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10 August 2012 @ 12:08 am
Hi I am a 13 year old virgin who is interested in using a menstual cup. I am considering getting either a small meluna or a small lunette but I am open to suggestions. I have light to moderate flow and I am not quite sure where my cervix is although I think it is low because I can't reach my finger in very far but then again I am not positive so tips would be appreciated. So which cup would you recommend. Thank you.
juliiie87juliiie87 on August 10th, 2012 10:25 am (UTC)
Hello and welcome to the world of cups !

First of all, have you seen this page ? http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/

There are now a good dozen of brands that offer cups in "small" sizes but their measurments vary widely. Length is probably the most important measurment here. Your cervix should feel like a round-ish bump with a small indentation that stands out from your vaginal wall and for some people, it feels funny in their tummy when they touch it. Compare what you estimate the length to your cervix (preferably while on your period) to the cups on the chart. I'd say under 2 inches (5 cm) is fairly short, around one inch and under is very short, above 2 inches is fairly long, above 3 is very long.

You don't want to get the tinyiest cup if it ends up wandering way up there. The small meluna is probably the tinyest cup, and the small Lunette, while small, has a good capacity for its size. But there are so many other options ! Good luck in your research !

Edited at 2012-08-10 10:26 am (UTC)
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on August 10th, 2012 10:37 am (UTC)
>I'd say under 2 inches (5 cm) is fairly short, around one inch and under is very short, above 2 inches is fairly long, above 3 is very long.

for practical purposes, if your cervix is difficult to reach it's considered high.

forgot to say there are plenty of cups with dimensions similar to the small lunette/medium meluna. imo the advantage of the lunette is having a medium stiffness.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on August 10th, 2012 10:31 am (UTC)
have you looked for your cervix on your period?
in fact, if you can't find your cervix, it's probably medium or high. or maybe you're touching it without realizing. there's a hole in it, that's where the blood comes out of... i found mine when i was 14 and thought it was my hymen XDDDDD (it's very low and i thought the hymen is in the middle of the vag)

if you get a meluna, i recommend a medium soft with a traditional stem. the small is like XS compared to other small sizes (and XXXS compared to a small diva :D), and if you can't reach your cervix, a short cup might also be difficult to reach.

have a look at this video about the cervix: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8qEaCn2w9Y4
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on August 10th, 2012 01:10 pm (UTC)
Before you get too enamored with the idea, discuss it with your Mom/parent who will pay for it. We recently had a post in which a Mom freaked out and forbade her daughter from using a cup. Make sure something similar won't happen to you.

One way of starting such a conversation could be:
"Hey Mom, I'd like to get a menstrual cup. Here are a couple of good sites for general information. Would you want one too?"

Since you probably know more about cups than she does, give her time to research and catch up. :o)
teacupcake89 on August 10th, 2012 04:33 pm (UTC)
your cervix might be to one side of the vaginal wall so have a feel around not just straight up as cervixes are surprisingly not usually at the 'end' of the vagina! it might feel like the end of your nose, or a small doughnut shaped bump that sticks out/feels different.

definitely don't get the small meluna unless you have a very very low cervix, as the other have said it's much smaller than other 'smalls' and that can make it tricky to remove if it rides up etc.

a small Fleurcup might be another option as it has the same dimensions as a small Lunette but is softer so might be a bit easier to insert. :)

have you seen the photo comparisons? here: http://menstrualcups.friendhood.net/f52-moderator-s-photo-library
also look at the latest albums because not all of them have the newer brands/new style melunas etc.

also check out The Virgins Guide to Cups here if you haven't seen it already: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/1243131.html#comments

I would avoid talking to your GP/doctor about cups if your parents want their approval/opinion first as sadly often nurses and doctors haven't heard of them! :( but, you could show your parents Melissa's http://www.menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com blog, another website http://www.menstrualcup.co, Melissa's videos on youtube, the Lunette website is professional looking too :) also, if you do talk to your parents about cups remember that cups cannot 'damage' or cause you any harm, not linked to TSS etc :)

