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21 June 2012 @ 04:44 pm
I've been looking into cups for a while now and I thought I had found the one I wanted to buy ( a fleurcup) but now I'm not so sure. I looked over the size charts and different websites but I've been left even more confused than before.
 
1.I assume I have a long vagina because I have never felt my cervix before. My period should be happening today or tomorrow so I'll try to see if I can locate it then.
2. I have a pretty light flow. I use the lightest absorbency tampons because the regular ones never fill up. My period on the second day is slightly heavier so I don't think the small Meluna would do.
3. I have a fairly tight vagina. When I'm aroused I can fit two fingers in, but when I use the applicator for the light tampons I usually get an uncomfortable sensation like it might be too big for me.
4. I know that I do not want too stiff of a cup. Something that will be fairly easy to pop open. Removing light tampons isn't always that pleasant for me, so I shudder to think what a very stiff cup would feel like.

I don't know if it's relevant but I'm 19 and have never been sexually active.

Can someone here help me? I'm very excited to buy a cup but even more confused.

Edit:
I went looking for my cervix today and I found that it's not even as far back as I thought! I suppose it's around 3.5 inches back. I'm just shocked that I even managed to find it be honest. So would that be considered short? or should I keep my eye on longer cups?
 
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on June 21st, 2012 09:07 pm (UTC)
3. Tight is a function of your pelvic floor muscles. Cups sit above them. You need to relax them for insertion and removal but otherwise, go back to holding them as you normally do.

4. You might be feeling the "scratchy absorbent friction" of the tampon and applicator rather "tightness." Some water-based lube might help both with your tampons and during the learning curve of your cup.

If the Fleurcup calls to you then go for it. But it's one the cluster of many short cups. If you think you have a long vag, also consider a small Diva.
dangeraddictdangeraddict on June 22nd, 2012 06:43 pm (UTC)
Is there a specif lube you would recommend? I figured I would need some but being a complete sexual novice I don't know the first thing about proper lubes.

Today is the second day of my period and I found my cervix. It's about 3.5 inches in. Would a diva still be on the list of candidates?
(no subject) - teacupcake89 on June 22nd, 2012 06:55 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - dangeraddict on June 22nd, 2012 06:59 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - kuradi8 on June 22nd, 2012 06:59 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Yamxyamx on June 21st, 2012 10:38 pm (UTC)
2.) Do you still use the smallest tampons on your second day? Because even the small Meluna can hold MUCH more than one of those. And the Meluna soft is *really* soft and easier to get in and out than any other cup I've tried.
nocebo_domingonocebo_domingo on June 21st, 2012 11:11 pm (UTC)
If the OP has a high cervix, though, the small or medium MeLunas may be too short to reach.
(no subject) - yamx on June 22nd, 2012 02:23 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - dangeraddict on June 22nd, 2012 06:45 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - yamx on June 22nd, 2012 09:51 pm (UTC) (Expand)
teacupcake89 on June 21st, 2012 10:41 pm (UTC)
1. try to find your cervix during your period. your cervix should feel round and firmish (different to the vaginal walls and slightly sticky-out) it s not necessarily at the 'end' of your vagina just like your face it not at the 'end' of your head, so feel around, squatting might help as it shortens the vagina. some say it feels like the end of your nose/a small penis head/a doughnut! It will feel different at different stages of your cycle and ideally you should measure you low/high it is ON your period because most cervixes move down during your period. this will help to decide whether you need a long, short or medium length cup.

2. cup won't dry you out if you don't fill it up, so I would say go for length and stiffness, as you don't need loads of capacity (but no harm in having it!) :)

3. see the previous comment by kuradi8, it's allll about relaxing :) some water-based lube or water might help with insertion.

4. removing a cup is very different to removing a tampon (none of that dry, scratchy, pulling insides out feeling when the tampon isn't full enough!) but, a softer cup will probably be more comfortable for you as a virgin.

small Fleurcup, small Lunette, Meluna (probably not the 'small'), Si-bell are all soft cups that you could look at once you have an idea of where your cervix is. :)
dangeraddictdangeraddict on June 22nd, 2012 06:47 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much!
(no subject) - teacupcake89 on June 22nd, 2012 07:22 pm (UTC) (Expand)
neetzscheneetzsche on June 22nd, 2012 04:23 am (UTC)
You may like the small Keeper Moon Cup. It's one of the very few that are narrow, yet long. It has low capacity, but much more than a light tampon. It is on the stiff side, though.

Just a little anecdote, but when I was a virgin, I was not able to find my cervix because I could not get my fingers to the left side of my vagina for some reason. Apparently it's somewhat common for the cervix to hang out on the left. So, it might be hiding there.
dangeraddictdangeraddict on June 22nd, 2012 06:55 pm (UTC)
Oddly enough my was chilling to the right.
I'll check out the keeper moon cup. Thank you :)
juliiie87juliiie87 on June 22nd, 2012 11:09 am (UTC)
1. Definitely look for your cervix at the start of your period. Be careful that it might be hiding in a corner. Fleurcups sound like very nice cups, but they are amongst the short ones, and so are Lunette, small & medium Meluna and Ladycup. Just be aware that if you still can't find find your cervix, a lot of bearing down while holding on the stem is to be expected.

