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25 May 2012 @ 10:51 pm
Hi! I am a 16 year old virgin, and I just figured I have a septate hymen (separated in two "holes"). I just bought a LadyCup, size small, and I haven't tried it yet. I'm really scared it will be very painful if I insert the LadyCup, and even more scared I won't get it out! 

I can't get two fingers inside my hymen (can get one in) but my friend, who also have a septate hymen, can get two fingers inside. She says that before she couldn't either fit two fingers into one of the holes, but she did a little stretching, and now she can almost fit three fingers inside. 
Is the septate hymen going to be a problem for any of us? I can use a tampon, but sometimes it's a little hard to get out, because of the hymen "string" in the middle, Is that going to be a problem when using a LadyCup? Is it possible to break this hymen, just like other types of hymens, without surgery or sex? (or at least expand one of the holes?)

I really hope someone can help me, both me and my friend are getting a little nervous about this :P
Current Mood: nervousnervous
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 25th, 2012 09:14 pm (UTC)
Hi !
First of all, have you seen this post http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/1243131.html#comments ? It's full of useful tips for virgins.

I had that same thing happen to me with tampons back when I was a virgin. Usually I just pushed the string of flesh aside with my fingers. Then I lost my virginity without any major pain or problem, before I started using cups, so I can't really help with that.

From what I've heard, stretching does help over time, and there are many virgins here who are using cups successfully. So does water-based lube, for stretching and insertion. And the key thing is to stay relaxed, because tension is actually the first cause of pain in that area. So don't rush into this, take your time and get to know your body with your fingers first. No pressure ! Then it won't be so scary. And when the time comes when you feel confident wearing your cup, try inserting lying on your back, it worked wonders for me in terms of keeping my vag relaxed.

Good luck to you both !

Edited at 2012-05-25 09:19 pm (UTC)
hatchabatcha on May 26th, 2012 09:42 am (UTC)
Thank you so much! This was really helpful :) I will try to take my time, and also try the lying on my back-method you suggested.

Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on May 25th, 2012 10:22 pm (UTC)
stretching helps a lot, yes. and there are very few cases where minor surgery is needed, afaiu mostly with a completely imperforate hymen rather than septate like yours.

to me the biggest problem about your situation is that this limits your self-exploration. at least you don't mention your cervix. the ladycup is tiny but for a high cervix this would not be a good thing. hopefully it fits you fine though!

also, you can fold your cup for removal, into a vague C-fold or punchdown. though i can't imagine getting a cup many times past a septate hymen without eventually breaking it.
hatchabatcha on May 26th, 2012 09:46 am (UTC)
Yeah, I think my cervix is low, because I can reach it with my fingers when not on my period. (at least I think it's the cervix) :)
Thank you for this, I really needed to know that I dont necesarily need a surgery to break it!! :D
I will try to fold it for removal, thank you so much!!!