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I find changing/cleaning my cup in public toilets without a private sink (sink outside the cubicle) annoying for a couple of reasons.

- Although I'd love to promote conversation and awareness by washing my cup at the public sink, people may think of this as unhygienic and I'd rather not put anyone off the idea.
- Going into the stall, removing, going out of the stall and washing, and going back into the stall takes time (Waddling/leaning over with my pants around my ankles at a private sink is much faster) and is difficult to do when there is a queue for the toilet!
- If I fail at insertion (which happens occasionally, even after 6 years) I find it's easier to wash it again before trying insertion again. Hard to wash multiple times if doing so outside of a private cubicle.
- I prefer to go into the toilet without having to take a water bottle/wet paper into the cubicle or juggle these while in the cubicle.
- If I only wipe my cup with toilet paper: 1) risk of flaking tp 2) without water cup is either sticky/slimy and I'm afraid I'll drop it.

Now I know there a many of you out there who are fine with some of the above mentioned methods (washing at public sink, wiping with tp or using water bottle). However, I know I only feel fully comfortable in cubicles with private sinks and I assume some others feel the same way. I do change in sinkless cubicles if I HAVE to, but I have found myself even going into disabled toilets because of the private sink! (I know, it's bad and I'm always scared some person will be outside to judge me for taking the only disabled toilet!).

So, people... what I am thinking is that we create a map of some sort where people can place markers where they know there are public bathrooms with private sinks. Perhaps it could even become a mobile phone app in the future? I know I'd love a list of public toilets with private sinks when I'm out and about.

Hopefully public toilets in the future will be built with our needs in mind, for example a toilet block with at least one cubicle with it's own sink. But I don't think that's going to happen in anywhere in the near future. Probably will happen once I've hit menopause!
moonhoney925 on June 29th, 2012 01:19 am (UTC)
Maybe use the disabled toilets or the toilets in the parent room. I know you shouldn't but if there is no one else around why not. It's not like you're going to do it everyday probably only on the first couple of days of your period.
raindropsieraindropsie on June 29th, 2012 01:30 am (UTC)
I do use the disabled toilet sometimes, but I feel bad doing it because a person in a wheel chair may really need it. As for the parent room, that's a good idea! I would feel a little bad, but not as bad as using the disable one. I will keep my eye out for those.

My biggest prob at the moment is finding a private sink on campus at uni. My chances are slim, but if anybody knows of private sinks (that aren't in disabled cubicles) on the Macquarie University campus (North Ryde, NSW, Australia) then that'd be fantastic.

I think it would still be nice to have a list handy though :) for instance when you're in the city or a new suburb etc.
Sock Be A Lady Tonightsockbealady on June 29th, 2012 04:12 am (UTC)
I'm in the US and this is of no help to you, but I thought I would mention we have one bathroom in our building that I know of that has the sinks in the stalls (4th floor bathroom, though). At least I know I have an option if I have to empty in public.
moonhoney925 on June 29th, 2012 03:50 am (UTC)
I'd feel guilty too although the chances of a person requiring those toilets at the same time would be quite low.

For my heavy days I use a cloth pad as back up. The ones I use are 3-in-1 ones that I purchased from Etsy. So far I've only had to empty my cup (Fleurcup) once while I've been out in public, I just used toilet paper.
Stephanieladycallie on June 29th, 2012 04:17 am (UTC)
I just dump and reinsert, no rinsing required. I clean my hands with TP and make sure to cover any "straining" until I can wash them in a sink. I actually find its easier to reinsert with it unrinsed.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on June 29th, 2012 04:09 pm (UTC)
Me too. The few drops that remain in/on the cup are negligible.

