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04 June 2012 @ 04:35 pm
Hi, everyone. I just got my first menstrual cups, the MeLuna mini S and classic M. I'm 2 weeks away from my period but I'm wearing the mini to control my cervical fluid, and it's refreshing yet odd to be totally dry down there.

But when the flow gets going, what are the characteristics of a well-fitting cup? How much will it leak during your period? When it's full? Continuously? Just at the beginning where the blood in the lower vagina leaks out? Not at all? They're opening up and staying in place well. Insertion and removal are tricky but I trust it'll get better over time.

Also, my cervix is a bit odd. when I feel for it, it's always a bit to the left, but during my pelvic, I asked the doctor about it, and she said she saw that it was right in the middle when the speculum was in. She also said it was a bit to the left during the bi-manual exam. Does anyone else have a cervix like this? And has it effected your cup usage at all?

Also also, how do you explain cup usage to a partner? If things start getting hot and heavy, I don't want my boyfriend freaking out as I suddenly pull a piece of plastic out of my vagina.

So far they're awesome, but I'd thought I'd ask for any "heads up" tips.

PS, I just looked at MeLuna's website and the color ("farbe") drop-down menu seems to be grayed out on their cup pages. What's the deal?
Runeflyffe on June 5th, 2012 02:14 am (UTC)
I too have a cervix that seems to be on the left - I have to angle my cup that way to make sure it doesn't leak. After I worked that one out leakage improved massively. Then I switched to another cup brand (swapped a Mooncup UK for LadyCups small and large) and now my cup only leaks when it's full, or occasionally when things get er... clotty. A cup shouldn't really leak continuously if it's a good fit, but it may take some time to find the right style!

Regarding explaining cup usage, I generally just... Take the cup out when it becomes necessary, wrap it in paper towel, and make sure it doesn't get chucked away by an overzealous partner, and explain later as a sort of 'fyi' thing (you could also mention it before things do get hot and heavy). Nobody's ever questioned what I was doing or the squeaky sounds, they were generally too busy looking forward to what was coming next.

I hope the MeLunas work out for you!
neetzscheneetzsche on June 6th, 2012 08:07 pm (UTC)
My mini seems small enough to float to the cervix by itself, but the classic needs to be guided there, it seems. Good to know it should work regardless.

I usually just take my tampons out in the bathroom before me and the bf get down to it, I suppose this won't be much different, except explaining what it is if he sees it. He can just be weirded out by the menstruation thing sometimes.
juliiie87juliiie87 on June 6th, 2012 08:51 pm (UTC)
I explained my switch to cups and cloth pads to my bf and he has been fairly understanding of how they worked and the benefits I got from them, maybe he just teased me a little (rightfully so!) about my obsession for these stuff lol. When I'm meeting him and I'm in the mood, I just take my cup out before I get to the bedroom. He doesn't have to see it at all if you keep it in a pouch or in a drawer. If you're having foreplay and you forgot to take it out, he shouldn't even notice it before he tries to get in (no string ! :D), so that gives you plenty of time for a quick bathroom trip. At worst, you could always say you're on your monthlies and pass on intercourse. I'd just avoid removing in front of him, and anyway he doesn't follow me to the bathroom, but that's entirely up to you.

A well-fitting cup shouldn't leak except for the occasionnal residual slobber when blood is already present lower in the canal. To avoid this, try wearing your cup early on if you can, and wipe or wash the best you can. It shouldn't be felt much if at all and sit at a convenient reaching length.
chamekkechamekke on June 6th, 2012 02:32 am (UTC)
I just looked at MeLuna's website and the color ("farbe") drop-down menu seems to be grayed out on their cup pages. What's the deal?

The colour selection is based on the size you select, since not all colours are available for all sizes/styles of cup.

Once you choose a size ("Größe"), the colour menu ("Farbe") becomes active.

But when the flow gets going, what are the characteristics of a well-fitting cup?

Ideally it shouldn't leak at all, if you're careful to empty it before it fills up completely. However, some people experience 'residual slobber' from blood that's already present on the vaginal walls prior to the cup's insertion. So it may be a good idea to have a pad in place, as backup, until you've become used to using your cup. (Cloth pads are a nice complement to cups, I think, for what it's worth... they're equally reusable! :-)

I have never experienced a leak with my Meluna cups ♥ so it is indeed possible to have a completely leak-free experience when you've found the right cup for you.
neetzscheneetzsche on June 6th, 2012 08:13 pm (UTC)
Oh hey, the menus do work like that. I don't know why I didn't try that :D

I can't wait until I can just wear the cup, I always hated about tampons that despite having the thing in you they just continue to seep through the string.