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05 July 2012 @ 04:31 pm
Welp. Since it was still advised that I learn to be comfortable with at least inserting my fingers before getting a cup, I've kinda been working on it on and off since my last post. I've discovered that I can't get it in further than 1/4 of an inch without cringing because of my nails. My fingernails aren't long, at ALL, I always cut them really short partly because I have no patience to grow them out and partly because they'd get away with my physical activities, but I can still feel it and it just feels creepy scraping along there. It kind of hurts, and since I can feel everything I can't will myself to keep going. With a tampon applicator (been practicing that all day too. Speaking of which, I can get the applicator in as far as the end of the part you hold, ie where the part that you use to push the actual tampon in begins, without feeling like it's being obstructed, so I don't know what that means for my cervix) I have no such problems and can get it in no sweat. I imagine I wouldn't have any problems if I wore something like rubber/latex/disposible gloves since that would cover up my nail, but that's just ridiculous. I have no intention on ever relying on tampons during my period. Any words of advice? :/
 
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on July 6th, 2012 06:21 am (UTC)
Try filing your nails so they're smooth, and make sure you don't have any hangnails. Otherwise, just practice, a lot. If you masturbate, you might try inserting a finger or two during masturbation to get used to the feeling.
ever so slightly obsessedscien on July 6th, 2012 07:16 am (UTC)
Lube will make all the difference. Don't worry, you won't need it forever, once you get comfortable with the angles and things it'll be easy to do even without it.
Tessgryphonwing on July 6th, 2012 08:14 am (UTC)
Agreed! If you don't have access to a good commercial lube, coconut or olive oil can work just fine. :)
Ashatenlegspider on July 6th, 2012 08:29 am (UTC)
Thirded. Without lube you have extra friction, which is giving you that scraping feeling and makes it more likely that you'll catch the walls.

Bear in mind that you might have missed your cervix while poking around with the applicator. Your vagina tilts towards your back, but your cervix is probably more in the direction of your belly button. Weird, I know.
teacupcake89 on July 6th, 2012 02:29 pm (UTC)
definitely use some lube on yourself and your finger! I always get that dry scrape-y feeling otherwise :)

perhaps try having your nail facing towards the floor (can help with scratching yourself) and press inwards against one wall so your nail is less likely to catch.
also, remember that your vagina isn't vertical straight up but is on a diagonal towards your tailbone, end of bottom :)

some tips on cervix finding: it's not at the 'end' of your vagina just like you face isn't at the end of your head!
it might feel like: the end of your nose, a small round sticky-out bump, perhaps with an indentation in the middle, a small doughnut/end of a penis. :)
it might be towards one side at the front wall if that helps. :)

I have quite long nails and find that when using my cup it helps to keep my nails pressed inwards towards the cup so I don't scratch myself. if I'm checking if it's fully open or trying to push it up a bit higher, I keep my nail pressed against the cup as I move my finger (there isn't much room so I'd definitely scratch myself otherwise) :)

you seem to have a positive attitude so I think you'll be fine! :)
m03m on July 6th, 2012 07:49 pm (UTC)
There's nothing wrong with using disposable gloves as a learning tool! I bet you'll only need to use them for a few cycles at most. If it helps, then why not?
Ashatenlegspider on July 7th, 2012 10:53 am (UTC)
Also, you don't need to think of disposable gloves as single use. They'll probably go for a while before you damage them, and if you wash them while they're on your hands they'll be as clean as when you first put them on. You'll definitely want lube if you're using latex though, so try that first.