Heck, I only have a porta-potty with no running water at my "outside job." And it really is no big deal. :o) I take a bottle of water with me just to rinse my hands.
bar100bar100 on June 29th, 2012 01:26 pm (UTC)
Hand-Held Bidet spray
raindropsieraindropsie on June 30th, 2012 10:12 pm (UTC)
Re: Hand-Held Bidet spray
Interesting idea.... wouldn't they normally be used for cleaning one's privates though? I'm not sure if that would be sanitary... Maybe alright for the outside job it normally does, but when you're putting something inside you for up to 12 hours, I wouldn't be as confident. Besides my hygiene concerns, would be an easy addition to any public toilet though :)
Mandapriemoerunamida on June 29th, 2012 02:43 pm (UTC)
I also dump and reinsert right in the bathroom. If I know Im on a heavy day, I will sometimes hold the cup down into the toilet and urinate down onto it (unfortunately my hand as well). But it's easier to clean that up than blood. Walking to the sink to wash my hand with bloody fingers is a bit more curious and something I try to avoid.
teacupcake89 on June 29th, 2012 03:02 pm (UTC)
Lunette cup wipes are really good! (and very small so you could fit one in jeans pocket if you don't usually take a bag into the toilet with you)

In the UK, most trains, coffee shops and department stores/shops only have one disabled/baby changing toilet. But, honestly they are usually so dirty/not cleaned regularly I'd rather wait and find a non-shared toilet that's more cleaner to sit on and use the bottle of water in my bag (not a screw top one!)

I would love to have a list of regularly clean toilets/toilets with sinks! :)
Zzsomeone on June 29th, 2012 06:07 pm (UTC)
Gas stations are a pretty sure bet, with the exception of big truck stops, they're almost always single occupancy and with a sink.

(Well, in the US anyway, no idea where you live.)
bad_pixie_000 on July 1st, 2012 05:06 pm (UTC)
"I have found myself even going into disabled toilets because of the private sink! (I know, it's bad and I'm always scared some person will be outside to judge me for taking the only disabled toilet!)."

As a wheelchair-user, I don't personally see a problem with an able-bodied person using the disabled toilets to wash their cup or whatever they need to do that they don't feel comfortable doing with a seperate sink. Besides, there are lots of disabilities and ilnesses where someone might need to use them but can walk: so someone walking out shouldn't be judged IMO. I always thought of them as wheelchair-accessible not wheelchair-only.
raindropsieraindropsie on July 1st, 2012 10:55 pm (UTC)
I'm glad to hear you think that way. I'm not sure everyone would agree though or understand my predicament, but I shouldn't let that stop me.

Thanks for commenting, makes me feel a bit better about it now :)

I still think adding one private sink to public toilets would be the best option though. But until then, the disabled toilet it will be!

chamekkechamekke on July 9th, 2012 03:20 am (UTC)
I know this doesn't count as a public toilet, but... every Starbucks I've ever visited has had at least 1 one-person washroom that's (a) lockable and contains (b) both a toilet and a sink.

(And God knows there are lots of Starbucks out there ;-)
raindropsieraindropsie on July 9th, 2012 09:21 am (UTC)
Thanks for the tip. Not sure if it's the same in Sydney, but next time I'm near a Starbucks I will take a look. Not too many here though, but I think there is one in the city.
chamekkechamekke on July 10th, 2012 03:13 pm (UTC)
Ah, I missed the comment where you said you're in Oz -- sorry about that! *blushes*

I'm in western Canada myself so the Starbucks aren't quite as thick on the ground as they are in the United States. But when you do find one, you can rely on the washroom being an all-in-one and completely lockable. (This is actually the case for most of the coffee shops in my city, come to think of it.) Although, they're not public so you're either looking at sneaking into the toilet OR buying a coffee as the price of 'admission'.

Otherwise, yes, the only commonly available option I can think of is the disabled toilet. Which I wouldn't feel too guilty about, given that we're only talking about very occasional use?

I'm not a big fan of adjacent cubicles even when I'm not on my period, so I'm totally with you about the desirability of private toilets :-)
musicmylovemusicmylove on July 10th, 2012 06:52 pm (UTC)
Some fast food places have 1 person bathrooms.