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17 June 2012 @ 04:59 pm
Hello all! I'm not exactly new to the menstrual cup scene but I don't have a lot of experience with anything other than DivaCup.
I'm a 24 year old mom of 2 (both c-sections). I bought my size 2 Diva Cup before having my second child and it worked wonderfully! I really want to get back to that!

After I had my second child I didn't have a period for over a year until she started eating more solid food, so I didn't really have an opportunity to use my cup. When my period finally came back I used cloth pads for a bit and finally went back to my Diva. Maybe tmi, but I'm actually quite a bit tighter since having my second. The period I used my Diva cup was a little uncomfortable but mostly bearable. I was starting to toy with the idea of buying a different cup. It was really hard to get the cup in because it was so big, no matter how I folded it. Also the stem poked out and irritated me. The second and most recent cycle was pure hell. It was still hard to get in because of the size and also difficult to remove. Both very pretty painful. The more I had to remove and insert it the worse it got. By the end of my period I was completely raw and in agony.

I think I need a smaller around and shorter cup. I also feel a softer cup may be more comfortable. I don't know if it's important or not but the first 3 days or so of my period are really heavy. I would completely fill my Diva Cup to the rim at least 3+ times daily, generally more frequently.

I would absolutely love any suggestions anyone might have for me!
juliiie87juliiie87 on June 17th, 2012 09:35 pm (UTC)
First off, it's unusual that a cup suddenly becomes too wide, and if you're looking for a high capacity cup, it's going to be wide anyway, with the possible exception of the NaturalMamma, but it's just as long as the Diva if not longer including the stem. Too long, however, that's very likely, and there are certainly shorter cups available that hold the same amount and even more. Have a look here : http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/

In the meantime, try cutting the stem off and flipping the cup inside out, this'll shorten it a bit. It's good to go back to tight PC muscles after child birth, but in order to ease insertion & removal, you need to relax them as much as possible. Keep your *jaw slack, loosen up your shoulders, and even bear down a little bit to make sure you keep everything open and relaxed. If you really have strong muscles though, you might want not to get a cup that's too soft, or you might crush it... Compare stiffness here : http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/cup-stiffness-comparison-chart/

Edited at 2012-06-17 10:14 pm (UTC)
0mandabear00mandabear0 on June 17th, 2012 10:29 pm (UTC)
I'm not especially looking for a higher capacity cup. I'd gladly change a comfortable one more frequently and sleep with a pad. I do keep my muscles slack and bare down when removing and it's still very painful. I usually did it froggy style in the shower.

Even flipped inside out, the Diva really looks too wide. It wasn't really a sudden thing that it became to wide, I just hadn't worn it in a long time. I can barely have sex with my husband anymore, so it's not just the cup that's been affected, sorry for the tmi!

I really think I just want to buy a new cup. I think I have slightly stronger than average pelvic floor muscles so maybe the soft cup is a bad idea, but I don't want anything more firm than the Diva. I was sort of considereing the medium (maybe even the large) Meluna cup since it was more narrow.
juliiie87juliiie87 on June 17th, 2012 11:08 pm (UTC)
If it's any help, I find inserting sitting on the toilet or lying down far more comfortable than in the shower, tightness-wise. And also that bearing down a little for insertion helps too.

Meluna soft will probably be too soft, but I hear the classic is fairly comfortable and roughly similar to a Diva. Which length you need really depends on how long your vagina is on your period. I've read the large Meluna is similar to a Diva flipped inside out fyi.

About the TMI part : I know what you mean, I'm not particularly athletic nor do much kegels though :/ ! I keep hoping I'll learn how to relax.
0mandabear00mandabear0 on June 17th, 2012 11:17 pm (UTC)
I stared doing it in the shower because it was awful while sitting on the toilet. I've tried a lot of positions, except for lying down. I'll have to try that too.

I think I'll try the Meluna classic in medium, thank you so much for your input!

juliiie87juliiie87 on June 18th, 2012 11:33 am (UTC)
Sounds good. Here's what I just read on another post :

"The new Meluna Classic medium basic is maybe 2mm shorter than the Diva-turned-inside-out, and its diameter is ~3mm smaller than the Diva #1" (actually it's 41 mm wide, which is basically a small size for any other brand, while your Diva is 46 mm).

Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on June 18th, 2012 07:17 am (UTC)
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Hi 0mandabear0. Could you please remove the gendered language from your post? We explain our reasons for this here. Thanks!