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18 June 2012 @ 06:51 am

I've never used a tampon before, but am to the point where I don't want to use pads. I'm off the college in the fall and I don't want to either be labeled as strange because I use pads - or have to frequently go and get more. Seems like a big messy pain that I don't want to deal with at college.

I'm a virgin. 16, turning 17 if that makes any difference. I've no idea of what kind would work best for me. I don't want to spend a lot of money on one, but I want to do it fairly soon so I can start using it before college.

So, in your minds, what would work best for someone who is a virgin and has never used tampons?

Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on June 18th, 2012 02:02 pm (UTC)
The best cup is one that fits you best. There are many size charts at the Community FAQ to help you figure that out. At http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ too.

While you're at the Community FAQ, scroll down to The Virgin's Guide to Cups. Excellent info there.
chamekke: cha_blinding_intelligencechamekke on June 18th, 2012 03:10 pm (UTC)
*light-bulb moment* kuradi, this is possibly OT for the original poster, but I only just realized why I've been repeatedly baffled by other members' references to "the community FAQ", which I could never, ever find.

I've been viewing LJ using my style rather than the comm's original. When viewed in my style, at the top of the navigation bar there's a short list under the title Links that includes one called FAQ [in progress]. It takes the reader to a placeholder page, then to a "click here to edit the wiki page", and finally to a blank "Under construction" page on the menstrualcups site.

On top of that, in the tags list, the link community faq appears as just "faq" when viewed in my LJ's style!

Anyway, just thought I'd mention this in case anyone else expresses bewilderment about the elusiveness of our FAQ. They might be using "my style" too ;-)

Also, the most recent uses of the (community) faq tag are on posts that aren't particularly FAQ-related, so the original poster should just scroll down a bit to get to the more relevant stuff :-)
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on June 18th, 2012 04:00 pm (UTC)
Ah! Good to know. I'll use the link instead of the title from here on. Thanks! :o)
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on June 18th, 2012 07:06 pm (UTC)
Yes, that's one of our frustrations at the moment! The site was maintained by the original owner of this community, but she began to redesign it a few months ago and it seems to have fallen by the wayside. We're kind of in a holding pattern on it for now. Sorry for the confusion!
chamekke: cha_iammadeoflove_by_iconomiconchamekke on June 19th, 2012 06:28 am (UTC)
Ah, no problem at all :-) I'm just happy to have finally worked out why I was noticing a few odd things that no one else seemed to be seeing. (The tags system makes a lot more sense now that I'm looking at it in the original style, too!)
juliiie87juliiie87 on June 18th, 2012 02:12 pm (UTC)
EDITED. Here are a couple links to start with and figure out what YOU need :

The Virgin's Guide to cups : http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/1243131.html
The sizecharts, already given to you above, and another chart for stiffness comparison : http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/cup-stiffness-comparison-chart/

Generally, don't get the tiniest cup unless you really need it, it'll be annoying if you have a very long vagina and it ends up wandering way up there. Think of how heavy your flow is, as well, and pay attention to capacity. As a virgin, you may prefer cups that are of medium stiffness to very soft, and the ones with a smaller rim so they're easier to fold tightly for insertion and removal.

Edited at 2012-06-18 07:02 pm (UTC)
teacupcake89 on June 18th, 2012 05:08 pm (UTC)
you've got some really good advice here :)

I will say that no-one who is worth listening to will think you 'strange' for only using pads! please don't think that! cloth pads are another eco money saving option if you don't feel ready for a cup just yet. :) I can understand how you feel though, I wish I had my cup when I was in college/uni it would have saved me loads of money, bedsheets and nice knickers!

try to find your cervix on your next period (perhaps every day/other day to see if it's higher/lower at the beginning/end of your period) as your cervix tends to move during period. how high up/reachable it it will give you an idea of whether you need a long cup, medium length or shorter cup.

this, combined with how heavy your flow is and whether you would like a soft or stiff cup should lead you to a cup. have a look at the various size charts to help there and the cup comparison photos here: http://menstrualcups.friendhood.net/f52-moderator-s-photo-library
(the latest entries have more updated/newer cup styles)

don't be tempted to buy the smallest/narrowest cup available, many virgins are able to use the 'large or size 2' soft cups, the extra width just gives more flow capacity and is good for lower or 'dangly' cervixes.
once you have decided on a cup, then pick a colour/stem type etc if applicable!

take your time to choose a cup and go with your gut instinct after the above factors. money-wise a cup will pay for itself within a few months, and they last for years if looked after properly. :)
Catarkeiryn on June 19th, 2012 12:14 pm (UTC)
I will say that no-one who is worth listening to will think you 'strange' for only using pads! please don't think that!

This. My housemate still uses disposable pads and she's 22 :) If pads work for you, then that's fine, you don't have to force yourself to use a cup.

That said, reusable cloth pads and cups are awesome in my opinion ;) (Although I feel like I have to mention that, while I always found cup insertion relatively easy, cup removal was painful for me until after I had had my first penis-in-vagina sexual experience.)
pinkmathpinkmath on June 18th, 2012 05:40 pm (UTC)
You sound exactly like me four years ago!!

What I did:
Find my vagina. (Yea, I had no idea where it was.)
Read The Virgin's Guide to Cups.
Watch Melissa's youtube videos on cups. http://www.youtube.com/user/MenstrualCupInfo
Look at pictures comparing all the cups. http://menstrualcups.friendhood.net/f52-moderator-s-photo-library
Explore Melissa's website. http://menstrualcups.friendhood.net/f52-moderator-s-photo-library

I wish I had found where my cervix was located before buying my first cup. Remember check it WHILE on your period. I recommend checking it everyday of your period b/c my crazy cervix is low the 1st day, can't find it the 2nd, low the 3rd day, and 4th can't find it until the next 1st day of my period. But since we are all unique it could be completely different for you.