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So I own the small Ladycup and I've been using it for about 5 months now. It is my first menstrual cup and overall I have to say that it is pretty good.

After a few days of hit-and-miss, I find inserting/releasing the cup fairly simple, it rarely leaks, and I don't have to empty it too often.

The huge issue I am having though is that the stem quite noticeably pokes my vaginal wall and rubs against it when I move around. It's not the worst feeling ever but it's unpleasant enough that I am looking into getting a new cup.

I've thought about shortening/cutting the stem but found that it was extremely difficult for me to reach the base of the cup with my fingers alone.

Since the stem stops quite a bit up inside me, I'm looking for a cup that is longer and hopefully has more stem to avoid this issue again.

I really enjoy the squishiness of the Ladycup so I'm hoping to find a cup that is similar in that aspect but I'm willing to branch out. 

I also think I am going to swap to the large-size because the small Ladycup gets a little lost in there and I find myself changing it every few hours.

I've looked around the forum for a few days now and examined most of the charts and the choices I am looking at most seriously are

  • Large cuplee: this has the length I am seeking (even though the stem is quite small) and it rates as very soft. I am hesitant about getting this cup because I fear it may be too soft and I really don't know if a firmer cup would comfortable and/or stop the occasional leaks I get with my Ladycup
  • Large Lunette: I really like the way that this cup is shaped and it's length/stem make it look pretty ideal to me but I keep hearing that it is super firm.
  • Large Fleurcup: I like the size of this cup and I also like that it is of apparently similar softness to the Ladycup
  • Large Yuuki: The Yuuki rates as quite large but I like the shape of it. Like the Lunette, it is apparently very firm

So overall I'm hoping to get some opinions from people who have used a few of these cups (and maybe used the Ladycup) about what worked out for them.

Advice in particular about firmness would be appreciated.

Thanks in advance!

Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on June 30th, 2012 08:30 am (UTC)
Hey :) I'm de-tagging your post because it was overtagged, we ask that you only choose the two or three most relevant tags for your situation because the tags are how we organize our FAQ posts.
moonhoney925 on June 30th, 2012 08:47 am (UTC)
If squishiness is a requirement then I would go for the Fleurcup. I have a large one of those and a large Lunette as well. The Lunette is quite stiff, so I don't think that it is ideal for your needs. The beauty of the Fleurcup is that it also has a tab stem. It might not irritate you as much either and it is also easy to clean.

I cannot comment on the other two because I don't have them but I am pretty sure that the stems are hollow like your Ladycup.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on June 30th, 2012 10:07 am (UTC)
I have a large Lunette that I LOVE but sometimes its stiffness bothers me. I vote for the large Fleurcup instead.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on June 30th, 2012 10:37 am (UTC)
if you prefer the yuuki/lunette shape, get a large green donna :) my mum is very satisfied with hers and the stem is quite long. you can find it on ebay :)
edit: it's pretty soft, but definitely not too soft, she doesn't bother with those tricks but she still gets it to open easily.

Edited at 2012-06-30 10:40 am (UTC)
juliiie87juliiie87 on June 30th, 2012 11:30 am (UTC)
I'm wearing my Cuplee right now and well, I love it ! And to make it even better, you can now get one via Paypal, Luxury Moon and... Feminine wear in the UK.:D

It does have a great length, and good grip rings, and yes, there was a slight learning curve for insertion, but it was just a matter of learning to relax and finding the right folds (basically the most intricate ones). I suspect because it's fairly V shaped, it still pops open rather consistently. I've had 2 leaks since I got it in September. Once I think it overflowed, I had a crazy flow that day and it looked pretty full. Once... the other day when I went swimming. :/ That was not fun, but in the cup's defense, it had been leaking before I got to the swimming pool, so I guess it was mis-positionned. Crazy flow as well.

Alternatively, the Fleurcup sounds great, I've never heard anyone complain about anything but the fierce grip rings. I wouldn't bother with the other two because of stiffness, but that's personnal.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on June 30th, 2012 02:05 pm (UTC)
not everyone likes the shape of the fleurcup either...
juliiie87juliiie87 on July 1st, 2012 01:44 pm (UTC)
I would guess so, but I can't honestly remember anyone complaining on here. I know Cuplee's tappered shape looks more appealing to me, but a happy Fleurcup user would probably disagree, and obviously that's fine.

OP, according to Melissa's photos, the large Fleurcup looks like it has a slightly longer stem, but according to this chart they should be similar... http://menstrualcup.co/brands/comparer-coupe-menstruelle-tableau.html
So idk, it's really up to what appeals to you most (and possibly how high you think it'll ride). A wide cup such as Fleurcup would probably go as far as possible. But the stem looks like it'll be sturdier if you really have to pull it down. I never had issues cleaning the hollow stem, but maybe that's because it sits rather low inside me, idk. The main difference is width and of course, capacity. And the shape is obviously very different.

It can sometimes be tricky to remove such a soft cup, for me it helps being able to reach in next to the cup, but I also appreciate the grip rings and the firmer spot where the stem is attached to the body which allows to pinch it and wiggle it out.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on July 1st, 2012 05:08 pm (UTC)
well, if the OP wants this shape there's no need to get a fleurcup when there's the green donna, which is soft unlike the large lunette and yuuki.
m03m on July 1st, 2012 09:03 pm (UTC)
It's almost like you prefer that people don't recommend the Fleurcup... which is a great cup and easy to get. Like juliiie87, I can't remember reading about anyone who did not like the shape.

