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02 July 2012 @ 10:40 am
Im 15 years old and I'm not sexually active.  I really want to get a menstrual cup, but I don't want to buy one and figure out that its difficult or painful for me to use. So anyway, yesterday I was finding my cervix and while doing so, i figured out that i cant put two fingers inside my vagina without it hurting. The pain mostly comes at the opening of my vagina where it doesn't seem to stretch.This came up to me as a warning that i should not get a cup. If i cant even put two tiny fingers in me, how would i be able to fit a cup?! But before I totally give up hope on getting a menstrual cup, I want your opinion on this. If i can't get two fingers in my vagina, should i not get menstrual cup? 
 
teacupcake89 on July 2nd, 2012 06:03 pm (UTC)
You CAN use a menstrual cup!! :):)

I'm 23 and sexually active but I can only insert one finger comfortably (even if I'm very relaxed/turned on!) BUT I can use my small Lunette and Large Fleurcup very comfortably.

Insertion and removal require relaxation and lubrication. Cups are designed to be folded for insertion which makes them not much bigger than a tampon/finger.

'tightness' is mostly a function of your pelvic floor muscles, which you need to relax for insertion and removal, if you look at the posts under virginity you'll find their are lots of young/non-sexually active happy cup users! :)

I would reccomend reading 'The Virgin's Guide to Cups' here: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/1243131.html#comments

The main criteria for which cup to get depends on:

how high/low your cervix is DURING your period (often it moves down during/towards the end)
how heavy your flow is
stiffness: stiffer cups are good for those with strong pelvic floor muscles (lots of yoga/core exercises), softer cups can be easier to insert for virgins/sensitive people/those who find stiff cups press against their bladder.

once you have a cup or two that seem a good match (using the comparison photos and size charts with the above info) then pick stem types/colours if applicable. :)

I've rambled on a bit but: DON'T worry!!! you can use a cup!! :):)
atsea44 on July 2nd, 2012 06:37 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much! You really helped me a lot! ^_^ And just wondering, what fold do you use when inserting the cup?
juliiie87juliiie87 on July 2nd, 2012 06:53 pm (UTC)
Triangle fold, origami, and sometimes labia or punch down are what work best for virgins. If you're not familiar with those, look at Lunette's video or Melissa's (aka menstrual cup info) on youtube. You can make the end of the cup very tiny with those, especially on a very soft cup. Don't jump at the tiniest cup ever though, think of what length and capacity YOU need.

Like the previous commenter said, it's all about relaxation. Plus you might not realise it yet, but your opening may start stretching over time, especially if you start inserting things, such as your fingers or a cup. The vagina is naturally very flexible, think of what it's meant to do ! And don't worry, it'll come right back to it's initial shape afterwards. Only the opening should get less uncomfortable over time.
melissa569melissa569 on July 3rd, 2012 12:50 am (UTC)
You certainly can use a cup. Many virgins go through the same issue when they first begin, but as stated in one of the above posts, there are guides written to help talk you through it. I even wrote an information page for both virgins and their parents to read through, just get your parents' permission before reading it, have one of them look at it first (if a person is under age, but not all virgins are):

http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/virgins-and-menstrual-cups/

It does take a little time, practice and adjusting, but its absolutely doable :) And I will tell you the truth here-- the youngest people I have ever spoken to who actually use cups (and/or tampons) were about 11 years old. So I certainly don't think 15 is too young, my own little cousin is 15 and uses one.



Edited at 2012-07-03 12:52 am (UTC)
esoterria on July 3rd, 2012 05:06 am (UTC)
I just wanted to point out that the hymen is not what some of these articles/guides say it is. It is elastic, (usually) covers only a small part of the vaginal opening, and is more likely to stretch than break.

Here are some articles/pictures about it:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/you-it/200806/new-york-times-is-wrong-about-the-hymen-they-are-not-alone

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/body/my_corona_the_anatomy_formerly_known_as_the_hymen_the_myths_that_surround_it

There are hymens that fully or partially cover the vaginal opening, but these are rare, and often need to be "broken" or removed by a doctor.

As long as you use lubrication, go slowly, and wait and relax if you feel any discomfort, using a cup before you've had sex shouldn't be anything painful, and it shouldn't create tears in the hymen.