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I've been reading the posts here for weeks now. I still don't know which cup to choose. Would you all offer some advise, please, especially if you have experienced the issue I describe below?

I'm 46 years old with 2 kids which were delivered vaginally. I've been told by GYNs for many years - before my kids - that I have a retroverted uterus; suspect it's due to genetics. When my 2nd child was born, my placenta broke off and I almost bled to death. (Not sure if that's important to the topic at hand, but just in case.) I've always had very heavy periods and lots of clots but after my placenta broke off during the delivery, my periods were extremely heavy for years - 20-60 minutes to soak a super plus tampon.  Wish I had known about the cup then!

My periods aren't as heavy now as I have been taking herbs which help reduce the amount of blood I lose as well as help keep me mentally balanced. (I'm not recommending or endorsing herbs.) But I still have big clots and need a super plus tampon if I'm going out of the house for a few hours.

I went to a new GYN last year and learned I have a prolapsed uterus which will need surgery to "tack up" (words of the GYN). (It causes me much vaginal pain especially around my period and about a week after.) I had surgery twice last year and we cannot afford more surgery right now - both time-wise and financially.

My cervix sits low during my period - I think. It's only approximately 1.25 inches (or 3 cm if you're metrically challenged like me). I cannot seem to locate any chart that would indicate if a 3 cm cervix is low. If I am not correct, please correct me.

I did, however, locate the cup size chart and cup sniffness. Those are great help! What I do not understand is how to a choose a cup based on cervix size.  If my cervix sits very low, I think. So, it seems I should choose a length between 40 and 44 (according to the size chart). Cups in those lengths are only available in a narrow width. However, since I have had 2 children, I would assume a narrow width would not function correctly as there would be leak.  

I saw an image of several cups compared to each other and their individual length measurements.  It was an image of several cups sitting up-side down.  There was a horizontal line drawn from the bottom of the longest cup to the shortest tampon.  (I've been searching for hours but can't find the URL again.  If anyone knows the URL, please share it.)  The length of 2 OB tampons were compared to several cups.  I think (could be wrong since I can't locate the URL) the longest cup was almost as long as a super plus OB tampon. So, if a super plus OB tampon will fit, why wouldn't a cup of the same length fit?  However, when you compare the length of those cups and compare it to my cervical length, I would think those cups would be too long.  I'm so confused!

I work at home and spend much of my time at home, but I do get out and love to socialize. I don't want a cup that doesn't fit my width and will leak.  Who does - right?  

Speaking of width of our cervices, how do we know what our width is?

As I have frequent vaginal pain, I assume a somewhat soft to medium stiffness cup would be suited to my needs. A hard cup would probably add to my pain, wouldn't it?

I don't care about colored cups. In fact, I would prefer clear or opaque cup as I want to do a quick glance and see that it is completely clean.

To sum up: 3 cm low cervix (I think). prolapsed uterus, retroverted uterus, vaginal pain, 2 vaginal deliveries. Dang, I was having a good day before I wrote this. LOL!

Money IS an issue for us. So, I cannot purchase many different cups to try. Could you all help me narrow down my choices, please?

Thank you!  :-)

rvm4 on July 8th, 2012 05:26 pm (UTC)
Sorry for the medium sized print. My eye-sight isn't great.
juliiie87juliiie87 on July 8th, 2012 05:48 pm (UTC)
About tampons fitting... well, Tampons can be slid next to one's cervix on one side, which may or may not limit their efficency... Cups can be longer than the length to the tip of your cervix, but that's because they sit (o) around it ! If your cervix is very "dangly" it might steal some capacity inside the cup, which is why bell shaped cups are probably your best bet.

I don't know about prolapse issues, but it does sound to me like you have a fairly low cervix, so in this configuration, low cervix + heavy flow = large Fleurcup. It's probably your best bet due to its bell shape and large capacity (large rim because you had kids, also). I think it fits people who reportedly have low cervices, but I don't exactly know how low... You'll have to ask the community member named m03m. Another almost identical option is the large Si-bell, it's pretty much the same, only a bit softer (it's probably the softest of all). Finally, the shortest cups are the mini Melunas, which come in classic and soft, but frankly because of their cone shape, their capacity is pretty minimal (the medium 45x45 mm is similar to the theoretical maximum capacity of a super plus tampons). So yeah, that narrows down your options a bit. Btw, melunas are pretty cheap, and Fleurcups are on sale ! ^^

Edited at 2012-07-08 05:51 pm (UTC)
m03m on July 8th, 2012 08:21 pm (UTC)
Well, my cervix is about that low, sometimes lower, and the large Fleurcup fits me perfectly. I just had to remove the stem and almost all of the grip rings, because they were chafing me. The cup is not slippery at all and I can still take it out easily.

Reading the posting, I agree that a large Fleur sounds like it might very well work. It's also nice and soft.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on July 8th, 2012 08:33 pm (UTC)
Add me to the list of those who think a large Fleurcup would probably fit and suit you well. :o)

I also have a tilted uterus and age-related prolapse, and I use a large Lunette. It has the same dimensions as a Fleurcup but is a much stiffer cup. Would I like a Fleur better? Maybe. That's why I'm recommending it to you.

As for color, I like either the clear/frosted ones or ones that are pale colors. That makes it easy to see how much or little is in the cup in low light situations like just a night light and thereby judge when the cup will need attention next.

Edited at 2012-07-08 08:35 pm (UTC)
rvm4 on July 9th, 2012 10:49 pm (UTC)
Thank you all for your replies! I was so overwhelmed! Now, I feel much better knowing your recommendation prior to ordering. Think I'll give the large Fleurcup a try.

For the benefit of other readers, I'm going to create another thread about ordering Fleurcup for delivery to the the USA.