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26 May 2012 @ 07:26 am

Okay so here's the deal. I have PCOS and know nothing about my womanly parts save for the copious amounts I know about my ovaries. I have no idea why and am super embarrassed I don't know more about my body, but I'm getting better and you all are doing a fantastic job of teaching me a plethora of things I had no idea about. Like that my cervix moves, how cool and weird is that. I am set on trying out this cup lifestyle because tampons are really irritable and leak on me unless I'm using O.B. for some reason and they are crazy expensive! And I feel like a spoiled brat for throwing all this bleached cotton in my body and wherever it ultimately ends up, like I'm not being grateful to the planet and my body or something. I tried finding my cervix this morning to figure out cup size...and I'm not really sure what I found. Basically I'm convinced there is a monster living in my vagina, but maybe one of you more knowledgeable folks can confirm if I found my cervix?

Everything was going fine and dandy while I was looking for this elusive body part when I ran into the end of "to infinity and beyond". At that beyond point I began to bleed everywhere like I just lost a limb or something. It started out as a little drop on my finger and then WHOOSH the flood was a comin'. It is approximately an hour later and I'm not bleeding anymore and havent been for quite a while..I have NO IDEA if that is normal or not! I don't think it was any left over hymen but I could be wrong. I've had pap smears and all kids of poking and prodding appointments over the past 7 years thanks to my PCOS so I feel like it should just not be there. It did feel kinda weird and had an interesting texture. It wasn't my grumpy g-spot that feels like a carpet of walnuts or anything like that. Maybe it was my cervix and it was being particularly sensitive and I made it cry tears of blood...hopefully someone can shed light on this topic.

If it WAS my cervix, apparently it is sitting back around 4 inches...which is pretty far for my tiny little stubs of fingers...but I have no idea if normal fingers consider this high or normal or low. I am also currently ovulating so idk if that affects cervix position or is helpful information or not.

Because I'm ovulating it hurt pretty bad doing this little dance up in there...but I'm particularly sensitive everywhere during this time of the month. Is there anyone with PCOS out there who use cups that can speak of its pain level during a period? I'm not a wimp, I'm just also not all WOO YEAH PAIN BRING IT!

Ive seen people mentioning sneezing and losing suction and various levels of squishiness helping it not leak during sneezes. Is there an ideal squishy factor I should be looking for? I have pretty bad spring and summer allergies, think multitudes of tornadoes exiting my body per day.

I've never been penetrated by anything other than a million medical tools which always cause a crapload of pain but I can wiggle a few fingers around pretty freely without pain so I'm guessing a small size cup isn't required right? I don't really know how to figure out these things.

I had my eye on a LadyCup but I'm not really sure if this will fit the bill or not? If anyone has any suggestions please let me know!

Thanks to everyone who is so amazing here and reading that ridiculous amount of information and randomness. :)

P.S. I did take an in depth look at the sizing charts, faq, and all of that monkey business...but it still just isn't clicking in my little brain! :|

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kuradi8 on May 26th, 2012 04:18 pm (UTC)

The problem with measuring is like the one armed fisherman. "I once caught a fish THIS BIG!" (Measured from where?)

Since you called it "pretty far back," then a medium to long cup might fit you.

You have your eye on a Lady Cup but didn't say whether the small or the large calls to you. If small, there are several other cups with very similar sizes and shapes that have higher capacities. The small also gets (minor) complaints for being slippery and hard to remove. If large, that's also slick but being longer, it's not as hard to reach for many. Being soft and squishy, both sizes get high grades for comfort but can be tricky to coax open.

Also consider the Lunettes and the Fleurcups for similarly sized cups.

Personally, I *LOVE* my large Lunette but I wonder if the large Fleurcup wouldn't be a little more comfortable because it's squishier. Sometimes on my worst days when things are extra sensitive and BLECH down there, I can feel it more than I'd like to.

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iisla on May 26th, 2012 04:27 pm (UTC)

Thanks for your wisdom :)

Welp, I believe I started my measuring from inside my labia. I just know my fingers are really stubby so there was quite a reach involved, but I couldn't find much information about what is considered high, normal, or low so I guess thats my main issue because I have little knowledge and can't find much specific information on it haha.

