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30 July 2012 @ 04:53 am
So I am EXTREMELY frustrated with my experience with my Diva Cup. I cannot for the life of me get the cup in far enough and when I do, when the cup starts to open,its painful and uncomfortable. I tried for at least an hour straight to get it in. I am not a virgin and am somewhat sexually active (with my current boyfriend) but for some reason I still get squeamish with inserting things into my vagina, so it could possibly be painful because I'm not relaxed enough but I don't know. I'm disappointed in myself that I can't seem to insert the cup. I tried the C-fold and punch-down fold and inserted it at an angle towards my tailbone. Also there should have been plenty of moisture to help get it in because I tried insertion the 1st day of my period. Why is it that it is very uncomfortable when inserted while opening?
Current Mood: frustratedfrustrated
azazelle382azazelle382 on July 30th, 2012 08:30 am (UTC)
Did you check for your cervix?

It could be very low, especially during period, and this may cause your pain and discomfort.

Also, the Divacup is one of the longest cups (if not the longest). Depending on where your cervix sits, it could not be the best match...
m03m on July 30th, 2012 09:38 am (UTC)
It might be too long for your anatomy. The Diva is the longest cup out there, and doesn't fit every user.
Have you, by any chance, felt for your cervix?
teacupcake89 on July 30th, 2012 10:24 am (UTC)
definitely check your cervix while your period is here, this will also help you to aim it in the right position once inside as well as determining if it is too long for you (you can always turn it inside out once you get the hang of it if it is too long/get a shorter cup later on).

I really recommend using lots of water-based lube!! (on you not the cup) makes the world of difference as it prevents it from 'catching'/friction. you could also try wetting the cup (warm water will make it feel slightly softer, cold water can make it feel firmer but the water can make a difference!)

the main thing is to really try to relax!! tips:

when inserting push down like your having a wee

use both hands to either hold yourself open or one hand keeping the base closed another holding the stem.

try different position to insert such as: lying on your back knees wide apart on your bed. sitting on the edge of the
bath/edge of the toilet leaning back or forward slightly. squatting in the bath/shower, sitting on the toilet. lying on one side one leg bent or in the air, etc.

take deep slow breaths, insert then pause every so often if you need to, take a deep relaxing breath and push whilst you take that breath.

if you are not relaxed enough then yes it will be uncomfortable/painful, you need to relax relax relax your pelvic floor muscles!!! (the ones you use to kegel or stop a wee midflow!)

there are other folds you could try: 7/triangle fold, labia fold, origami.

it might also help for you to try after a relaxing bath, maybe in your bedroom if other people wanting to use the bathroom is a factor.

having a mirror so you can see what your doing might also help.

hope some of this helps! :) search the comments in the insertion tag for lots of good tips too! :)
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on July 30th, 2012 01:06 pm (UTC)
EDITED because I misread your post. Excuse: pre-coffee.

It sounds like you're clenching your PC muscles. To isolate them, next time you go pee, start and stop your stream a few times. Then insert your finger and give it a little squeeze. Now that you know how to contract them on command, practice RELAXING them on command. You'll need to do that for insertion and especially removal. Open your mouth a little and keep your jaw slack -- and don't forget to breathe! :o)

Then you can go back to holding them as tightly as you usually do.

Edited at 2012-07-30 01:16 pm (UTC)
juliiie87juliiie87 on July 30th, 2012 01:20 pm (UTC)
All of the above, especially use some kind of lube, water if anything, and lots of relaxation. And don't aim up ! Also, you don't need to get it in completely, you just want the rim to be past your pubic bone so it can unfold. Then if it can ride any higher, it will. If not, then you probably have a short vagina/low cervix.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on July 30th, 2012 02:34 pm (UTC)
And if that's the case that the cup is too long for you, flip it inside out to shorten it.