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Stefanina
10 August 2012 @ 10:23 pm
Having gone back on Nuvaring, I am once again in a state where flow during my cycle is very inconsistent for the three days I cycle. Having had friends try cups, I decided that perhaps I would be better using this collection method as absorption method tampons were becoming too bothersome.
The only ones sold locally are the Keeper and Mooncup, and my latex allergies pretty much decided the Mooncup for me. I brought it home, inserted it according to directions, and.... ow.
First time I put it in it was dry, but when I took it out, rinsed and re-inserted, it was much easier, so I figured out the wetting it is good thing.
What I have noticed is that no matter how I insert the thing, it settles to a position lower in my vagina with the stem sticking out. This isn't too problematic when I am sitting, but walking is very uncomfortable, and using the restroom without first removing the cup is quite uncomfortable due tot he protruding stem. I trimmed the stem by about half the recommended max, but the entire stem still protrudes. The silicone cup also seems rather stiff, especially before it has warmed up to my body temperature, and I am very aware of the feel of it.
So, how much of the stem does the cup really need? Why do the instructions recommend only removing up to half of it? Does the silicone soften at all with age, or will it always be stiff?
 
Arrow_Bright: Avonlea in Winterarrow_bright on August 11th, 2012 03:22 am (UTC)
My first cup was the KMC, so I know what you mean about the stem being irritating. If you can remove the cup without the stem, then you can just trim the whole thing off. I don't know why the instructions say to remove no more than half. I think they're just afraid someone will remove too much of it and not be able to get it out? But there are many people who don't need the stem, especially if the cervix is lower. The cup will sit where it pleases in the vagina, usually around the cervix.

The silicone will not soften with age. It's a very stiff cup (rated 7.5/10 here: http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/cup-stiffness-comparison-chart/), which was one of the reasons I switched to a small Lunette.
OmniAliaomnialia on August 11th, 2012 05:21 am (UTC)
I also hate the stem. My cervix lies VERY low during my period and my cup is always low and the stem hung out until I cut it off. even cutting it as short as I could, the nub of the stem still pokes me most of the time! Next cup I buy will be a stem-free cup! Because the cup is always very low I definitely don't need the stem.

My cup also feel a bit stiff, so I may get a softer cup. I'm thinking of a Meluna softcup with no stem. :)
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on August 11th, 2012 11:31 am (UTC)
The US Moon Cup is one of the longer brands. http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/

Despite what the instructions say, a cup will ride where ever it darn well pleases, and that's usually (O) around your cervix. In your case your cervix seems to ride pretty low so therefore it pushes your cup low as well. Since you don't need the stem to be able to reach the base of your cup for removal, it's OK to trim it off completely or as short as comfortable.

Your cup should soften up A LITTLE with use. Next time it's out, squish it with your hand to encourage that. And it's not unusual for your body to take a few wearings to adjust to having it in you. Your vag is still at the "what the heck is that?" stage.

Get through the dreaded learning curve with your Moon Cup and then use the dimensions and links at the Size Charts to decide whether or not you'd like another different cup. Your Moon Cup has a fairly narrow body with a thick flared rim. Maybe you'd like a second cup with a "hoop skirt" shape better next.

Edited to fix my wording.

Edited at 2012-08-11 12:56 pm (UTC)
Jackie Calypigialdy_shadow on August 11th, 2012 08:36 pm (UTC)
Welcome tot he world of the cup! Dude, just cut the entire stem off. You don't need it as long as you're okay getting up in there to remove it if necessary, and you don't strike me as the type that's shy with her body. :)
Stefaninastefanina on August 12th, 2012 12:33 am (UTC)
Not that you know me or anything ;p.
But yeah, the inconsistent discharge has made the "guess what size tampon I need now" game downright infuriating.
pazenelmarpazenelmar on August 11th, 2012 11:59 pm (UTC)
I completely snipped the stem off my moon cup a while ago. The stem never poked out of my body, but it still caused a lot of irritation. I actually found it easier to insert and remove the cup after the stem was gone as it was no longer in the way.

I don't know if it's my imagination or not, but my cup's body is definitely softer than it was right out of the box. The rim also feels softer than it did when it was new, but the difference is less noticeable there. I'd imagine all the folding and monthly boiling has something to do with it.
Ashatenlegspider on August 12th, 2012 09:06 am (UTC)
It's not just ok to remove the whole stem, if you're a low rider you should do it. Apparently the Lunette's tab stem can stick out comfortably, but generally a stem that's in contact with your inner labia will irritate, so you should cut off anything that sticks out.

People have referred to the US Moon Cup, but in case you're not clear about it when you look at comparison charts, the Mooncup is a UK cup which is unrelated to the Moon Cup that the Keeper company makes.
Stefaninastefanina on August 28th, 2012 04:33 am (UTC)
Mine's the US MoonCup made by the Keeper. My latex allergy is what drove me to pick it over the Keeper, which were the only ones available locally.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on August 12th, 2012 04:55 pm (UTC)
they're also afraid you'll damage the bottom of the cup if you cut off the entire stem... and yeah, some cut off the stem too soon and then can't reach the cup on a different day of the cycle (especially the lighter days).
juliiie87juliiie87 on August 13th, 2012 01:25 pm (UTC)
"Does the silicone soften at all with age, or will it always be stiff?"

It might soften up, for now, have you tried running the cup under warm water right before insertion ? It would make it more comfortable I guess.