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06 July 2012 @ 02:14 am
Hello Everyone,

I've used a cup and/or cloth pads for a few years now at least so this isn't necisarily the typical question.  To explain myself.I own a large fleurcup, a large meluna, and a small meluna.  All of which work for me at different times.  Where my issue lies is when I wake up from sleeping at night.  My fleurcup rides up high by morning, which I understand it will go where it pleases and I don't have an issue with that part.  Problem is by morning it seems to ride so high I can just about reach it with 1 finger sometimes I can't reach it except for the stem if I can reach that well enough to grip.  Usually I can't.  Aparently I have a high cervix which I didn't realize as my cups don't always move up so high.
I know the normal answer to this would be change position, squat, or one leg up on the toilet seat.  The trick with me is I cannot walk, stand up to change position, or balance myself enough to squat in any way. When I do manage to grab my cup if it goes on a disappearing mission I am basicly sitting on my hand which isn't a good thing either because I lack flexability in my hips and my balance stinks also so I could fall when I have to do that.
I was wondering which longer cups would work for me.  Or at least your opinions  Also I need a large compacity because my first day or two I am quite heavy.  Anyway, I was looking around and was thinking either a large Yuuki, A large Diva, or an Extra large Meluna. I have more concerns as to which would work though.  The  Yuuki is aparently very stiff according to the charts compared to the fleurcup at least.  The stiffness of the fleur usually doesn't bother me. 9 times out of 10 I don't feel it and the times I do I think are just crappy blechy periods anyway.  The Yuuki though is a considerable bit stiffer than that though.  I leant towards the Yuuki in the first place for the extra compacity.  Is the stiffness something I'd get used to and feel less as time went on?  Just like you get used to wearing a cup.
I know the Diva is the longest cup available but I'm slightly scared of the evil (or so I've heard) suction holes.  I don't have much ability to steady myself with my legs alone.  So if one hand was busy fiddling to break the suction for a couple minutes I'd be a little nervous because of the position leaning over.  Plus, if I remember right it has less compacity than some of the other larges? Also I think I would actually prefer a stiffer cup.  As I said fiddling in a wonky position long unnerves me so it'd be easier if it popped open quicky.  The last option i found was the X Large meluna.  My concern there is how much compacity I'd actually gain?If it would warrant buying a meluna over the other cups.  As it is I bought the fleurcup after having a large meluna for the extra compacity.  Also it is the most unreliable cup I have as far as popping open so Meluna and I do not have a good track record going. :)
So to paraphrase which cup would work for me out of those?  Or any others if you think they'd work.  Taking into account length and compacity being I need it and extra wouldnt hurt considering I'd be sleeping.  Also it would be nice if it was on the stiffer side to pop open easy.  Thanks for your help.  Also, I apologize this is really long it's late :)
juliiie87juliiie87 on July 6th, 2012 12:46 pm (UTC)
Just a few pointers and questions :

Don't mind me if you've already tried all of this, but how about removing your cup sitting on the toilet ? This doesnt require much mobility and allows you to bleed right in the bowl if there's any leakage or drippings. I think the key to removal with a high cervix is learning how to bear down, can you do this ?
About the length issue : compare the various cups you have in mind here : http://menstrualcups.friendhood.net/f52-moderator-s-photo-library

I wouldn't advise the Diva in your case, becaue well, it is long, but the stem is damn short. Maybe have a look at large Si-Bell and Natural Mamma if you haven't already... Other then that, Yuuki seems like one of the longest + highest capacity indeed, but I have no clue about stiff cups. I just know they can put some pressure on your bladder and prevent you from using the bathroom while wearing'em, but in your situation I'd give it a try. My guess is it probably wouldn't put as much pressure if it were pushed all the way up, above the bladder. Just ask yourself if you're very sensitive to pain and pressure in that area.
blueyedrebel919 on July 7th, 2012 01:05 am (UTC)
Thanks for the oher cup recomendations. I hadn't thought of them or checked them out. To answer your questions ~ might be TMI here sorry. I have Cerebral Palsy (big word for some sort of brain damage) but this is off topic. To get to my point mine effects my legs. I have issues isolating the muscles needed to remove the cup along with the muscles in my legs. I can get it down to a point but then the slippery-ness of the cup kicks in and my fingers slide off. Its not easy to do either way . So my thought was a longer cup would be easier for me to be able to reach. Sorry if that was TMI again. Another question anyone know how flimsy the si bell stem is? I don't use the stems if I can reach above it but its nice to be able to use if needed. So I was just curious.
nocebo_domingonocebo_domingo on July 7th, 2012 01:44 am (UTC)
The XL MeLuna with ring stem could be a good cup for you. Great capacity, long, comes in 3 degrees of firmness, plus the ring is very easy to grab - one finger in the ring will do it.
juliiie87juliiie87 on July 7th, 2012 01:10 pm (UTC)
Slipperyness and the cup doing yo-yo inside of you is a common issue, the usual advice is to use some toilet paper to re-dry your fingers as you go, and possibly use both hands ; one to hold on the stem and one to break the suction. In desperation, some users mentionned using a glove or a spoon (!).

I advised the Si-Bell mostly because of the long stem. And also that it is so soft, according to reviews, that some users have managed to remove it by pulling on the stem ! I haven't tried it, just read about it here. They're all prety close at the bottom of the charts, in terms of capcity and length, so really pick the one that looks nice to use to you.

Edited to correct typos.

Edited at 2012-07-07 01:16 pm (UTC)
nocebo_domingonocebo_domingo on July 6th, 2012 09:37 pm (UTC)
Forgive the TMI but the pattern of disappearing up too high to reach, always first thing in the morning, happened to me too. My solution: poop first before removing. Maybe that's why your cup gets pushed high too?
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on July 7th, 2012 12:45 pm (UTC)
How much capacity would you gain? There's a capacity chart at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/

The Diva has the longest body but not necessarily the longest total length if you count the stem too. Its anti-suction holes are small and give some folks trouble but they can be enlarged. Some have tried small drill bits, small scissors, even body piercing punches.

I find that if I drop my panties to my ankles so that my knees can splay wide, I have a lot more success than if my legs are close together. It provides easy frontal access, no hand or body contortions, and no need to balance. Would that work for you too?
blueyedrebel919 on July 7th, 2012 09:49 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the help everyone! I'm thinking of either a Yuuki or a Sibell. Can't beat the compacity of the Yuuki and there are times traveling bathrooms aren't accessible to me. Also I've been interested to try a soft cup which dits the sibell. Out of curiousity though is the NaturalMama as narrow-bodied as it looks or have I just been looking at to many cup pictures?
juliiie87juliiie87 on July 9th, 2012 06:34 pm (UTC)
Compare width and capacity here : http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/

Good luck !