linds0307 (linds0307) wrote in menstrual_cups,

Traumatizing first time removal... Ouch!!

Hey Cuppers,

My good friend has been using a Diva Cup for a few months now, and she just loves it! She convinced me to give it a try, and I bought my very own size 1 Diva Cup (I'm 27 and have never been pregnant/given birth).  My timing was great because I got the cup in the mail a couple days before I was due to get my period. I wanted to make sure I could get the cup in and out without any "surprises" before I started my cycle. I found that the stem REALLY bothered me, it pinched and I couldn't get it into a position that felt good. After looking online, I found that a lot of women trim/ completely cut the stem off. I trimmed it almost all the way off, leaving only a little bit. With KY jelly, and using the punch down fold, I was able to insert it to where I felt comfortable and able to get it back out (after only having it in a few minutes) without any problem.

I was due to get my period yesterday so I put the cup in before I left the house, and went about my business. I was mostly very comfortable, but on and off I would get this sensation of uncomfortable pressure down there that I was able to relieve with moving around/ changing my position/ bearing down slightly. Also of note, I went to the bathroom and had a difficult time urinating... I had to push to start the stream of urine, and after it started I emptied my bladder really slowly. This worried me and didn't seem normal... I figured I'd google it when I got home.

When I got home 8 hours later, I could tell I had gotten my period (I had the tell-tale low abdominal cramps I always get when it starts) So, I went to the bathroom to remove the cup... and I could barely reach it (I was really wishing I had left that stem alone...). I didn't panic because my friend had told me in advance that the same thing had happened to her. I squatted over the toilet and started bearing down, and was able to get it to the point I could reach it, but I could NOT seem to break the suction. I tried to pinch the bottom, tried to turn it, wiggle it, rock it back and forth... Nothing was working. I tried to reach the rim with my finger to release the suction, but I couldn't reach it. I started getting really nervous after 20 minutes of being a contortionist and trying everything I had read/heard of doing. I knew that getting nervous and frustrated was only compounding my problem, so I took and break and walked the dog while I tried to calm down. When I got back, I felt better, so back into the bathroom I went for attempt #2. No luck. Another 25 minutes, and I was pretty scared I was going to be making a trip to the doctor's. I was able to get it to a position I could grab it with 2 fingers after bearing down... and then I just started pulling. Two very hard, very painful tugs later... and it was out. I was scared to look down... I was sure my uterus was going to be hanging between my legs! Oh my god it hurt. I had in fact started my period, the cup was about 1/3 full, and there was a stringy/bloody clot through one of the holes (could that have been the problem? do I need to maybe make the holes bigger?). I cried a little, put a tampon in, and went to bed.

I haven't been able to bring myself to try again... I've been using tampons all day. But I'm still sore and irritated down there to the point where inserting/removing tampons causes discomfort. I'm at a loss.... I really WANT to love cups. I love the concept, I just don't know if they're right for me. Did I do something wrong? Is it just the wrong cup? If so, what cup/type of cup would be better? I know there's a learning curve... but I don't want my poor lady bits to have to go through that ever again! 

I feel like crying (I realize that's mostly the period talking), and any advice you could give would be really appreciated :(
Tags: divacup, first time use, removal - painful or problems, seal & suction, stem length/trimming, urination

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