With a long vagina, I recommend longer cups for an easier removal : NaturalMamma, Large Meluna soft, Cuplee and Miacup are all veeery soft and long. Diva comes next, also very long, but with a short stem, so does Naturcup, with a soft bottom and a firm rim (perhaps a bit too firm for a smooth removal).

2. Any cup would probably do, but with a high cervix, I think the small Meluna is a TERRIBLE idea, honestly. You need a large at a minimum.

3. Like others said, how "tight" your vagina feels is something you can learn to work on. It's not a definite given. Vaginas are closed onto themselves most of the time, but they can still stretch for pleasure or function. A soft cup will definitely help with comfort if that's your main concern.

4. Again, popping a soft cup open is a practical skill you will learn. Many users do it with no issues, why can't you ? here again, relaxation is key, but there are plenty of other tips, just browse through the "popping open" tag. Serpent has made a whole post about it fyi. I use a Cuplee, and I'm very happy with it. All I needed was learning to relax and the right fold.

Edited at 2012-06-22 12:40 pm (UTC)
dangeraddictdangeraddict on June 22nd, 2012 06:51 pm (UTC)
I guess I'm worried about my body also crushing the softer cups that's why I want something not too firm but not too soft either.

I'll definitely check out the popping open tag.
Thank you
(no subject) - juliiie87 on June 22nd, 2012 06:56 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - dangeraddict on June 22nd, 2012 07:01 pm (UTC) (Expand)
moonhoney925 on June 22nd, 2012 12:16 pm (UTC)
Lunettes and Fleurcups should not be a problem if you leave the stems intact. I have a high cervix and have both these cups (only two I own) in the large size, the reasons I bought them are:
1. high capacity- very important for me.
2. tab stems- as opposed to hollow stems which cause some users some discomfort and are harder to clean.
3. large holes- easy to clean.
4. grip rings- easier to remove.

I was unsure about stiffness so that's why I bought both cups.
dangeraddictdangeraddict on June 22nd, 2012 06:54 pm (UTC)
How are the both of them working out for you? Lunette and Fleurcup were the first two I really took note of when I started my search.
(no subject) - moonhoney925 on June 23rd, 2012 03:01 am (UTC) (Expand)
Konichiwa Cobra: 2NE1 - UGLYkonichiwacobra on June 22nd, 2012 04:51 pm (UTC)
I'd try the small lunette. I had similar issues and that's what I started with. If you leave the stem on, you should be ok with the length. It's flexible and pops open easily. It'll take some practice to get it up there, but just like getting used to tampons, you'll get used to the cup. Hope this helps.
dangeraddictdangeraddict on June 22nd, 2012 06:52 pm (UTC)
You made me less nervous about buying one now that I'm getting close to making a decision.
(no subject) - konichiwacobra on June 22nd, 2012 08:21 pm (UTC) (Expand)
juliiie87juliiie87 on June 22nd, 2012 07:51 pm (UTC)
Replying to your update : I still think 3.5 inches is pretty high, for the simple reason that it translates into 88 mms. Now look at the size charts : the longest cup without the stem, the Diva, is just 57 mm, 67 mm with the stem. Which basically means you'll be fine with any longer cup, possibly one with a longer stem than the Diva ! So I maintain my first advice, look for a longer cup.
dangeraddictdangeraddict on June 22nd, 2012 09:16 pm (UTC)
thank you
okwaho_okaraokwaho_okara on June 25th, 2012 12:32 am (UTC)
You've already gotten lots of helpful comments here but I thought I'd add a few of my own!

I studied and studied the size charts, read posts here, pondered, looked at the different manufacturers websites, and I finally decided on a Fleurcup. Like you, my cervix is about 3 inches up. I also was worried about "crushing" the cup or not being able to get it to pop open, but I actually have the opposite problem! I have to fight with it to NOT pop open before I am ready, lol! I ordered both a small and a large, and only used the small for my first 2-3 periods with a cup, and then last cycle I finally tried the large (I was afraid it wouldn't fit would get crushed, etc...) but it fit perfectly and it didn't get crushed... so now I am going to use the large my first two days (the heaviest days) or when I won't be able to empty it for more than 8 hours and then the small the rest of the time.

I have pretty strong muscles down there too but Fleurcup works so well for me!

Also the stem does not bother me at all even though it sticks out a bit! I DID trim it down a tad though, and I think I am going to trim both one more notch.

Good luck with your cup searching!
dangeraddictdangeraddict on June 25th, 2012 02:51 pm (UTC)
This was very helpful that you so much!
(no subject) - okwaho_okara on June 25th, 2012 10:10 pm (UTC) (Expand)