Good luck and welcome to Cups! :)
syde98 on August 10th, 2012 06:44 pm (UTC)
Ok I have already talked to my mom about it and while she thinks the concept is really gross she is letting me get one. Also I have not checked for my cervix on my period yet but I would kind of like to get.a cup before school starts if possible so I can do dry runs and such but my period doesn't start until after school starts. I have used light applicator tampons before and they go all the way in although they are very uncomfortable. Would that mean that my cervix is high? Thanks again
moonhoney925 on August 11th, 2012 02:46 am (UTC)
I would say that your cervix is high based on that. I probably would not recommend a small meluna or the ladycups maybe not a medium meluna either, definitely look at the sizecharts.
syde98 on August 11th, 2012 05:38 am (UTC)
Thanks for all of your help so far. I checked for my cervix again and assuming the cervix is toward the end of the vagina it is actually quite far in. I could not find/ reach it even with my middle finger. So I have high cervix I guess, any more recommendations would be appreciated and thank you for the size charts I will look at those.
juliiie87juliiie87 on August 11th, 2012 02:28 pm (UTC)
Well, in terms of longish cups I can recommend the large Cuplee (very soft <3) the small Miacup. A small Lunette or small Fleurcup is probably the most versatile, since it has a short body, but a long stem. You never now how low your cervix is gonna get for your period, however if you could insert applicators without bumping into your cervix (which should give you a weird feeling in your belly), then I'd say it's at least of medium height, so any medium to long cup on the charts should be fine. Finally, the Diva is the longest in the body but it has a tubby short stem and strong suction so I don't really recommend it. See the comparison pictures as well : http://menstrualcups.friendhood.net/f52-moderator-s-photo-library

EDIT : Also check the comparison pictures for Natural mamma and Si-Bell, especially the Naturalmamma looks really long and soft, and it's not even amongst the widest cups, but oit has a great capacity due to it height. Si-bell is probably the softest cup.

Edited at 2012-08-12 10:19 am (UTC)
syde98 on August 13th, 2012 06:04 am (UTC)
After looking through the charts and such I think I have narrowed down my options to a Large Fluercup, L or XL meluna, size 1 miacup, shecup or L cuplee. But I'm still not sure which, my cervix off my period is about 3 inches up when I'm squatting and I think I would like a soft cup as I am a virgin and find tampons very uncomfortable. Thanks for all the help
juliiie87juliiie87 on August 13th, 2012 10:32 am (UTC)
Well, out of these, I certainly recommend the large Cuplee or size 1 Miacup. The large Fleurcup is a great cup, but it's amongst the widest so idk if that would give you a hard time... same with XL Meluna. Shecup looks nice, but no stem to help you fish it out.
Here are a couple places to get them :


moonhoney925 on August 17th, 2012 04:15 am (UTC)
If you have decided on a Fleurcup, please message me as I have a discount code for EUR3.00 of the regular price. The total cost would be less than USD20.00. I think the code is good until Wednesday 22nd August.
syde98 on August 13th, 2012 11:19 pm (UTC)
Ok so my mom decided that I have to get a cup that is FDA approved. So which menstrual cups are FDA approved that you know of. Thank you
juliiie87juliiie87 on August 14th, 2012 04:21 pm (UTC)
I *think* Lunette, Divacup, keeper and Keeper Moon Cup, Mooncup UK. Maybe others but I don't know for sure. Personnally, I wouldn't bother with the last 3. :/

Your mom should know that "FDA approved" only means the company bothered to pay a fee to the FDA so resellers could carry their products in the US... anyway. You could show her this article : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Menstrual_cup#Safety

Edited at 2012-08-14 04:25 pm (UTC)
syde98 on August 20th, 2012 09:16 pm (UTC)
Ok so I ended up getting a small diva cup I have not had my period yet but I did a dry run and it went in surprisingly easily I can't even feel it. I have not tried to take it out yet though. Thank you for all of your help.