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20 June 2012 @ 09:09 pm
I'm 15 virgin and really want to use a menstrual cup!  Honestly it is taking forever to insert it and I have wasted 3 periods just TRYING to insert it.  I have tried it on an angle, lying down, going in the shower, and almost everything else.  I try to relax as best I can.  The only fold I haven't tried is the labia but I fear i will loose grip on it and it will open halfway causing so much pain!  That has happened to me 3 times, I'm so close to getting it in and then POP and i just haft to get it out!  I really want to use a menstrual cup for various reasons and I have stuck my fingers into my vagina before, that is actually pretty easy to do.  I have a small Lunette, and the size really isn't overwhelming so I don't know what is going on.  Any other tips or help would be greatly appreciated!
 
wanderinthedark on June 21st, 2012 09:54 am (UTC)
Have you tried lube? Some people need lube to insert it properly at first.

Also, what is the problem: does it hurt?
rooskie5150 on June 23rd, 2012 02:38 am (UTC)
Yes at first it did hurt and mainly because I didn't use all the techniques out there!
teacupcake89 on June 21st, 2012 10:24 am (UTC)
the comments on these two posts by similar aged-users about inserting their lunettes should really help!
http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2889957.html#comments

http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2886376.html#comments

my advice is:

relax, get all relaxed and lubed up.

definitely definitely angle the cup slanting downwards towards your tailbone/end of bottom. (I repeat this to myself if I find the cup it hitting against something, take a deep relaxing breath and insert a bit further and repeat until it is mostly(or fully inside)

found it easier to insert my cup lying on my back on my bed, knees wide apart, with a towel underneath me to wipe fingers etc on. This, with lots lots lots of lube (on myself not the cup) was how I insert my cup (now I can perch myself on the edge of the bath to insert but prefer lying down if possible)

the main tip however is to relax!!!! (I pretend that I'm about to 'have sex'/insert something, this helps me relax and distracts me from panicking!) focus on relaxing your muscles, keep your jaw slack/open and take deep breaths! sometimes bearing down a little, as in almost trying to pee / have a bowel movement helps keep my vag opening relaxed.

insert the cup slowly, slowly, I hold the top with one hand and the bottom with the other hand so it has less chance to 'pop' open. with the punchdown fold, I insert the smooth side upwards with the crease towards the floor, but you might find the other way better.

sometimes I stop midway, then holding the cup still, relax, and push slowly in the middle of a deep breath. breathing must make my vagina all relaxed! haha.


positions to try with the tips include:

sitting on the edge of the bath
sitting on the toilet (leaning backwards or forwards)
squatting over the toilet or just squatting (high or low)
squatting in the shower/bath or leaning against shower door/wall
one foot on the toilet seat/bath
lying on back on the bed
lying sideways on the bed
I'm sure there are more but these are the ones I have tried!

if it's not working: have a warm relaxing bath, a drink/glass of wine(if you drink alcohol that is!) or an orgasm!! :)

this should be the link to 'The Virgin's Guide to Cups' http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/1243131.html#comments

really helpful for all cup users with insertion and removal whether a virgin or not :)

Good luck! you will get it, it just takes practice, patience and relaxation. :)


juliiie87juliiie87 on June 21st, 2012 01:37 pm (UTC)
All of the above, and also, while inserting, I find that bearing down (pushing) a little helps keep the opening relaxed.
rooskie5150 on June 23rd, 2012 02:40 am (UTC)
This post helped me so much, Thank you! After a 30 minute shower of trial and error, I finally turned off the shower and gave it one last go, and to my surprise... IT WORKED!! And honestly I haven't felt better. Thank you again for this wonderful post, it helped me sooo much! and ps my main problem was that i could not for the life of me angle it correctly!!! I finally lied down and angled it at my tailbone, and that did the trick ;)
rooskie5150 on June 23rd, 2012 02:41 am (UTC)
This post helped me so much, Thank you! After a 30 minute shower of trial and error, I finally turned off the shower and gave it one last go, and to my surprise... IT WORKED!! And honestly I haven't felt better. Thank you again for this wonderful post, it helped me sooo much! and ps my main problem was that i could not for the life of me angle it correctly!!! I finally lied down and angled it at my tailbone, and that did the trick ;)
m03m on June 21st, 2012 10:33 am (UTC)
I've tagged your entry with some tags that may be helpful... click them and you'll find lots of relevant postings.
Good luck!
rooskie5150 on June 23rd, 2012 02:41 am (UTC)
Thanks for the help, the tags had so much info!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on June 21st, 2012 02:15 pm (UTC)
If your hymen isn't in the way, you're probably clenching your PC muscles. To isolate them, next time you go pee, start and stop your stream a few times. Then insert your finger and give it a little squeeze. Now that you know how to contract them on command, practice RELAXING them on command. You'll need to do that for insertion and especially removal. Open your mouth a little and keep your jaw slack -- and don't forget to breathe! :o)

Insert your cup so the rim is beyond those muscles, then let it open. My guess is that you're letting it go too soon.
rooskie5150 on June 23rd, 2012 02:43 am (UTC)
Thanks for the help, I really did need to relax more. And I totally was letting it go too soon. I persevered getting it through/past my hymen and now I just haft to get ready for removal :O but I'm sure that will be easier. Thanks so much!