Anyway, I am using the C fold and making sure that the cup is fully expanded by putting my finger in and going around the rim. I even spin it around easily to try and ensure suction. However when I tug on the stem it seems to be pretty easy to pull out. It gives a little bit of resistance, but the resistance seems to be from the larger size of the cup as opposed to an actual suction since it's seems to easy to pull out by just using the stem (instead of having to pinch and break the suction first. I've tried bearing down and tugging the stem a bit to try to form a suction, but I'm just not sure that it's actually working.
The other thing is that when I feel around the top with my finger to ensure that it's completely open, it doesn't seem to be really attached to the walls. Instead it seems to be suctioned to the top of my cervix. Does that seem right? I mean, I know that my cervix is inside the cup (have a low cervix) but the cup doesn't seemed to be suctioned to the sides, instead it seems like it's just pushed to the very top (which isn't too high up). I've tried pulling it down, but then it just seems uncomfortable (and not because of the stem, but kinda crampy feeling). When rubbing my finger around should I be able to feel the rim of the cup? It seems like the cup should suction at the holes making me have to break suction to actually be able to feel the rim.
Maybe I am just over thinking this and I am getting suction, just not quite as strong as the others I've read about. And maybe the leaking around the end of my cycle was just due to my cervix taking up more room in the cup? How can I tell for sure that there is suction? Would making the holes larger maybe help with it?
Thanks for any help!!!