others and if she is the kind of person that doesn't want to cost others more than absolutely necessary she might not feel entirely free to choose what she really wants anyways. but that is something that you will know a lot better than me since i don't know her, i'm just speaking for me here, because i am that kind of person), i'd suggest getting her a coupon from meluna over an amount that covers a cup and shipping, and maybe, if you'd like to really spoil her, one of those foldable cleaning boxes.
juliiie87juliiie87 on September 13th, 2012 03:12 pm (UTC)
I've never given cups as a gift, but I have been successfully converting 2 of my closest friends to cup use. I believe you need to provide a lot of encouragement and support to actually get them to try one. Basically I just told them EVERYHING I learnt here, but mostly what they are, what they look and feel like, how they work and why are they better (imo) then disposables (safer, cleaner, more comfortable, you can wear them for longer chunks of time, good for 5 years or more, no need to shop for and pack tons of supplies, etc.). I also showed them mine, of course.

Then when they seemed receptive to the idea I e-mailed them tons of links, basically the size charts and Melissa's blog with the stiffness comparison chart, comparison pictures, and if needed, links for sellers. Then they usually got overwhelmed, so I broke it down to a few questions : How deep is your cervix (like do you usually bump into it with tampons or when you have sex on your period), and how heavy is your flow. If they were very athletic or had children, that I knew.

One of my friends answered my cervix enquiry with a number, so I made a prescription of several cups to choose from, gave her my opinion about what the pros and cons of each were, we watched Melissa's reviews for them and I let her pick the one that appealed to her most, given stiffness and color preference. The other one wasn't sure how low her cervix was, she just knew she could usually feel her IUD strings, and she had a heavy flow, so she got a medium+large Meluna bundle, because it's a cheap deal, and she turned out to have a super low cervix, but was very pleased with her large Meluna nonetheless.

I'm thinking I could have bought the cup for them, but I had a feeling they'd be more willing to try and make it work if they were included in the selection and buying process. They're both enthusiastic cup users now.

Edited at 2012-09-13 03:13 pm (UTC)
moonhoney925 on September 14th, 2012 07:03 am (UTC)
I think you can get gift vouchers from Feminine Wear. They sell a range of cups so your friend should be able to find something suitable.
loveyourcuploveyourcup on September 20th, 2012 02:58 pm (UTC)
Coupon for starter set
It's hard to give as a present but you can go for a starter set from MeLuna that's more economical and you get 2 cups for 21€ and you can choose S+M, M+L, L+XL with the stem of your choice.

I just made a little 1€ Coupon FORYOURFRIEND so you'll get 2 MeLuna for 10€ each :)