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Sarcasticia Nitpickerson
27 May 2012 @ 08:31 pm
Greetings community! Since it's been a problem several times over the past few days, I'd like to ask everyone to give the community rules a once-over. I'd especially like to call your attention to our request that you not use gendered language. The reasoning behind this is in this post from scien. For reference, this includes (but is not limited to) terms like women, ladies, chicks, guys, girls, and so on (though you're welcome to use these terms in relation to yourself). Thanks!
elbatnavuopeelbatnavuope on May 28th, 2012 08:00 pm (UTC)
"guys" is a gendered term? I mean, i've used it in relation to men, but I've also used it in a completely unisex type way... as a colloquial "hey people"... huh... the things you learn... are people truly offended by "guys"?
m03m on May 28th, 2012 08:06 pm (UTC)
Well, it's not always about being offended... it can also be about feeling, or not feeling, included. Personally, if something is addressed to 'guys', I tend to think it's not meant for me as I'm not a guy.
Keep in mind that we're not all native speakers of English, so we're not all familiar with your colloquialisms.
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on May 28th, 2012 08:09 pm (UTC)
It's not about taking offense or not taking offense by any particular person, it's about making sure the community is open and welcoming to everyone. Previous discussions in the community have shown that some people do consider "guys" a gendered term, and some don't.
elbatnavuopeelbatnavuope on May 28th, 2012 08:40 pm (UTC)
I guess every time this issue comes up I feel like I'm "less" included because I am not free to speak in a way that comes naturally to me. And I've never thought that my natural way of speaking is particularly unwelcoming to other people.

I guess this is just one time too many. As much as I love my cup, I think I'd rather not be a part of a community that is constantly reminding me that the way I talk is unacceptable. Best of luck to all ladies, gentlemen, transgender, genderqueer, female, male, androgynous, and all other humans and others that I have not included.
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on May 28th, 2012 08:48 pm (UTC)
I'm very sorry that you feel that way. Best of luck to you.