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08 September 2012 @ 04:27 pm
Hello everyone,

I've been lurking on here for the past two weeks, and I want to post about a problem I've had so far with my Lunette Selene.
I am a first time user. I'm 16 and a virgin. 

I ordered my small Lunette Selene, and since my period is not till the end of this month to the beginning of next month, I have just been doing dry runs. 

At first, it was extremely painful to insert, but the second session of inserting was somewhat successful. I managed to get the cup in my vagina.

My problem is that when I get it in, my pelvic bone is in the way of it popping open.
If it is popping open, I can't "stir" to check because my pelvic bone is in the way. When I try to "stir" to check to see if it has popped open, it always feels as if it has not popped open because my pelvic bone is just making it smush down. It is hard for me (painful) to insert the cup and two fingers farther into my vagina. It is also hard for me to "stir" because of this as well.
I've tried doing Kegels to get it to move up, and I have also tried bearing down. When I do both of these, and my vagina clenches, and I think feel the cup. I am going to trim the stem a little because when I held the stem and then beared down, I didn't really feel anything.

What can I do about this insertion? My pelvic bone is just in the way, and I think it is preventing my cup from popping open.

I am determined to be successful at using a menstrual cup. I try to look for ways to be eco-friendly, and the cups are also cost-saving. I'm in high school and trying to save money wherever I can for college.

Any help is appreciated! 
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on September 8th, 2012 11:57 pm (UTC)
First off, throw those instructions away. And don't believe ANY of the illustrations that you see online. They make it seem as if your cup sits right at the vaginal opening and that there's a cup length or more between the rim and your cervix. I don't know who drew that up but HE (that couldn't possibly have been drawn by an actual cup user) got it wrong and everyone else has perpetuated his error.

Next time you go pee, start and stop your stream a couple of times to isolate your PC (aka pelvic floor muscles) then insert your finger and give it a little squeeze. Feel around while you're there. Those PC muscles sit above your pubic bone (your pelvic bone is your hip bone) and act as sort of a "hammock" for the bottom of your cup.

When you insert your cup, put it in far enough that the rim is just beyond your pubic bone and then let it open fully there. It will draw in a little as it does. Give the base/stem a good nudge rearward as you give the cup a boost up and in. That SHOULD position it correctly.

Because you're not on your period yet, a dry run can be notoriously... well... DRY! You might have more success and comfort when you have a little flow in there to lubricate the cup. If you use pre-packaged lube, put a little dab on/in YOU. Water based lubes (without flavorings or other enhancements) are best.

If that still doesn't work, turn your cup so the fold faces the OTHER way. (Left instead of right, up instead of down, etc.) Sometimes turning it around makes all the difference. It did for me. Another thing you could do is use your finger to create an air channel in the soft back part of your vag to get air into your cup -- otherwise you'll create suction and then it "can't" open.

If you're trying to do this with your panties around your knees, let them drop to your ankles and let your knees splay comfortably wide.

Stay relaxed. Keep your jaw slack. And don't forget to breathe. :o)
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on September 12th, 2012 02:35 am (UTC)
well the diagrams here are more realistic:) http://www.wikihow.com/Use-a-Menstrual-Cup#Warnings but yeah must of them must've been drawn by people who've never used cups or don't even have vaginas.
Zita DMzitadm on September 9th, 2012 02:24 pm (UTC)
way too soon
Hi, first of all, congratulations on your first cup. I'm a new user, too, though waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay older than your sweet sixteen and, frankly, quite envious of the amount of tampon/pad free years you're going to be able to enjoy. Now, as for your concern, you should try to hold on to the folded cup past your pelvic bone and only then let it open. Is it possible that you're misdirecting the cup while introducing it? It's very important that you direct it towards your rear passage, i.e. backwards, not upwards!! It may seem counter-intuitive but, given the anatomy (shape) of the vaginal conduct, that's the only way to go. As for it being difficult for you to reach past your pelvic bone, if it still happens after your directing your cup towards your buttocks, try to change your position until you find the one where your arms have the wider angle of freedom (which will help in order for your hand, and therefore your fingers, to reach further in). By the way, for the chaffing (normal since it's a dry run), you may use a water-based lubricant (never silicone or oil-based). In my case, my first try was the real deal since I figured that it would be the moment where my vagina would be best lubricated; besides, the cervix is positioned differently, usually lower, during our periods so...
I hope I was able to make some sense. Good luck with your next try!!

P.S. I wrote this yesterday but they turned off my router so... it's redundant info since kuradi8 already answered all of your questions and quite beautifully, by the way. Looking forward to hearing from you!
womaness on September 14th, 2012 07:29 pm (UTC)
Hey guys, it's me!
I just can't remember by LiveJournal information right now.

Anyway, I did another dry run yesterday, and it was successful!
Thank you for all your tips and help.
The cup popped open and everything. There was no pain, bleeding, or resistance. I thought I had been pushing it toward my rectum the whole time, but I guess I wasn't. It was also hard to relax, but keeping your jaw slacked helps.
This is odd, but I can't wait for my period to try out my cup.

Thanks guys!