And I was considering the Large LadyCup...it just seemed kinda middle of the road to me in most ways from what I've read? Not to mention that pretty turquoise color, oh me oh my! Not that I'd really even care about color.

I'll definitely look into your suggestions since I haven't heard much about Fleurcups!

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kuradi8 on May 26th, 2012 04:47 pm (UTC)

Check 'em out and then go with your gut. Get the one you wish you'd gotten if you picked something else instead.

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juliiie87 on May 27th, 2012 01:03 am (UTC)

It is my understanding that looking for your cervix while on your period is more accurate, 'cause it's when you'll wear the cup.
Anyway, short, middle or long is about how easily you can reach it, what kind of cup you can fit lengthwise, and how high it'll sit (usually (o) around your cervix). 4 inches is rather on the long side, if your cervix were to stay that way until your period, I'd definitely start looking at the bottom of the charts for a long, high capacity cup (don't you sometimes get heavy periods with PCOS ? sorry I'm just clueless). Ladycups are slicky short cute little things, they definitely wouldn't be my first choice for a high cervix. At the very least, you'll need a good grippy stem to grab onto.

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iisla on May 27th, 2012 01:26 am (UTC)

Thanks for the tip about the cervix! I guess I'll have to recheck it in a few weeks! :) I'm just so excited about this cup business it is hard to wait, haha! My periods use to be VERY very heavy, but since I decided to do away with birth control and look into natural remedies I have way less flow, and have got my period naturally for half a year! Yippieee! I mainly use regular and light tampons my entire cycle now, which would have been unheard of back then. It still gets pretty sensitive down there though!

I shall remeasure in a few weeks and if its still high check out grippy stems!

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juliiie87 on May 27th, 2012 10:29 am (UTC)

Just so you get an idea, most long cups / or shorter cups with a good long stem are a total of 7 cm including the stem. The longest cups are alomst 6 cm. Which is crucial, because you'll need to reach the base in order to break the seal. 4 inches is roughly 10 cm... so that's why I think it's long. But there's a great deal of chance your cervix will get lower around period time.

Cups help a ton with sensitivity to tampons, they don't scratch you and leave a string to be felt all day... but for extra sensitive bits, look for the softer cups ! :)

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iisla on May 28th, 2012 05:19 pm (UTC)

Thank you for your wealth of knowledge! The conversion of units really helps everything make sense in my head. I guess I should have thought about doing that myself! I also found a picture of cups compared to OB tampons which is what I use so I feel like I can make a more informed decision. I really want to get away from tampons because of how raw they make everything feel! :s Rather unpleasant, I really hope this cup business works out!

Thank you thank you thank you! :)

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pandybearz on May 27th, 2012 02:39 pm (UTC)

I understand your confusion completely. I was at this same stage about a year ago and got so overwhelmed I dropped the idea for a while. But I wasnt getting enough periods on BC to justify one anyways. I have PCOS too and from what Ive read soft squishy cups are nice for that, but I can't vouch because Im not on a cup yet either ^^; I have recently been reading a ton of pregnancy material and all of that says your cervix typically goes up higher at ovulation, so Id bet it will come back down by the time your period arrives...at least a little. It's good to hear your PCOS is impoving on a menstrual scale, you give me hope! I've gotten a natural on time period for four months so far and am crossing my fingees for more! Good luck and let me know what you choose!

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iisla on May 28th, 2012 05:24 pm (UTC)

Thanks so much for your post, it makes me feel less alone in the world of PCOS! I'm thankfully at a point where a cup will save me money and am glad! I just also hope it will save me pain too. Good luck on your search for a cup, I hope you can find one soon too, assuming you are still looking for one.

I think I am going to go with a Fluercup ... maybe. They seem to be high on the list of squishiness and hold a lot just incase I get those bad flow days. And they are prettily colored :)

Now to wait to figure out how low my cervix is going to go!

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juliiie87 on May 29th, 2012 08:54 pm (UTC)

Fleurcups sound amazing to me. Softr, yet easy to tpop open, good capacity, especially the large one ! The only "con" I can possibly see with it is the grip rings are rather fierce. But people have sanded them off before, so no biggie. If the cup rides high, you won't even feel them. But yeah, wait 'til you know the actual measurements. ;)

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