Frankly I'd have no idea where to get a Green Donna, I don't see any on Ebay at the moment.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on July 1st, 2012 09:39 pm (UTC)
depends on where you're from. in russia green donnas are MUCH easier to get.
i like this shape in general but when my small meluna slides down too much i just HATE it. and there were enough people not liking the new meluna shape that the old one was brought back.
it's more like green donna is under-recommended because it's not so well-known and because of the lunette campaigns. i'm just stating the fact: the OP wants a long cup with a yuuki/lunette shape but softer, like a cuplee but preferably longer. green donna seems perfect.
juliiie87juliiie87 on July 1st, 2012 11:15 pm (UTC)
True, it's toally a valid advice, I just never suggest it because I wouldn't know where to get one if I wanted to. Plus I don't really know how it rates stiffness-wise. And I wonder about the quality, because you can't really complain to the company in case anything goes wrong, that's all.
m03m on July 2nd, 2012 06:54 am (UTC)
Easier than ordering a Fleurcup? How does that work?
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on July 2nd, 2012 10:25 am (UTC)
several resellers and co-op orders. nothing like that for a fleurcup. almost nobody bothers with ordering directly from abroad, making it pretty similar to misscup or shecup in terms of availability.
m03m on July 2nd, 2012 10:34 am (UTC)
Ah, I didn't realise people consider buying from a reseller 'easier'.

No one I know has problems ordering stuff from abroad. Plus, most of the resellers are 'abroad' too.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on July 2nd, 2012 10:56 am (UTC)
duh, of course nobody you know has problems. the ordering thing, along with visas, is why i consider myself *less European* than ppl from, say, Spain or Sweden. I'm currently in Finland and I'm trying to order everything I need while it's easy.

there are plenty of russian resellers selling cups, the most popular ones probably being meluna, green donna and ladycup.
moonhoney925 on July 3rd, 2012 04:49 am (UTC)
Huh??? Serpent_849, why are you so against the Fleurcup? Did you have a bad experience with one?

I'm in Australia and have had no issues whatsoever ordering anything from abroad including the Fleurcup (when you are Australian, you find that its a priority to order things from O/S if you're on a budget). I'll admit that it was the first thing that I have ordered from France and if that is anything to go by then I have no hesitations ordering anything else from there.

I ordered my Fleurcup and my Lunette (luneshop.com) on the sameday and the Fleurcup arrived 2 days before the Lunette. The price for the Fleurcup was good too EUR14.99 + EUR3.99 for postage. Their site was straightforward as well.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on July 3rd, 2012 08:34 am (UTC)
well good for you. i don't trust our post and i prefer having the opportunity to get stuff delivered directly to me or, even better, to meet the delivery person at a metro station (because then they won't make you wait). i think it's silly that they sell only through their official site, though there weren't any russian distributors before that either.
i was just pointing out that there's no need to get a fleurcup if the OP wants somethink like Yuuki but softer. i do rec it when i really see that it's the best option.
m03m on July 3rd, 2012 08:53 am (UTC)
What's 'the ordering thing'? Can't people in Russia order from abroad?
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on July 4th, 2012 06:36 am (UTC)
Russian customs is notoriously red-tape driven, clunky, and slow. Many sellers won't even ship there because it's so slow. So you can order from abroad, but it's often a painful exercise.
moonhoney925 on July 2nd, 2012 06:51 am (UTC)
The Fleurcup has a slightly longer stem than the Lunette but it would only be by about 2mm at most.

It's a really nice cup. The texture of it is good too- not slippery and very easy to clean, even with toilet paper if you need to empty it while you're out.

I'm quite happy to recommend it.
melissa569melissa569 on June 30th, 2012 11:48 pm (UTC)
I don't know if Yuuki has changed their cup as of late, but the large one I have, I cannot say that is nearly as firm as large Lunette.

Cup Lee, I love that one. If you look at my comparison photos you will see that its at leas as long as Ladycup: http://menstrualcups.friendhood.net/f52-moderator-s-photo-library

Large Fleurcup sounds like it might be a good idea, sometimes a solid stem is easier to trim smoothly than a hollow stem. That might be you best bet, based on what you are looking for.

Have you considered Meluna Soft? I don't think they are too soft, and they have decent length.
loveyourcuploveyourcup on July 2nd, 2012 09:20 am (UTC)
Similar to a small lady cup, if you like the squishiness if it may be cuplee is a good option but they only do the L size at the moment from what they told me so not sure where you can get a S. If you don't like stems you could also get a basic Meluna soft in M. I like the fact it has a smooth bottom stem free.
pancakepowderpancakepowder on July 4th, 2012 04:25 am (UTC)
Sorry about the tagging. I'll try to be less enthusiastic next time.

Sorry for the delay, thanks for all the advice!

I've read through all your comments and I think I've narrowed it down to getting either a fleurcup or a meluna soft (I don't know how I skipped over that option!)
My only hesistation about the fleurcup is that the size is unfamiliar but so many of you seem to like it so maybe.
I'll do some more thinking and my next month will be a happier one.

I'm quite active so I think I might want to try a lunette sometime in the future becuase I've read that a stiffer cup is better when you are doing more activity.
Is this true? Can I ask that here or am I overstepping my one question limit aha.
Darling Nikkijessiebanana on July 4th, 2012 05:53 pm (UTC)
I'm very active and I actually found that the stiffer version of my cup broke seal easily when I stretched or contorted my body in odd ways. The MeLuna soft moves with me and I don't get any leaks. It does get pinched by my vaginal muscles, but the seal stays put which is what matters.
cutekitty7 on August 3rd, 2012 06:38 pm (UTC)
I think a small miacup could work for you . It's a relatively soft cup and has a tab stem instead of a tube so it might poke you less and I'd say it's medium length means it probaly won't ride high like your ladycup